Funny story about a girl I stopped talking too because of the hard to get thing

[singlelife]

So I told her it looks like we aren't going to be able to get together. This is after a few weeks of her being hard to get. So I moved on. She was like ight. But then I here that she is all upset and bad mouthing me because I hurt her feelings. I even saw one of her gf at the store and I have been cool with her for about 2 years. She totally gave me the cold shoulder and gave me a eat **** and die look. I was like wow. I laughed at all this but if the girl liked me maybe she should have came on with it. I hope women understand how silly they act. Wonder why men don't trust ya. Read this story again.

[Mrlonelyone]

lol So true.

[BeginAgain]

Maybe you could have explained it to the girl and her friend who it would have helped instead of us.

[singlelife]

lol So true.

 

 

lol funny thing is we were compatible and i still like her but there just ain't no way. if you don't know when to give in then you may want to think about leaving men alone.

[Mrlonelyone]

It's like I wrote in my last journal entry these are women who think you want them so bodyguard pursue them to the ends of the earth. Then when you don't they get all offended.

[Hules]

Yup to many girls think if they ignore me when we are dating that I will go into some sort of uncontrollable pussy lust for them. Doesn't work like that unfortunately. Most of the time I find out later on they were super offended that I stopped chasing them and didn't understand what they "did" wrong.

[singlelife]

Maybe you could have explained it to the girl and her friend who it would have helped instead of us.

 

 

lesson number 1-there ain't no helping these women. be glad the info is here for you

[BeginAgain]

Except I don't need it. They did no matter how much they won't appreciate it.

[singlelife]

Except I don't need it. They did no matter how much they won't appreciate it.

 

 

as most women don't get it. thus, why i am saying it on a public forum. when you women evolve it will change. have a good day.

[BeginAgain]

as most women don't get it. thus, why i am saying it on a public forum. when you women evolve it will change. have a good day.

I'm not a woman. I'm a man, baby! Yeah!

[Darren Taylor]

She's a piece of sh*t. I'd like to say she'll learn from this and do it again, but I highly doubt that's the case.

[melodymatters]

As what appears to be the only adult female on this thread, let me simplify things:

 

If a chick keeps making excuses to not see you she isn't "playing hard to get". She is "Not that into you".

 

If she then gets mad when you stop pursuing, she is an immature drama queen and you are better off that a relationship never started in the first place.

 

I too have been treated badly at times by crappy people. It never has made me bitter against ALL men. Thats just dumb.

[refurb]

Been there, done that.

 

I asked a girl out on a date about a month ago. She told me "no". I move on.

 

She starts showing up at events that I'm attending. A friend tells me she's staring at me the entire time. For the next few weeks she does a bunch of passive-aggressive things to get my attention.

 

It's one thing to play hard to get, it's another to tell a guy "no" and expect him to keep trying.

 

RF

[Mrlonelyone]

As what appears to be the only adult female on this thread, let me simplify things:

 

If a chick keeps making excuses to not see you she isn't "playing hard to get". She is "Not that into you".

 

Most all of us know that thanks for the reminder.

If she then gets mad when you stop pursuing, she is an immature drama queen and you are better off that a relationship never started in the first place.

True that. Some rather old otherwise mature women will do that though.

I too have been treated badly at times by crappy people. It never has made me bitter against ALL men. Thats just dumb.

 

No one here is bitter against all women. Just the ones who overdo being hard to get. Then are angry when we turnover attentions elsewhere.

 

I agree with most of this.

[melodymatters]

I appreciate your comments MrLonelyone, I've been following your threads a bit since I last posted re: your profile.

 

I guess I can't get my mind around people NOT wanting to date you, but then being upset when you move on. I was always thrilled when my unluckly in love male friends found someone to appreciate them !

 

I guess the OP just wanted to vent, which is cool, but there seemed to be a bit anti-chick sentiments that I wanted to address.

 

I was widowed a little under two years ago in a sudden accident. My PERSONAL struggle is accepting that while everyone WILL die, they won't neccesarily do it while we are madly in love and happily married ! See, it can always be worse !

[musemaj11]

People who intentionally play hard to get r usually crazy anyway.

[Mrlonelyone]

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you.

 

I guess I can't get my mind around people NOT wanting to date you, but then being upset when you move on. I was always thrilled when my unluckly in love male friends found someone to appreciate them !

 

That's why we conclude that those women did want to date us or thought they had our undivided attention. In the former case it could be an ego thing. They like the idea of someone they may not date being over the moon for them.

 

Surely some men do that too.

[BeginAgain]

If a chick keeps making excuses to not see you she isn't "playing hard to get". She is "Not that into you".

Maybe. Maybe not. It depends. If she has a supposedly hard time getting back in touch with you after you contact her then most likely she isn't into you and wants you to stop. There is always the exception she has some sort of socialization anxiety. Otherwise too many think it is apart of the game and one day unannounced we will come down from the clouds to sweep her off her feet out of the blue.

 

It doesn't really matter if she is very interested or not. If she isn't reciprocating the amount and degree of attention you give her then you need to ignore her permanently.

[melodymatters]

Maybe. Maybe not. It depends. If she has a supposedly hard time getting back in touch with you after you contact her then most likely she isn't into you and wants you to stop. There is always the exception she has some sort of socialization anxiety. Otherwise too many think it is apart of the game and one day unannounced we will come down from the clouds to sweep her off her feet out of the blue.

 

It doesn't really matter if she is very interested or not. If she isn't reciprocating the amount and degree of attention you give her then you need to ignore her permanently.

 

Exactly ! Agree 100%. Both sexes, same deal ! Anyone who ignores you but expects you to "swoop in" is obviously borderline retarded and best ignored anyways. ( I used to write and produce theatre for children and I ALWAYS changed up the stories, so cinderella wanted to be an entomologist instead of a princess and the prince liked biology and was nearsighted [ insert goofy gag glasses here] and they ended up happily ever after THAT way !) so as to NOT perpetuate those ridiculous stereotypes !

[Hules]

It doesn't really matter if she is very interested or not. If she isn't reciprocating the amount and degree of attention you give her then you need to ignore her permanently.

 

Pretty much how I live my life when it comes to dating I can handle rejection, however more often than not I find out they were playing games with me. All I can think is "You stupid, silly girls. If you were interested then don't act like your not, and don't be surprised/upset when I stop chasing you. One word. Retarded."

Edited April 11, 2011 by Hules

[dispatch3d]

Exactly ! Agree 100%. Both sexes, same deal ! Anyone who ignores you but expects you to "swoop in" is obviously borderline retarded and best ignored anyways. ( I used to write and produce theatre for children and I ALWAYS changed up the stories, so cinderella wanted to be an entomologist instead of a princess and the prince liked biology and was nearsighted [ insert goofy gag glasses here] and they ended up happily ever after THAT way !) so as to NOT perpetuate those ridiculous stereotypes !

 

I assume it's the ones who have low self-esteem that do this. They want the ego-trip of guys constantly persuing them (to fuel their self esteem), but if the guy withdraws their ego gets hurt (cause you stopped fueling their self esteem).

 

If they start deriving their sense of self from something other than how many guys are interested in them at any given time - well then they probably aren't single.......

[singlelife]

I assume it's the ones who have low self-esteem that do this. They want the ego-trip of guys constantly persuing them (to fuel their self esteem), but if the guy withdraws their ego gets hurt (cause you stopped fueling their self esteem).

 

If they start deriving their sense of self from something other than how many guys are interested in them at any given time - well then they probably aren't single.......

 

 

Great point. I guess that's why they flip like you served them divorce papers.

[singlelife]

Exactly ! Agree 100%. Both sexes, same deal ! Anyone who ignores you but expects you to "swoop in" is obviously borderline retarded and best ignored anyways. ( I used to write and produce theatre for children and I ALWAYS changed up the stories, so cinderella wanted to be an entomologist instead of a princess and the prince liked biology and was nearsighted [ insert goofy gag glasses here] and they ended up happily ever after THAT way !) so as to NOT perpetuate those ridiculous stereotypes !

 

 

that's the point of the thread. women act retarded. more than they think.