Bateman Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I just noticed the ex took down all of the pictures we had of each other off of facebook. I havent talked to her in 2 1/2 months. I don't know what this means.
Fufu Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It means nothing. The relationship is over. Even if she had kept all the pictures in her facebook and she doesn't want to come back to rebuild the relationship with you, it still doesn't mean anything.
BeginAgain Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Girls like to get rid of everything from an old relationship in order to hopefully forget it and don't like it when their current bf hasn't done the same.
betterdeal Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I just noticed the ex took down all of the pictures we had of each other off of facebook. I havent talked to her in 2 1/2 months. I don't know what this means. She's having a spring clean. Why not have one yourself?
PegNosePete Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It means you're paying far too much attention to facebook than you should be.
confused2134 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 You're getting completely un constructive responses. Think about it this way. I don't know what kind of girl your girlfriend is but typically people don't delete pictures on facebook unless it's something incriminating or they look like **** in the pictures. Personally I think the fact that 2.5 months after could mean 1 or 2 things. 1 is very unlikely. It's that she has a new guy and she's doing it because of that. Now I think that's unlikely because I can't really think of a guy feeling threatened by old pictures on facebook. 2 is that she still thinks about you and doesn't want the reminder there. That's what I think is more likely. She's trying to move on and with the in your face reminder it's not really possible. Don't over think it though. I had the same thing happen except 3 weeks after we broke up she unfollowed me on twitter and untagged all of the pictures of us together. I asked girls at school what it could mean and it's very reasonable explanation that she still thinks of you.
Author Bateman Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 Actually, I think it's all good advice and I WAS thinking the same thing confused was. But upon further inspection, I noticed that they are all still there. Bateman=retard. Still though, I had been doing great for the last 2 1/2 months and now I'm breaking down again. I want to see how she's doing. I know I shouldn't because I can't trust myself to suppress my feelings.
Beeotch Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I just noticed the ex took down all of the pictures we had of each other off of facebook. I havent talked to her in 2 1/2 months. I don't know what this means. What do you mean, you don't know what it means? You guys aren't together and you have not spoken in 2.5 months...it is past due and normal to remove pictures of an ex whom you don't speak to anymore. I don't think it has any special meaning or message besides that is a normal part of breaking up....eventually you get rid of old relics as you move forward.
YellowShark Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It means 3 things. 1) You NEED to stop using Facebook as a validation tool for yourself. 2) She is with another guy and has taken down the pics so he doesn't see them. 3) She uses Facebook as a validation tool. Best of luck.
poorguy Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It's her way of removing you from her digital life-that's what it means. Do yourself a BIG favor and drop FB all together for the time being. Facebook just prolongs the agony of a breakup. I mean breakups are hard enough but add pictures from FB on there and it creates a whole nother dynamic of pain. What you can't see or look at can't hurt you
geegirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 If you're affected by her taking photos down, how are you going to feel if you see pictures of her and another guy kissing and hugging and what not. Why put yourself through this torture. 2.5 months and you are asking what it means? That says a lot. You're still stuck and you will remain stuck if you keep toe dipping.
Author Bateman Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 OK, apparently the last few posters didn't read my next post but anyways, I think poorguy brings up another point. I actually gave up facebook for about a month and was actually doing fine without it. The problem is, EVERYONE USES FACEBOOK! I don't want to just drop off the face of the earth, so I reactivated it. But I think I'm going to deactivate it again.
geegirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 OK, apparently the last few posters didn't read my next post but anyways, I think poorguy brings up another point. I actually gave up facebook for about a month and was actually doing fine without it. The problem is, EVERYONE USES FACEBOOK! I don't want to just drop off the face of the earth, so I reactivated it. But I think I'm going to deactivate it again. Who cares if everyone uses facebook. They're not struggling through a break up and keeping connected to an ex. You are. You deactivate for now so you can get to a better place. So you can emotionally detach. You can get reconnected again on FB with your friends when you know that you are emotionally and mentally stable enough to be witness to anything that once before would have hurt you. Put yourself first and your healing first. Do what is logical and rational for your well being.
YellowShark Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 OK, apparently the last few posters didn't read my next post but anyways, I think poorguy brings up another point. I actually gave up facebook for about a month and was actually doing fine without it. The problem is, EVERYONE USES FACEBOOK! I don't want to just drop off the face of the earth, so I reactivated it. But I think I'm going to deactivate it again. Here's some tough love for ya Bateman. Do you ever wonder how the Earth functioned before Facebook was invented 7 years ago? I mean look at all the people on the Earth and ask yourself how many use Facebook? From last count Facebook has 500 million members and the Earth has over 6 billion inhabitants. You have to wonder how those 5+ billion people function without Facebook. Facebook is a fake representation of a persons life, it's a sales brochure full of generally "happy" photos and silly little useless narcissistic play-by-plays of how great their lives are. Yawn. I prefer to live a life without using Facebook as a crutch, or using it to validate myself. Seems to have worked for me and countless generations prior to Facebook's creation in 2004. I wholeheartedly suggest you deactivate it and get out into the real world. And frankly she may have dumped you, but she dumped you into a HUGE pool of eligible women!
Author Bateman Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 Haha. Ok thanks. I really just wish social networking was gone altogether. Not because of the ex, but I just think people are getting dependent on it. Some people don't.
YellowShark Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Haha. Ok thanks. I really just wish social networking was gone altogether. Not because of the ex, but I just think people are getting dependent on it. Some people don't. Social networking is ok. Using Facebook as a yardstick to validate yourself, or as a means of judging your self-worth is *VERY* unhealthy. Think about it. Your parents, and grandparents and generations of human beings survived and flourished without agonizing over Facebook photos and someone's Facebook status. It's absolutely ridiculous to give Facebook any sort of power like that. Facebook is a fake representation of a persons real life. Period. It's a sales brochure, a false front. I think if 5.5. billion people can live without being on Facebook you can too Bateman.
tearsofaclown Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 i deleted pictures that were of my ex and i a few weeks ago. why did i do this because in short it hurt to much to look at them. i could see myself smiling and him smiling back. then it got me thinking how bad he treated me. the way i seen it is its been three months and he has not been in touch. so i deleted myself from any pictures. i guess it was to help me heal and its done just that. it was not a dig at him just me saying its enough game over no more.
Ginger Beer Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Actually, I think it's all good advice and I WAS thinking the same thing confused was. But upon further inspection, I noticed that they are all still there. Bateman=retard. Still though, I had been doing great for the last 2 1/2 months and now I'm breaking down again. I want to see how she's doing. I know I shouldn't because I can't trust myself to suppress my feelings. ..................
optimistgirl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 OK, apparently the last few posters didn't read my next post but anyways, I think poorguy brings up another point. I actually gave up facebook for about a month and was actually doing fine without it. The problem is, EVERYONE USES FACEBOOK! I don't want to just drop off the face of the earth, so I reactivated it. But I think I'm going to deactivate it again. Just wondering, but why would you have to deactivate your FB page? Why not just de-friend her??? It's the easiest thing to do. You don't need to see her status updates...or her pics either. I'm sure you would be very hurt if you checked her page one day and saw pictures of her with another guy. In the long run, it does you more harm than good. Maybe when you're over her, you can friend her again...wayyyyy in the future.
PelicanPete Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 On a different note, I actually got a facebook after my ex and and I broke up. Not because I wanted to creep, but because I realized after she was gone I lost contact with most of my friends and I needed some company. I instantly blocked her and she was pissed because she still wanted to be friends and she knew I hated facebook haha. She apparently deleted all like 400 of our pictures right after the break up, because she had a new guy lined up of course. Not going to lie, I would creep her page probably once a week. But seeing all of her lovey dovey wall posts actually helped me get over her despite it hurting at first, and realized I could do a lot better. Different strokes for different folks.
Username37 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Ahhh I remember when I posted topics like this Your ex thinks of you and by deleting them, it helps her move on. You should block her and any person that can help you get info on her. Trust me, you can enjoy FB and you don't have to worry about her. Best of luck. You managed to keep 2.5 months of NC. Keep it going. I've been on it since June 2010. It's still going haha
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