LCG Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 What's Up I'm New I'm not sure where this question fit in so ~ my bad. Anyways Prom is coming up in about a month I wanna ask this girl I dont' know. I had my eye on her for a while. Etc.. I was gonna do a ''Easter Egg Hunt'' so that she goes around the school while I had time to set up the big surprise asking her in the cafeteria. A couple of people pointed out that some girls prefer a Private Approach. The girl I like seems like a shy quiet girl, so she might not be as thrilled if it's something in public and it might embarrass her. Also Since I don't really know her making a big deal about it in public might not be such a great idea. So should I do it in Private? If so should I get her friends at least to join me, or just me and her? Thanks in Advance ~
Eddie Edirol Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 You cant ask her to prom until you get to know her and you know she likes you. No one is going to commit to going to prom without getting to know you first. Forget asking her, just go up to her and make conversation, be charming, get her to like you. then after a few weeks you can ask her.
BeginAgain Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 What's Up I'm New I'm not sure where this question fit in so ~ my bad. Anyways Prom is coming up in about a month I wanna ask this girl I dont' know. I had my eye on her for a while. Etc.. I was gonna do a ''Easter Egg Hunt'' so that she goes around the school while I had time to set up the big surprise asking her in the cafeteria. A couple of people pointed out that some girls prefer a Private Approach. The girl I like seems like a shy quiet girl, so she might not be as thrilled if it's something in public and it might embarrass her. Also Since I don't really know her making a big deal about it in public might not be such a great idea. So should I do it in Private? If so should I get her friends at least to join me, or just me and her? Thanks in Advance ~ You should invite her to the prom on your own two feet. Maybe it would have been better if you had gotten to know her but many of the prom invitations are out of the blue. You should ask her first and then get to know her with time. You don't have much time to organize a date so it is better to know now than too late that she doesn't. Even though time is of the essence never appear desperate. Go in thinking there is always another girl to ask even if you don't believe it yourself. If she is a shy and quiet girl don't make your proposal a spectacle but don't hide it either. In the more public areas like around the lockers most people aren't paying attention at all to what everyone else is doing. You can still have a private conversation. Don't speak softly as to keep your interest a secret or too loudly to make a scene. Speak clearly. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. Don't fidget or do any strange motions. Still don't worry about screwing up in little ways. People only notice the broad strokes. We all tend to exaggerate minute flaws into cataclysms when it comes to our own self-estimation but treat them all like they are insignificant. Most of the time they are and even when they aren't others will only remember the jist of things. Even if she denies you don't show any signs of distress. Smile warmly at her. Remain cordial and confident. Her impression of you on how well you handle rejection is as important as her general perception of you as a whole. She might even change her mind later but don't bank on it. There is always life after prom and treating her well even in failure could end up winning her over later. If you are interested in more than a prom date then invest some time in her and make her feel special no matter the outcome, but don't ever make your intentions ambiguous. You want her as more than just a friend. Never get hostile about what you want from her if she gets confused and thinks of you as only a friend. Be nice to her but don't allow yourself to tag along with her as just a friend. You are no girl's puppy. If people make jokes or insult you for asking her out, especially if you don't succeed, don't get bitter, mad, and vengeful. Laugh it off. Deflect with kind hearted humor no matter how much the criticism hurts. Your reaction if she is not present could still get back to her then it could be hard to explain it away. You only take it serious when real harm will befall her and even then don't clean anyone's clock. Do only as much as is necessary to remove her from the situation and keep her safe.
Kelemort Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I suggest not to make it pubic :laugh: Hahaha, I noticed that too. Oh well. Minds wandering, huh! When is Prom - by 'coming up,' do you mean the end of April? The end of May? If it's at the end of May, you're in luck. Shy of that, you really don't have much time to ask this girl. Don't focus on Prom, but focus on getting to know her. Are your lockers located closely? Do you share any classes? After you're getting out of class, make a passing remark to her about the class. Do this a couple of times and introduce yourself. If you DON'T share these things, you face some difficulties. Do you share mutual friends? Try to arrange it so that you can go out as a group, including this girl, and start talking to her.
Author LCG Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 Hahaha, I noticed that too. Oh well. Minds wandering, huh! When is Prom - by 'coming up,' do you mean the end of April? The end of May? If it's at the end of May, you're in luck. Shy of that, you really don't have much time to ask this girl. Don't focus on Prom, but focus on getting to know her. Are your lockers located closely? Do you share any classes? After you're getting out of class, make a passing remark to her about the class. Do this a couple of times and introduce yourself. If you DON'T share these things, you face some difficulties. Do you share mutual friends? Try to arrange it so that you can go out as a group, including this girl, and start talking to her. Thanks everyone who Replied ~ Prom is May 14, we don't have lockers in our school People hiding drugs and guns in there etc.. they want to avoid that. I don't have any classes together with her at all, I see her every morning in the cafeteria though. Mutual friends not really I've exchanged a few words with her friends before but that's about it. Yeah I want to make something special but not too over the top ~ I guess I'm screwed that I didn't approach her before and asking her out on a date is pretty much pointless might as well go for the Prom. I realize Prom is a special event etc.. and I wouldn't just take anybody I wanna take her. I don't really have a ''few weeks'' as mentioned. She also Rejected me in the past It seems like she's giving me a second chance but I'm stupid I keep letting time pass by hesitating and stuff. So let me know ~
ire.girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I was once asked to prom by a stranger and I must say it was a fantastic night! If you are intent on asking this girl again I would say that if she turns you down then let her be... especially as she has 'rejected' you in the past. Why dont you ask her out 1st... ask her one day to got for a burger later that night or perhaps the next then if all is going well ask her to prom! I hope it works out for you!!
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