chelle21689 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for 8 weeks now and we talk every night on average an hour and half on the phone. We see each other once or twice on the weekends. We hang out in groups usually but a few times when we are by ourselves (particularly in a night setting) we have so much fun being more touchy and flirty. He makes me laugh a lot, we have same values, and both like doing active things...we like the same music. There's just one problem...I always worry what we're going to talk about because he isn't a conversationalist. He tries...but he sucks at it. Don't get me wrong, sometimes we can talk easily on the phone but he sucks at explaining stories and elaborating his view point. He even admitted that it's hard for him to explain. Him not being a good "talker" makes it hard to have an easy conversation I must admit. Apparently he really likes talking to me. I like him, I like talking to him but I'm not much of a leader in discussions and I have to lead more with him. I'm more of a listener. We're both kinda quiet people but yet we talk on the phone every night.
zakfar Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I think you should not take this 'Talking thing' too seriously. I know a couple, though married now, they lived in different countries for 3 years, and all they did was talking over the phone for 6+ hours everyday. Surprisingly, both of them had the same problem as you are saying, none of them could express good. They only had phones on there ears, and most of the time, they did not say anything. They even slept with the phones with their ears. First of all, you should not even think that he 'Sucks' in talking if you like him, and want him to talk more. You should push him more to talk, and try to understand him. Think it from this perspective. "He doesn't suck at talking... maybe I suck at listening... and understanding him." I know this is a bad statement, but thinking like this can help you. Other thing, it's not necessary to talk more and more if you enjoy someone's company. As I said, you enjoy the company. You know he's on the other side of the phone, and try to enjoy the moment.
welikeincrowds Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I know a couple, though married now, they lived in different countries for 3 years, and all they did was talking over the phone for 6+ hours everyday. Surprisingly, both of them had the same problem as you are saying, none of them could express good. They only had phones on there ears, and most of the time, they did not say anything. They even slept with the phones with their ears. I have to say, this is the cutest story I've read in a long time. I think I can feel my heart starting to get lukewarm.
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