Azaroth Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 I ended a relationship with a girl who i was dating "no title", Just b/c i wanted something serious and she did not... I tried to tell myself that if i wait she will eventually change her mind.. but in the mean time i am going on an emotional rollarcoaster.. I bring up 3 times in 6 months about us being serious... as bf-gf and she flips out each time and over reacts.. she keeps saying she is not ready for a relationship and just got out of a long one... well the third time i had vaild reasons ot ask where it was going.. she said if she has sex with someone she is exclusive we started hanging out 3+ times a week she said she wasn't hooking up with anyone else and she said 2 month prior we will will eventually go out, just not at the moment.... just give it a little while when we get into school well a coulpe weeks went by, and we both are trying to get away from each other, i go she comes to me she goes i go to her... we both care for each other i see that thursday night i find she meet a guy while she was on spring break with, and he was going to fly up and stay the night and fly back the next day - after all this fighitng between us.. "he was the guy that i think ruined it, but maybe not so - i think it's what she wanted to be free and have options" she also had another guy stay the night well to make things short.. I told her i dont want anything, and the next day she comes crying to me saying she loves me and wants the same thing i want .... later i find out from her roommate that she made it seem i gave her an ultimatium i said i want something serious you do not i can't keep doing this any longer... ne way.. i told her today after the weekend i still stand firm with what i said... she tried to pretend it never happened well now she is saying to her roommate, that oh now the drama is gone, and telling her mom personal stuff that i told her ---- i suffered from depression problems in High School many years ago... and once in a while when i go a little nuts i go back and see the doc. to work things out... why would she be trash talking me? i thought she said she loved me? am i doing the right thing? please comments! Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Ahh...that old thing. I reckon this girl is manipulating you. She was dead set on you being another loser she could string along for friendship, security, etc. But the moment you put your foot down and exerted your individuality, she comes running crying how she loves you and all that. She did not know what she wanted from you, except that subconsciously it was nice and comfortable being with you. Yet she consciously tried to intellectualise her feelings for you as being "not a serious thing". Yet, when you weren't there anymore, she found this void in her life. Perhaps, she has, truely and sincerely, realised that she cares deeply for you and that she wants you in her life, but then you have to make her own up to that and accept the responsibility towards you that that entails. Link to post Share on other sites
Azaroth Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Well that's what i hope would be the reason why, she did all that... I think i am the comfort she needs, but not the one she loves.... Link to post Share on other sites
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