Shaun-Dro Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 This is my 2nd post. I need help. I wanna find the right one for me 'cause it seems time will run out on me sooner than I think. Anyway when I went to Target, I was seriously interested in this girl that works there as a cashier. She's this cute but sorta stuck-up puerto rican girl with a great body. Im weak for latinas. I cant help it so forgive me. She's about maybe 25, just guessing, and we talked for many months with me wasting time because I was always nervous around her due to people always looking and also because she's always working, so its hard to find the right time to ask her out. I felt she was into me because she would always give me smart answers and then laugh or smile, so I kept going at her all the way up until late in 2009 when I asked her for her number and she said no! Her exact reply was this: "Im sorry but Im busy" I came back with this: "You cant be that busy to txt somebody or to just send a email" She came back with: "I just cant, sorry" I said: "Well why not? She said: "I cant" I say: Is it because you dont want to, or you really cant?" She said: I just cant" And then she turns away from me and goes back to work. I didnt know how to deal with this because I thought she was interested. My friend in his 50s said I wasted too much time on her and she probably changed her mind or got tedious with me always coming in there just to talk. I really dont know what to think. Since then I didnt go into Target as much and just stopped talking to her altogether. I didnt see her for months which was good. Then I spotted a cute latina girl about 21-22 watching me and smiling over at me from the register that also works there. So naturally I wanna hit on her. Before I even do so, I catch the other girl I used to like that rejected me over at the next 2 registers down. This stops me completely in my tracks. Should I just talk to this other girl that smiled at me or should I give the first girl that rejected me another shot since I was mostly into her from the get and still have feelings for her since seeing her that day? All advice helpful because I dont wanna come off as a loser to either one.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 This is my 2nd post. I need help. I wanna find the right one for me 'cause it seems time will run out on me sooner than I think. Anyway when I went to Target, I was seriously interested in this girl that works there as a cashier. She's this cute but sorta stuck-up puerto rican girl with a great body. Im weak for latinas. I cant help it so forgive me. She's about maybe 25, just guessing, and we talked for many months with me wasting time because I was always nervous around her due to people always looking and also because she's always working, so its hard to find the right time to ask her out. I felt she was into me because she would always give me smart answers and then laugh or smile, so I kept going at her all the way up until late in 2009 when I asked her for her number and she said no! Her exact reply was this: "Im sorry but Im busy" I came back with this: "You cant be that busy to txt somebody or to just send a email" She came back with: "I just cant, sorry" I said: "Well why not? She said: "I cant" I say: Is it because you dont want to, or you really cant?" She said: I just cant" And then she turns away from me and goes back to work. I didnt know how to deal with this because I thought she was interested. My friend in his 50s said I wasted too much time on her and she probably changed her mind or got tedious with me always coming in there just to talk. I really dont know what to think. Since then I didnt go into Target as much and just stopped talking to her altogether. I didnt see her for months which was good. Then I spotted a cute latina girl about 21-22 watching me and smiling over at me from the register that also works there. So naturally I wanna hit on her. Before I even do so, I catch the other girl I used to like that rejected me over at the next 2 registers down. This stops me completely in my tracks. Should I just talk to this other girl that smiled at me or should I give the first girl that rejected me another shot since I was mostly into her from the get and still have feelings for her since seeing her that day? All advice helpful because I dont wanna come off as a loser to either one. I might be barking up the wrong tree so to speak, but is there any chance she's has a cultural background where it's not socially acceptable to date or to be alone one on one with a guy? I know a lot of women from these kinds of cultures who would say the exact same thing as your Target girl.
Author Shaun-Dro Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 I might be barking up the wrong tree so to speak, but is there any chance she's has a cultural background where it's not socially acceptable to date or to be alone one on one with a guy? I know a lot of women from these kinds of cultures who would say the exact same thing as your Target girl. Im not sure what you mean? She's a puerto rican girl. We know how they all are. If your referring to her not being allowed to date customers maybe I dont know. Or maybe because Im black? Somehow I dont think thats it.
Romeofud Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 This is my 2nd post. I need help. I wanna find the right one for me 'cause it seems time will run out on me sooner than I think. Anyway when I went to Target, I was seriously interested in this girl that works there as a cashier. She's this cute but sorta stuck-up puerto rican girl with a great body. Im weak for latinas. I cant help it so forgive me. She's about maybe 25, just guessing, and we talked for many months with me wasting time because I was always nervous around her due to people always looking and also because she's always working, so its hard to find the right time to ask her out. I felt she was into me because she would always give me smart answers and then laugh or smile, so I kept going at her all the way up until late in 2009 when I asked her for her number and she said no! Her exact reply was this: "Im sorry but Im busy" I came back with this: "You cant be that busy to txt somebody or to just send a email" She came back with: "I just cant, sorry" I said: "Well why not? She said: "I cant" I say: Is it because you dont want to, or you really cant?" She said: I just cant" And then she turns away from me and goes back to work. I didnt know how to deal with this because I thought she was interested. My friend in his 50s said I wasted too much time on her and she probably changed her mind or got tedious with me always coming in there just to talk. I really dont know what to think. Since then I didnt go into Target as much and just stopped talking to her altogether. I didnt see her for months which was good. Then I spotted a cute latina girl about 21-22 watching me and smiling over at me from the register that also works there. So naturally I wanna hit on her. Before I even do so, I catch the other girl I used to like that rejected me over at the next 2 registers down. This stops me completely in my tracks. Should I just talk to this other girl that smiled at me or should I give the first girl that rejected me another shot since I was mostly into her from the get and still have feelings for her since seeing her that day? All advice helpful because I dont wanna come off as a loser to either one. Why are you wasting your time with the one who rejected you? You know she doesn't wanna date you, so to hell with her already! By you giving her another shot reveals your neediness to her. And since you say she's stuck up, she'll definitely give you the brush-off, maybe even with vehemence. As for the other girl in that store you're interested in, it's up to you if you wanna start something up. I wouldn't recommend it though, because girls always talk and I'm sure the first girl mentioned you around or others have seen you two chatting it back then. Makes you look bad in my opinion. Man, go find another girl at another venue. And like your older friend said to you about stop wasting time: he's right! Talk to a girl a couple minutes. Gauge her interest in that moment and then go for the number. Saves you a lot of time from thinking too much on it. Good luck.
zakfar Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 First of all, not a good idea to ask on the cash register. She might not be allowed to give you a number at her register. She is working there, and she might lose her job if she passes you her number. You should have left 'Yours' with her. Next time, if you want to 'Target' a 'Target' girl, go with a paper (write the number outside, in your car or somewhere) and ask her if she would like to have your number. Pass her your number if she says 'Yes'. If she says 'I can't', pass her secretly with the money, and tell her that you will wait for her call. I hope it helps.
Recommended Posts