crushedandconfused Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 My ex dumped me a few months ago because he told me he wanted to focus on getting his masters degree and he felt like he didn't have enough time to devote to me. We were together over a year. I was devastated and told him we could work things out but he was really under a lot of stress and so we just ended things. We kept in touch in the beginning but then I decided to go no contact thinking it might help in getting him back. Now I found he is in a relationship with a woman who he met on a vacation. She lives across the country. His friends told me she acts just like me. She likes the same music as me and has all of the same interests as me. They are now in a long distance relationship for a month. He met her about a month after I went no contact with him. My ex has made sure I found out about her through mutual friends. They tell me the only difference between us is that she lives across the country. Could he be on the rebound? I do still have feelings for him but now that he has moved on I feel like any hope we had of getting back together is over. Why would he choose someone similar to me when he told me that he was too stressed to be together but he's not too stressed now to be in a LDR? I'm devastated.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 My ex dumped me a few months ago because he told me he wanted to focus on getting his masters degree and he felt like he didn't have enough time to devote to me. We were together over a year. I was devastated and told him we could work things out but he was really under a lot of stress and so we just ended things. We kept in touch in the beginning but then I decided to go no contact thinking it might help in getting him back. Now I found he is in a relationship with a woman who he met on a vacation. She lives across the country. His friends told me she acts just like me. She likes the same music as me and has all of the same interests as me. They are now in a long distance relationship for a month. He met her about a month after I went no contact with him. My ex has made sure I found out about her through mutual friends. They tell me the only difference between us is that she lives across the country. Could he be on the rebound? I do still have feelings for him but now that he has moved on I feel like any hope we had of getting back together is over. Why would he choose someone similar to me when he told me that he was too stressed to be together but he's not too stressed now to be in a LDR? I'm devastated. he is on the rebound even if it's LDR... that way he can focus on his studies and have some comfort there but from far away... i bet it wont last... im pretty sure it won't
nana841121 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Let me just say that there are two sides to every story. i am not sure which side you are at. You have your own thoughts and explanations about his behaviors, but in my eyes, he is a twisted man. If he is stressed out from his pursuit of master degree, he should cut himself out from any kind of romantic relationship and focus on study. if he really loves you , he won't give you mixed message. He would cool himself down and clear his mind and win you back. everything is clear to the irrelevant third party , you are confused and exhausted by thinking back and forth about it. because your emotions got you
Fufu Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I actually don't believe it is rebound relationship. When he told you he had no time to devote to you because of his study, this is an excuse. (My personal opinion) If this man wants you he will wants you, he will have actions to prove to you he wants to be with you. For now, start NC if you have not. If you are in NC, maintain it.
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