alexlakeman Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Ok, odd question.. In the last month or so I've given up a couple of opportunities for first date sex b/c of my laziness for condoms, have to worry about oral, std's....etc.. Do you women automatically expect oral when you just meet a guy? I mean, no condom is going to protect body fluids when I'm eating her out, lol... I have no problem doing that when "dating" someone, but not so soon... It's almost like 50% of the sexual encounter is down the drain with no oral
veggirl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Do you expect oral if you just met someone, alexlakeman? If I am having sex w/ someone I've very recently met, I don't expect or even really want oral.
somedude81 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Giving oral to a girl on the fist date? Hell no. Do a google image search for oral herpes. Why the rush to have first date sex anyways?
angelboots Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 (edited) I wouldn't be disappointed if a guy didn't go there on the first attempt but then i always have low expectations first time round, it takes a little bit for a person to lose all inhibitions.. but I put it to you like this, do you like it when a girl takes control and gives you head first time in the sack? When a guy does it straight up a girl thinks "wow this guy is gooood :)" if he doesn't first time around we think ok he didn't but that's ok, third time in and if its not happening then its disappointing... I usually bite the bullet first time round and go down, and i tell myself its a good chance to "see" if there is something not right going on lol first date? hell no though no sex first date n if a girl offered i would definately be on the watch for "issues" Edited April 12, 2011 by angelboots
acrossthemiles1 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Hmm. Interesting question. I don't expect it, no - and I'm a big fan. However, at a certain point, if I've been with the guy for a bit...I've actually gotten really annoyed when I specifically asked for it, and he was like "Oh no, I'm not comfortable going there yet." Wait, but you're comfortable doing me in like ten different positions while pulling my hair? I'm confused. ...Sorry, probably TMI lol but it really struck me as strange and I definitely stopped seeing the guy after that. Call me shallow.
AzaleaBelle Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 For me, oral sex - either giving or receiving - is something I reserve for committed relationships. I don't expect it immediately because I wouldn't be willing to give it right off the bat. There is something about the mouth / genitalia combo that is more intimate than just plain bumping uglies.
Author alexlakeman Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 Well, it's never been a problem in the past, as I am typically in LTR, but in the last ..hmmm, 6 months(?) or so, I haven't really found anyone worth an investment of a LTR and I don't want to date a specific woman "until the next best thing comes along"... so there has been sex here and there, but definitely no oral on my part.. Have I received oral? Yes.. I haven't asked for it all the time, but I won't say no.. again, I haven't gone down on them anyway.. I just plan going on this dating mode for a while longer as I search for a LTR candidate.. Once I am exclusive with someone I am the one that brings it up, "let's get a full std"... full meaning herpes 1 and 2, etc... I get checked every 6 months anyway, just as a CYA...
thatdog Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Don't think I would ever do it the first time regardless if it was first date or 20th. I have dated so many girls with insecurities that have either actively rejected or been obviously uncomfortable with me going down on them at first that it seems like a bad idea to even try until you get to know her and can feel that she is more comfortable with you. On the other hand i don't think I've ever heard of a guy refusing a BJ
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