Disillusioned Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Why does everyone on LS avoid discussing old age? Are we that terrified of growing old???
zengirl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I didn't know it was taboo. At 26, I don't think about old age all that much, except perhaps in terms of my 401K on occasion. What discussions would you expect to find? How have people avoided it?
runner Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 i thought gerontology was scientific ? kidding ...i suppose it's only 'taboo' in places like the hollywood hills or san tropez- where the ageing process simply doesn't exist due to plastic surgery and botox
runner Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 oh and if you want "taboo" try subjects relating to death and dying. oh wait......
D-Lish Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 It does get discussed, usually in the form of one gender telling the other gender that after 30 they are over the hill, lol.
threebyfate Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Aging and death are eventualities. What's disturbing is the view that aging is so terrible. As long as quality of life remains reasonable, why should it matter if people age? IMO, people can be attractive or not attractive at any age. Both my parents are still hotties in their sixties!
Cee Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I don't think there's enough of a critical mass of people on LS in their 40s, 50s and 60s to start lively conversations. Although I wish there were. I'm having all sort of crises about my age. Peri-menopause is around the corner and my dad died at a young age. So I often reflect that I may only have 10-15 years on this earth, which makes me sad. My life has never been better and I hope to live a good, long time. I've started lurking on midlifebachelor.com. I'm surprised at the candor and the supportiveness in the community. Being a woman, I prefer to stay mum. It's a good place to be a fly on the wall among adults my age.
D-Lish Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Aging and death are eventualities. What's disturbing is the view that aging is so terrible. As long as quality of life remains reasonable, why should it matter if people age? IMO, people can be attractive or not attractive at any age. Both my parents are still hotties in their sixties! I get really pissy with the threads where men chime in and tell a woman over 30 that they are past their prime. They ususally end up saying as long as a man is sucessful, they can have their pick of the litter- but if you're a woman over 30 your dating life is done! My parent aren't very hot tbf, lol:lmao: But they like one another a whole lot.
allina Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Are we that terrified of growing old??? Yup, I am. I've posted about having a mini age freakout every year around my birthday for the past 3 years
zengirl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I get really pissy with the threads where men chime in and tell a woman over 30 that they are past their prime. They ususally end up saying as long as a man is sucessful, they can have their pick of the litter- but if you're a woman over 30 your dating life is done! My parent aren't very hot tbf, lol:lmao: But they like one another a whole lot. My mother was over 30 with a kid (me) when she met the love of her life (my step-father, a few years her junior, but not many, and successful too). My aunt just got married to a wonderful, successful man (he's 47), and she turned 51 this year. I think those fellows are just silly.
Author Disillusioned Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 Aging and death are eventualities. What's disturbing is the view that aging is so terrible. As long as quality of life remains reasonable, why should it matter if people age? IMO, people can be attractive or not attractive at any age. Both my parents are still hotties in their sixties! My point exactly. In fact, if you could go to a Synergy meeting, you'd find plenty of 50-70 yo women who are actively trying to get the make on the few older men who are still on the market. Who knows, I guess these are the same women who once played HTG but ended up not gotten...
DreamerGirl27 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 At 26, I feel pretty young, but I have the maturity level of a 46 year old. Sucks when you're stuck with 20something year old babies...ahem...I mean men... who are only out for a quick lay.
threebyfate Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I get really pissy with the threads where men chime in and tell a woman over 30 that they are past their prime. They ususally end up saying as long as a man is sucessful, they can have their pick of the litter- but if you're a woman over 30 your dating life is done! My parent aren't very hot tbf, lol:lmao: But they like one another a whole lot.That's 'cause blatant untruths are annoying and can't be made the truth through repetition. You and I have both lived the dating life after 30 and had no problems garnering attention. Glad to hear that they like each other a lot!
threebyfate Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 My point exactly. In fact, if you could go to a Synergy meeting, you'd find plenty of 50-70 yo women who are actively trying to get the make on the few older men who are still on the market. Who knows, I guess these are the same women who once played HTG but ended up not gotten... Oh good lord, ever figured out that men die earlier or go through mid life crisis?
Art_Critic Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 (edited) Why does everyone on LS avoid discussing old age? Are we that terrified of growing old??? Well Disillusioned.. just how old are you ? I'm not afraid of growing old.. looking forward to it actually.. I'm better looking today than I was 10-15 years ago and I have a whole lot more money.. About the only bitch I have about old age is my body falling apart.. my knees hurt.. eyes now need readers and the rest of my body is just achy.. Oh well... I had a thread about my bitch of getting older around here a while back ago... .. a coping log Edited April 12, 2011 by Art_Critic
Author Disillusioned Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 Oh good lord, ever figured out that men die earlier or go through mid life crisis? Hmm, gee, I can't imagine why.
threebyfate Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Hmm, gee, I can't imagine why. Based on observations on LS, if these men were anything like the ones on this site, their wives probably booted them out the door or shot them through the head, for whining about women for the 4 billionth time!
welikeincrowds Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I think part of it is a desire to remain anonymous. Disclosing age colors arguments in a manner that (I believe) gets in the way of determining whether or not the message is worth anything. But you can usually tell how old people are by their posts anyway.
Ms. Joolie Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I don't think the folks here are avoiding talking about old age. I think they're already tending to forget.
Author Disillusioned Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 People are absolutely terrified of death. Whenever I sit down and really contemplate it, so am I. Not me! For me, dying would be a relief. No more loneliness or feeling shunned.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 The getting older and dying thing scares the crap out of me. I have an underlying belief that life gets worse as you get older, so now I think someone is going to either nuke my feet or something awful will happen.
MissJoness Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I don't like reading posts from men that I will be replaceable once I turn 30.
D-Lish Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I don't like reading posts from men that I will be replaceable once I turn 30. Well all I can tell you is that I am 41, and i still get hit on by younger and older dudes. I take really good care of myself, as everyone should. Getting old sucks though.
OliveOyl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 My life circumstances are quite different, but actually I feel very similar to how I did twenty years ago. Except less angst. Really, in getting older, things don't change as much as people think. I don't think getting old sucks at all. I had all these issues about turning 50, and then once I did it was like... what's the big deal? Let's face it, a lot of the people posting here in their 20s and 30s could be back at LS again in twenty years, as they go through first marriages, etc. We will all pass through our 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond (hopefully -- the alternative is not so great.... )
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