haileyscomet Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Im in a LDR with a man who lives in America and im in UK. We have been long distance good friends for more than 10 years...and we started a relationship 2 years ago after he asked me to go on holiday to see him in America. So realisitcally since 2008 we see each other once a year for a couple of months as Im a student in the UK and he works in USA. We have discussed the future alot, we have talked about getting married and which country we are going to live in but our plans are still undecided. recently i feel like we are not as close as before, his parents met me last year and my boyfriend said that they dont approve of our relationship as there is a race difference, but he says he doesnt care about that. some days he says he loves me and i do beleive him, but on a couple of oocasions he has said that he still thinks of himself as single, so im getting mixed messages and feel he is only with me until someone better comes along? we are seeing each other this summer for only 2 weeks this year, I wanted him to come to the UK to be one of the guests at my graduation but he said its too expensive to fly... but he has happily booked and paid for our holiday together this summer? I feel confused and im not sure whether we should just be friends now?
creighton0123 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 International relationships are already expensive. He booked a holiday for the two of you in the summer and can't afford a second trip. As for your drifting apart question... all the communication you're doing with us you should be doing with him. Without talking about the relationship, time frame, and when you may end the distance, things are up in the air.
hoping2heal Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Im in a LDR with a man who lives in America and im in UK. We have been long distance good friends for more than 10 years...and we started a relationship 2 years ago after he asked me to go on holiday to see him in America. So realisitcally since 2008 we see each other once a year for a couple of months as Im a student in the UK and he works in USA. We have discussed the future alot, we have talked about getting married and which country we are going to live in but our plans are still undecided. recently i feel like we are not as close as before, his parents met me last year and my boyfriend said that they dont approve of our relationship as there is a race difference, but he says he doesnt care about that. some days he says he loves me and i do beleive him, but on a couple of oocasions he has said that he still thinks of himself as single, so im getting mixed messages and feel he is only with me until someone better comes along? we are seeing each other this summer for only 2 weeks this year, I wanted him to come to the UK to be one of the guests at my graduation but he said its too expensive to fly... but he has happily booked and paid for our holiday together this summer? I feel confused and im not sure whether we should just be friends now? Hello, I just wanted to clarify on your comment about him booking the Holiday. Were you trying to say that you wanted him to come there for vacation and your graduation, instead of booking the trip for you to come there..or were you saying you wanted both. Every relationship has a different dynamic that works for them and both sides are happy. You need to decide whether what is going on is something you are happy and okay with. That single comment would bother me. What does that mean exactly..that he can go out or hook up with other girls and does not have to tell you cause he is single..or what. I would want to know what being single means to him.
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