Sweet_T Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 (edited) :oHi! Im new to this, but I didn't know what else to do! So...I've been dating this guy for a little over 5 yrs and we've done a lot of backing forth...alot. I was pregnant for him 2 yrs ago and he treated me like ****, but hte minute I really backed off he moved in and for the last 2 yrs we've been living together. He moved out 2 months ago and moved back home to his mother's basement. I then caught him a wk after he left at his ex's house (whom he has a teenage daughter with). I called him, then he lied about where he was. I then got out of my car and rang the bell. They didn't respond, although I could see them there in the kitchen. He then came up to the door then just turned and I banged on the glass (just once) and then left. Then started the back to back phone calls. He first told me that there was nothing like that btwn them, but he then later on told me that they had decided to try to work things out, but he wanted to keep me too! And that we would just see what happened. I couldn't agree to it, but I kept sleeping with him and calling him as if we were still together. A couple wks later, we got into an arguement and I went through his emails and then went to his house. Upon entering I saw a picture of his ex on his desk and I FLIPPED! I broke her pic, a pic of his daughter and a cup that his daughter gave him when she was 5-6yrs old. We then got into a huge fight and then his mother and his sister walked in. Now they hate me, because they'd prefer for him to be with his ex. His mother told me that "she was the one she loved and thats his baby's mother so it could never be cheating". Two days later, he called me and asked me for his email password, then told me we were done. Then he called me 2hrs later on Oovoo, and told me to act like I din't see him when I saw him. And then the next day he called me a million times just to tell me that we were done. The the next night he came and slept with me. Ever since then things have been CRAZY! Constant arguing!!!!! He told me that I dont give him a chance to miss me because I call him so much, but what am I supposed to do? Today he told me never to call him again, because after me breaking into his email, breaking stuff at his house and calling him a MILLION times he knows he could never deal with someone like me. I know I need to back off, but honestly I need some HELP!!!!! Edited April 11, 2011 by Sweet_T
zakfar Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Sorry to say this, but both of you are just doing it bad. I can understand how you felt with his getting back to his ex, but you shouldn't have broken the picture and stuff of his daughter. You have created a serious trouble with making one side of his mind entirely against you. Now even if he loves you, and might have thought about working out a relationship with you, half of his mind would hate you for being so 'Pushy' for him. When someone has to decide between a sexual partner and kids, the decision is very very difficult to make. Now, he gets back to you, and then leaves you. Maybe he loves you. But as I said, he is facing trouble because of all this mess. I believe it's better if you can split with him. Because it will be very difficult to get him truly for yourself. As he has a child with you too, he is confused himself with this whole scenario. Now he has two women, both with his offspring. Technically, he wants to keep relationship with both of them, which is not possible. Even if you breakup, someday he might return to you and convince you to re-initiate the relationship with him. He might have the love of the child that you have. But that will again go towards another breakup. I hope you understand the scenario. As you said, you know already backing off is the best option. I will recommend you to take your own thoughts seriously. You are ruining your own life more than his. I hope it helps. Zakfar.
Mcnulty Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 He sounds like a complete mess. leaving you, but still having sex with you, trying to make a go of it with his ex, hassling you with endless calls. The saddest thing in all of this is that there are innocent children involved. You both need to decide what to do and stick to it, for your sake and the children's. Sleeping with him was a big mistake.
Author Sweet_T Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 Thanks for the input, but we don't have children together. I was pregnant once and lost the baby due to all types of stress...
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