downinthedumps Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 we had a big fight and I ended up having a melt down over the last couple of weekends. We have resolved it but things dont quite seem the same, how long does it take to get back to normal after a fight and what are some tips? we are in a LDR which makes it harder but see each other on weekends. I realised ive been putting way too much focus on him and have been insecure and a bit emotional too which wouldnt have helped and need to feel better about myself. The distance has been getting harder for me to cope with as time has gone on (we've been together 10 months and im meant to be moving to his city as soon as I have a job). Hes also been really busy and stressed at work too and feel like ive lost him a bit and sometimes sounds distracted when I talk to him at work (he always rings me) I have started to do a few more things for me and taken up a new hobby so I feel better about myself and backed off him a bit. What else can I do to get things back? Im freaking out a bit that he isnt as interested
notuneak Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 If you have resolved the problem things should get better. However did you apologize for getting too heated?
Author downinthedumps Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 Hi there, thanks for that and yes I did, a few lessons learnt from this one thats for sure! Its been a couple of days already, so fingers crossed
notuneak Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Hang in there. Part of being in a relationship is managing conflict. Anyone who says they never argue is either a doormat or not telling their partner the truth. The trick is learning from each other.
zakfar Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 (edited) If you had a big fight, then just resolving it can't finish the whole problem suddenly. It will indeed take some time to bring the things back, depending on the type of problem that caused the fight, and the things that happened during the fight. One thing I will recommend. Instead of trying to 'Push' him to get back as he was earlier, try to make him forget all that. It means, don't talk to him about that fight, and any discussion related with that, completely avoid that. Don't keep apologizing him even if you were wrong and did the mistake. You have apologized and that's it. Now, talk normal and act as nothing happened. He will forget that incident, and soon things will get back to normal. In fact, quicker he forgets that, quicker the situation will get normal. I hope it helps. Zakfar. Edited April 12, 2011 by zakfar
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