2seeyou Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It has been a month since I laid eyes on my ex. I lost not only her love, but my best friend as well. This nc thing is not working. I can't breathe. The breaths are more and more shallow and the pain is growing with each new day. It just reminds me of her not being with me. I have never loved a person this much in my life. We connected at all levels. I am growing tired and running out of things to ease this pain. I just don't know how much more I can take in this life without her. Can somebody help shed a new light on this. The old ones are growing dimmer and darkness is all around me. Thanks.
geegirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It has been a month since I laid eyes on my ex. I lost not only her love, but my best friend as well. This nc thing is not working. I can't breathe. The breaths are more and more shallow and the pain is growing with each new day. It just reminds me of her not being with me. I have never loved a person this much in my life. We connected at all levels. I am growing tired and running out of things to ease this pain. I just don't know how much more I can take in this life without her. Can somebody help shed a new light on this. The old ones are growing dimmer and darkness is all around me. Thanks. I don't know your full story but I will say that this is what you have to go through when you NC. Of course it reminds you of not being with her. NC means detaching. You are detoxing yourself from your ex. Like an addict, you will go through the withdrawal stage. You are in pain and you want a fix. It's no walk in the park. You will have to feel the pain and grieve. And that's the only way you will get to the other side. No way around it. But you also have to help yourself. What have you been doing with your time? Or are you sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself and obsessing about her? What is your alternative? Contacting her...then what? You have a void in your life that was once filled by her. And now you have to figure out what you need to do with that void. You can sit around and dwell and let this take over your life or you can get up and do something about it.
longterm Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I agree with geegirl. Just find something to do to take your mind off of her. Go out with your friends and find a means to make new ones. The NC is terribly tough on us all. I've gotten replies to all of my old texts I was sending. At first it was LC with no regard to the relationship. Tried to keep it cool but all it does is drive a meeting that you will still get NO satisfaction from because you may ask for it. She will have to come to you on her own. That's the way it is. There is nothing you can say or do to make this happen so may as well just move on until she comes around. The real hardship here is the unknown. The only way to put a time limit on this is on your end. It's up to you to move on. It should get easier over time. You can't be sitting there brooding. You have to find something that will keep you off this subject altogether. Later you will not be thinking about her at all, and you will be settled back into your own life.
Steven T Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 NC only gets worse before it gets better as I have found out. BUT it will get better over time. It will be tough but you must be strong and trust within yourself that you will pull through.
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