rhonian Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 would you still be with her? Ladies, please dont be offended Im speaking of my relationship ONLY! After 2 weeks NC with my ex and analyzing our 2.5yr relationship 24/7 when it boils down to it I believe we lasted 2.5 years because of the great sex and the companionship that goes with it! We didnt agree parentally. We didnt agree politically. She couldnt stand my friends. I have a hobby she was jealous of. She was extremely controlling. She was a taker. It was Long-Distance and neither of us was moving toward the other. She was untrusting. She lacked affection. When I think about it I really didnt like HER but just her (). I wonder if she felt the same? At the end of the day, when I get down to the nuts and bolts of the relationship....if she didnt have a () my relationship would of ended a looooong time ago. Is it the same for women? Do you girls ever hang around for the -----) ? I would say NO because most women can get ------) anywhere. And when you women are in a relationship you are in it for HIM until he screws up, messes up, breaks trust or just does something stupid to cause a disconnect...... OPINIONS......LET THE BULLETS FLY......
Strength of Heart Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Having great sexual compatibility with my ex has definitely made it much harder to let go as I value sex and physical intimacy very much in a relationship. I wouldn't say thats all it is though, far far from it. But I already had sex with a much better looking girl, which obviously isn't all that matters, but it helps you take your ex off the pedestal as hottest thing in the world to you.
Flgirl44 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Sounds to me like you are just trying to belittle your relationship to feel better about it ending. To answer the question though, no I don't stick around for the peen, but it does make the break up/moving on a little tougher.
aypforever Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Companionship and conversation matters more to me than sex in a relationship. I feel intelligence is the most attractive quality in a woman though.. If you can't put together a complete thought that can be discussed, what's the point? There is great sex everywhere.. though ours was beyond great. It sucks not having that anymore, but you have to realize anything they may be getting now will NOT even come close to what you shared. It's simply about "getting off".. if they can.. and not about compassion or love.
Trevster Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Look i read this an me and my ex would argue that if we werent having sex i wanted it more. But now that i think about it im 19 years old if my ex were to get in a car wreck get burned all over her body cant have sex for the rest of her life i would still be by her side to marry her and take care of her for the rest of my life. Now that i have been able to really look at it im 19 we were together for 3 years and i fell in love with her as a person. None of the sex or things would bother me i would take care of her for the rest of my life even if she had 3rd degree burns all over her body or she was paralyzed from the neck down or anything i would be the man to call her beautiful everyday and would still want to take her with me everyday no matter where i go. This is y i wont give up on our love and how much i really know we are meant to be. I havent told anyone that i would do this for this girl i havent even told her but now that i have had time to think about it i dont need sex to be happy or anything i would just love to take care of her and be there everyday for her!!! bottom line.... ANYONE!!!!
Beeotch Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I think 8/10 people are in relationships for the wrong reasons...mostly what they think they can get from this other person and what "love" can do for them, whether it is so they won't be lonely, so they can keep up with their friends, for financial security, to find a parent for their child,etc. So it is really no shock to me that someone would date someone just for the sex....
Flgirl44 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I think 8/10 people are in relationships for the wrong reasons...mostly what they think they can get from this other person and what "love" can do for them, whether it is so they won't be lonely, so they can keep up with their friends, for financial security, to find a parent for their child,etc. So it is really no shock to me that someone would date someone just for the sex.... I agree. I created a thread that was somewhat about this. Just being happy being your own person. Not expecting a relationship to validate you. I feel a lot of people set themselves up for disappointment in this regard. My past relationship included.
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