Anna86 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 So, I have been trying everything to get over my ex. Well, its working a little. So I have decided LC, but I am trying for NC. Anyway, decided that I should give some other guys a chance. So, I have been texting a few and met up with two. Well, today I met up with a guy I met out, he seemed nice, not my type but I want to try new things:) Anyway, it was disaster! At first, he was wonderful. Smart, kind and funny!! But I noticed he became a little strange, so I wanted out and wanted to be with my female friend who is like my rock. He turned kind of nasty when I said I wanted to meet with my friend. He came along with me, and he acted so aloof. I get why he was mad but he could have went home. He suggested coming with me. I felt bad saying no as he seemed harmless. He didn't get the hint to leave at all and it became awkward and painful for my friend and I. My friend got the impression he was only after one thing as he was moody around my friend and basically hinted at her to leave:( It made me miss my ex. I just missed how easy we got on and the fact that he never made me feel bad. Just fantastic!. I can't seem to do that with ANY guy I meet. I did meet a guy I liked, we exchanged emails and text messages BUT I saw him with a girl who seemed to be like a gf. So that was a no no. I end up feeling worse when I try to hang out or meet up with a guy. Or I end up getting hurt. It makes me miss my ex even more!!!! I just need to tell all you recent broken hearted folk NOT to rush into dating, as you can end up feeling worse. I just hope I am back to myself soon........Gosh, single life is hard. I forgot about dating and the strange people you encounter.
VJohnson32 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 It isnt that bad. Give yourself time before you go out there again. You clearly arent over your ex and that will affect your judgement. Your ex is nothing more than a male human being with a penis and you two share a connection which needs to be broken completely before you could connect with someone else. Time is your best friend now.
optimistgirl Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I just need to tell all you recent broken hearted folk NOT to rush into dating, as you can end up feeling worse. I just hope I am back to myself soon........Gosh, single life is hard. I forgot about dating and the strange people you encounter. Good Advice Anna! That is exactly why I am steering clear of dating--for a while! Just like you, I'm trying to get over someone too, but the thought of going out with someone new while I still feel down in the dumps won't help anyone. Been there...done that and it didn't work out. Felt even worse after!! After being in a relationship for so long, it's really hard starting to date again. I've had my own share of horror stories! There are some weirdos out there. Sounds like this guy you went out with can't take a hint. You'll be back to your old self soon enough. Just take it day by day.
2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I went on a few dates not long after BU and it was awful and it kind of put me off for a while, it's not that the girls were not nice or that it was that I still had all the issues of the BU and the ex hanging over me. I actually felt a bit guilty meeting up with these people when I knew fine well I wasn't ready, then put them through a bad dating experience. I did go on a date the other night and although it was kind of awkward at first we kept at it and ended up going to a little pub, talking for quite a length of time and I kind of forgot all about my ex and all that went on. So little steps at a time is the way I see it, just slowly ease yourself back into the dating scene. Just think though that you will never meet anyone like your ex, you might meet someone 100 times better! After all this is what dating is all about isn't it. 2011
Author Anna86 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 wow, glad some other people know what I am talking about!! @2011: I am glad you met this girl, even if it isn't going to work out it must feel great to feel that connection again. Keep us updated @Johnson: True, my judgement is clouded. I guess I have such huge expectations as when I first started dating my ex I didn't think I could ever meet someone like that. I know that of course I will (optimistic) @Optimist girl: I am sorry you had your share of horror stories, well I guess its better to have some kind of story, makes life exciting....I guess!!! Before my ex I had many horror stories!! If anyone has any funny stories about disaster dates share them!!! I think its making the best out of a bad situation. I laughed long and hard about disaster date tonight...He kept randomly touching and patting my head. Wow, I still shudder when I think back to the weirdness of it all!!!! hahahah!!!
2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Hi Anna86 Yes I will try and do that; it is early days right now but wee are just getting to know each other and obviously I have learned from past mistakes and encounters so I am on the case! She seems like a nice genuine person all the same. 2011
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