kittykatz27 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 So, I was friends with benefits with this guy for 5 years and I finally told him in February to either date me or end it. He said he didn't want a relationship and that we were over. I went back to school and started moving on (not with anyone, I just started mending wounds). This past week he came up for the annual alumni weekend for our college radio station. During this time he came up to me told me how wrong he was, that he wants to be with me, and that he is miserable without me. I told him no and that we weren't right for each other and how I don't trust that it would work out. He was very persistent and it got to the point where I told him I would think about it and get back to him. I'm really torn on this because he didn't treat me well during the 5 years and why should I believe that he changed. I don't think we would last very long because of everything and that my family and close friends are not very fond of him for what he put me through. On the other hand, I feel terrible and want to give him another chance. Part of me is saying, "what if" and to see where it goes and that what if this is my chance at being with someone. Please help I'm so confused and torn.
Hules Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 He was FWB for 5 years and didn't like you cramping his style by asking for a relationship. Something tells me he doesn't regret so much his actions, more he regrets/misses the loss of NSA sex. You said he didn't treat you very well during that time. I think you know deep down you honestly deserve better than that. Try not to feel bad, remember he rejected you. You owe him nothing. The fact he has been persistent after you have straight out told him no. To me that shows he does not respect your wishes. I would honestly suggest cutting all communication with this guy. Focus on yourself and do things that make you happy. I know its hard especially when you are worried you will never meet someone else. I have the same worries sometimes but I have come to the realisation that I don't need someone in my life to be happy, I create my own happiness and I would prefer to be alone than with someone who treats me badly. Wish you luck and hope this helps, even a little.
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