Princess71 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Does it ever work out when a girl pursues a guy? Is it ever ok for the girl to be the aggressor? Men want the chase, even if they don't realize it on a conscious level. Is it a mistake to pursue a guy?
betterdeal Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I don't like the idea that taking the initiative is aggressive. It makes me think you see it as a violent thing. Do you mean assertive?
Cracker Jack Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Yes, it works. Nothing wrong with women doing some pursuing every now and then.
Darren Taylor Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Men want the chase, even if they don't realize it on a conscious level. If that's the case, men wouldn't start relationships with women that approach first.
veggirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I think it's a fine line. Yes I think it is in the females best interest to lay back a bit in the beginning and let the guy do the "chasing"...at the same time, you don't want to frustrate the guy by making him do ALL the work. I don't know....then I think, well if 2 people really like each other, does ANY of this crap matter?! sometimes it seems like the "chasing" discussions and whatnot apply to relationships that are probably NOT going to happen anyway, cause if it's something that's gonna happen...does it involve so much questioning? So much calculating? Aye, I have no idea!
musemaj11 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Women can initiate under two conditions: 1) The guy is more shy than her. 2) The guy is less attractive than her. If one of these conditions isnt met, then the odds will be against the woman.
betterdeal Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 My two best friends are a couple now and the woman took the initiative. In fact, every relationship that particular man has been in the woman has made the move. It was a long courtship process, so they got to know each other quite well before they finally bumped uglies with each other. Truth be told, I was relieved that they did. The frustration between them was tedious to live around.
EasyHeart Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It depends on what you mean by "pursue". If "pursue" means "bat your eyelashes and say "we should go out some time"", then pursuing a guy is likely to work. If "pursue" means "call him three times a day, demand that he see you every day, and freak out if it takes him more than five minutes to respond to a text", then pursuing a guy is not likely to work.
betterdeal Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It depends on what you mean by "pursue". If "pursue" means "bat your eyelashes and say "we should go out some time"", then pursuing a guy is likely to work. If "pursue" means "call him three times a day, demand that he see you every day, and freak out if it takes him more than five minutes to respond to a text", then pursuing a guy is not likely to work. It's all about the fine tuning.
BeginAgain Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 The only guy who likes the chase is a predator.
EasyHeart Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I love chasing women. It's the natural order of things. I also don't waste my time dating someone who doesn't want to be caught. I've got better things to do. But a little healthy competition, and a woman who values herself enough to make me prove myself, are good things.
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