Ginger Beer Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 And yea, I agree with the people who say that you weren't joking. I remember dating a guy once who said he was joking to try to take back everything he asked me that he thought I'd say no to. Examples: Him: Let's hold hands . . . . . just joking. Me: *grabs his hand* No, it's fine and I know you were not joking. Him: Yea, you're right. Him: *laughter* I paid for your dinner, so now that means its time to go back to my place and have sex. Me: *glares* Him: I WAS JOKING. Him: Hahaha. It's the end of the night, we should kiss. *second thoughts* Wait, I was joking. Me: No, I had a good time. I agree. Him: *kisses me* LOL. He kept doing that with things to try to cover it up. It was ridiculous and unconvincing. I think you meant it, but now that you got the answer you wanted, you are having second thoughts and think that pretending you were joking can fix the whole thing when it actually can lead to you destroying the relationship. The way to keep this guy is to not make him feel miserable for having feelings for you. That's how you get rid of him. He'll find someone else who can take his feelings and reciprocate them back. :laugh: This made me giggle.
Star Gazer Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Some people are just not comfortable with being openly affectionate, if ES is one of them all the more terrible why she would joke about it. She said it's so huge of a deal she's never said it to anyone. So yeah, pretty terrible to joke about it...pretty horrible to make him think that's how she feels when she doesn't.
zengirl Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Personally I don't think the difference between "I'm in love with you" and "I love you" has anything to do with copping out or jerking people around. The issue with "I'm in love with you" is that it's an ambiguous statement, because some people interpret it as the state of a crush/infatuation and others associate it with "I love you". While the linguistics are fascinating, I won't comment on that, as y'all did that while I was gone. FTR, I was commenting on the way the difference is used (i.e. "I love you, but I'm not in love with you") when I mentioned jerking people around. In terms of it being a cop out. . . I just kind of think people get crazy about ILY, adding all these layers to it, when really, it's a simple thing. Some people think the verb/love is more important and some people think the noun/in love is more important --- and, really, people use it to distinguish things weirdly. I agree that many mix in what's really infatuation and that probably makes it an even mushier bowl of weirdness.
westernxer Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 (edited) I have just sent him a message not to overdo it and to stop if he is feeling sick. He responded with "I am going to finish it for you my darling" AGH. I'm cracking up right now, mostly because I'm glad it's him and not me. LOL Edited April 17, 2011 by westernxer
lino Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Lol what an eternally ridiculous problem to have. Facebook truly does mess with people's lives. It's baffling how much some girls analyze, re-analyze and over-analyze literally everything. I am taking note of this big time. Drowning in a glass of water. Poor bloke. I hope he realises what crap he's in for before he invests himself too much.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 He finished the race and with good time too It actually impressed me (didn't think it would) - but it made me respect him more. We went out to eat after with his brother and few of his friends. He called his parents (who live in another state). I overheard a part of conversation where he said: "Mum, Eternal Sunshine came to watch me! She saw me cross the finish line!" I thought it was really sweet
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 I actually thought of StarGazer today. My bf LOVES to ski and is extremely fit and active all around. He plays a number of team sports and goes to the gym/runs regularly. He has also recently started attending latin dancing classes with me. Compared to him, I am completely inactive lol It just reminded me of that other thread about the inactive guy....Weirdly, as inactive as I am, I want to change and am now inspired to do so. I don't have much respect for lazy/couch potato men.
Anxiety Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 I'm not sure she's upset that she said "I love you", just that she said it FIRST. This seems to be common in women I've known, they don't want to say it until the man says it first....like its some sort of game.
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