moosegreen Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 me and me ex just broke up about 2 day ago...and she still want to have sex....this isnt the first time we broke up and had sex after it....i guess my question is will her and i get over each other if we continue to do this...it probably wont happen a lot but she has never handled brake ups well
aypforever Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It's a common thing that happens. Who initiated the break up? If she did and she's asking you for sex, it's a very selfish thing. I still don't understand why it happens. My ex did it to me as well.. If you can handle the aftermath of it, do it. I thought I could. I kinda felt that we were on the path to getting back together. What ended up happening was, she was using it to get over me. I was familiar, I knew what she liked, so she chose to do it with me. What I don't understand is why the dumper does this and also tends to say they still want to be friends. It seems these are kinda the base of relationships. How can you enjoy these two things and not want to be together..?
nana841121 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 This is unacceptable So unfair to the dumpees You can not get over him if you still sleep together
todd Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I have found it normally becomes awkward and doesnt last too long, especially if someone is still emotional connected to the other person and is doing it purely to try and hold on to what was shared before in the relationship. I wouldn't mess with sex between an ex, too much past there.
Author moosegreen Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 i did because she wasint teating me with respect...but ya i dont under stand why she would want to do that...in my mind it would make it harder to get over someone...iv gotten over her once before so im pretty sure i can do it again with this happining...i just hope she dosint think i want back with her or anything
Beeotch Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 (edited) me and me ex just broke up about 2 day ago...and she still want to have sex....this isnt the first time we broke up and had sex after it....i guess my question is will her and i get over each other if we continue to do this...it probably wont happen a lot but she has never handled brake ups well You already know... You can't get over someone while still being under them. Most people have sex with their ex at least once after the break up. I did....it was a mistake. I wanted the intimacy and it brought feelings of us still being together. But in reality NOTHING changed. I had sex with him because I wanted to be connected with him and that was the only affection I could get from him...it was a way to prolong the fantasy that we would be together...but in the end it was disappointing as NOTHING would change and I would just end up feeling used and quite frankly, dirty. Therefore, I would advise that you avoid having sex with your ex as it will most likely lead to drama and disappointment versus anything healthy. Edited April 11, 2011 by Beeotch
Fufu Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 moosegreen: What do you think? If you are old enough, I believe you will do what's right and ethical.
radiodarcy Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 it's not a question of whether or not having sex is "ok" it's more a matter of whether or not doing so is going to work for you in terms of moving on from the relationship and doing what's best for you and your healing. that being said, i would say sex with an ex isn't such a great idea.
geegirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I don't believe it allows for one to get over the other, especially the one that is still emotionally invested.
ASG Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I wouldn't advise it, specially if you think it will bring her back to you (if she was indeed the one who initiated the break up). That being said though, you will do what you think is best (even if you're not really thinking with your head). And as someone said before, it is quite common to have sex with an ex. I've been there/done that. A few years ago my ex broke up with me out of the blue (things weren't great, but we never discussed our problems, so I guess I knew it could happen but didn't want to face it) and I was devastated and wanted him back. We ended up having sex for months afterwards. I felt a bit dirty cause the hope that we would get back together faded after a couple of times, but I just couldn't let go. Eventually I started going out with other people (as in friends, mostly) and didn't feel the urge to call him anymore, but I wouldn't recomend it, as I felt like **** for about 8 months after the break up, as I knew he was using me, but couldn't let go.. On the other hand, sometimes you kinda need a last Hurrah. My most recent ex and I broke up a bit over a week ago and ended up going for coffee a week after we broke up. You could cut the sexual tension with a knife. We behaved, but as we were chatting the next day things just became too heated up and we ended up having break up sex. I wasn't sure it was such a good idea though. I was too weak to say no, but I didn't want it stirring feelings and making me think that maybe we made a mistake... it didn't. And I don't think it will happen again either, which is just as well. So it really is up to you and how you think you'll feel aftwards. Bear in mind though that having sex with your ex is no guarantee you'll get back together and may be a huge cause of pain and prevent you from moving on...
Sweet_T Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I know it's hard trust me, but it does nothing for you! if they wanted to be with you, they would. Sex, right after a break up keeps the feelings fresh and hard to get over
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