ChocCheesecake Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Had to deal with him today for work. And I'm ok. A little shaken maybe. He kept asking me how I've been, maybe 3 times. He was kind of awkward. I was professional and cordial, told him I was fine. I was pleased with how I handled myself- not overly friendly, not seeming angry. I've stuck with what I said, which is that I have made no contact with him, and I'm proud of myself. I'm better than I was, but still have the pit in the stomach from today. It's gonna get better, I know. Feels good to have typed this out.
20Seconds Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Had to deal with him today for work. And I'm ok. A little shaken maybe. He kept asking me how I've been, maybe 3 times. He was kind of awkward. I was professional and cordial, told him I was fine. I was pleased with how I handled myself- not overly friendly, not seeming angry. I've stuck with what I said, which is that I have made no contact with him, and I'm proud of myself. I'm better than I was, but still have the pit in the stomach from today. It's gonna get better, I know. Feels good to have typed this out. Well done Do you have to see him often through work? I have to work with MM - don't see him every day but our paths cross quite a bit. I am finding it very hard. Good for you that you are maintaining NC.
DCMNW Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I'm in the same boat. We dont work directly with each other, but we work on the same floor and cross paths occasionally. It is so painful to see him. I felt like I was starting to move on and then I saw him today and it brought all the pain back. Its like tearing open the wound and then starting from scratch again to pull myself together. Totally understand the pit in your stomach feeling. Wish I could fast forward to the point where it doesnt even phase me when I see him. Good for you though that you handled yourself so well!
fooled once Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Had to deal with him today for work. And I'm ok. A little shaken maybe. He kept asking me how I've been, maybe 3 times. He was kind of awkward. I was professional and cordial, told him I was fine. I was pleased with how I handled myself- not overly friendly, not seeming angry. I've stuck with what I said, which is that I have made no contact with him, and I'm proud of myself. I'm better than I was, but still have the pit in the stomach from today. It's gonna get better, I know. Feels good to have typed this out. I can say, your post sounds a lot better mentally than I think you have been doing prior to seeing him. You seem to realize that life IS going to go on for you and you are going to be fine, once you get past this hurt. I am glad you handled yourself so well!! BE very proud of yourself!!! One day at a time!! :bunny:
Flabbergaster Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 We are so proud! I do not envy those of you who see the xAP again, due to work. That would be...so hard for me. This was a major step. Seriously...I think if i saw her in public...that would be hard.
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