KandiceHanson Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 So for a quick update, as most of you have seen on the countdown thread, my SO and I have made our LDR a R! The feeling is so amazing and incredible, I can't wait for all of you to experience this feeling when your LDR's come to an end. I guess to elaborate, I see many times how a lot of you are extremely intimidated by moving/relocating to be with your SO...and in my opinion, if you're ever questioning yourself if it's worth it, take the risk. I took it and I am so extremely happy with the outcome. Before my SO and I decided to move, I was quite hesitant if this was going to be worth the sacrifice I'd be making...But it ended so greatly. I love waking up each and every morning to see my baby right next to me and watching movies togethor, cuddling, etc. and knowing that it will never end with a tearful airport trip. It's incredible, I can't even describe it. My feelings for him have intensified about 150% just the last few days he's been here and that is how I know this has got to be one of my best gut decisions I have made in awhile. To relate to aerogurl (I think she was the user. I saw her thread about leaving where she lived to move to Canada with her SO) It's definately worth it. Now don't get me wrong, I had VERY cold feet, so if the feeling ever creeps up, don't panic. I had it, but the minute I realized that I could cuddle with my SO and never have to worry about ever saying goodbye again...was totally worth it. I guess what I am trying to say in this scrambled mess is that this website has been nothing but a wonderful support system to me. I have read/posted/shared a lot on these LDR threads and I couldn't have gone through this (truthfully) painful situation without you guys Ya'll have really kept my chin high when I was down and if any of you guys haven't checked already, join the countdown thread. It really is one of the only threads that kept me happy about my upcoming visits! So thanks a ton and I will definitely be coming back to support all of you guys until your LDR's end and to give updates. But for now, keep your chin up and believe me when I say that my three year LDR wait was so worth this moment and the rest to come! I'm so in love :love: I really feel that my LDR made me fall in love so much quicker and kept our bond immensely strong. Once you go through the hardships of being away from your SO and being separated for years, you feel like you can overcome anything now Tata, for now And know that this seperation is only temporary It's making you that much stronger.
wild_urge Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I'm really happy for you and I want to thank you for posting ! You know helpless feeling, we've all had, all the sadness, all the loneliness, so it's great to know that eventually, if we are strong enough, things will work out for the best! Enjoy your time together, you deserve it ! And we'll be please to hear from you whenever you have some free time to share your joy!
LittleTiger Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I'm really happy for you Kandice! I love stories with a happy ending. One thing I feel compelled to say (without wanting to rain on your parade) is that, this isn't quite the end of your LDR journey. If I've understood correctly, he's staying with you for a few months and then you're moving out to where's he's from permanently? If so, then you haven't actually taken that leap yet. It's a sort of 'living together until you get married' situation - you're not fully committed until you've said your vows ie until you fly back with him for good! As you're obviously very happy together, I am sure it will all work out just as you imagine once you're settled into your new life, but do be prepared for more nerves before you get there. Let us know how the move goes and keep us posted. It's always good to hear from people like Rollercoasterr and Elswyth who have clearly made a success of their relationships IRL. It doesn't seem to have worked out so well for Ashbash, of course, but I think there are lessons to be learnt from her story too. Well done for sticking it out so long and good luck for the future! I hope you'll be very happy together. :love:
hoping2heal Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I love happy endings I could not agree more that working through things make you stronger as a couple. We have dealt with issues that were tough and would probably break most couples who are geographically close, let alone having to deal with these at a distance, and this was when things were pretty new no less. We love eachother so much and we both know and have proven how comitted to us that we are . Those are things we couldn't have really known the depths of without having to live it. We are thoughtful of one another and we make things easy on ourselves as well as eachother. We don't do anything that would make the other jealous/feel insecure/hurt etc. We have fun and lead productive lives while seperated at our respective areas. LDR's are hard but really, I feel greatful for mine because it has taught us to put a high value on being together and all of the challenges have brought us so close and bonded us so very tightly
Author KandiceHanson Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 Yes, yes. I guess what I was meaning when I said our LDR is over, was that I finally don't ever have to say goodbye to him again. Where he goes, I go. And we haven't EXACTLY decided where we are going to permanently stay. I guess this Summer is to show him that it'd be nice to stay here, or we could go back to where he is from if he'd like. And yes, there are so many obstacles that I feel my SO and I have overcome that IRL couples struggle with. For the fact that, if my SO ever had to leave on a trip/vacation it'd be a blessing. I can do three years, I am PRETTY sure I can do a week and a half Funny. Probably the main obstacle I can say has made our relationship and our personal selves, stronger. But, this relationship definately worked out perfectly. Even with the three year distance and one nasty breakup/get back together, we made it through. Most definately a dream come true in my book
aerogurl87 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Another happy ending, I love it! And yeah I had cold feet and LOTS of doubts before I moved also, but it was definitely worth it in the end like you said. Waking up to your SO every morning and never having to say goodbye is one of the best feelings in the world. The work and sacrifice of being in a LDR is definitely worth it in the end.
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