one goal Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 LOL so if over the summer the slight chance the hot teacher does go out with me, do you think there is a slight chance I'd get to bone her on the first date?
dreamingoftigers Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I would just see a guy who wanted sex on the first date as kind of a slutty predator....no thanx.
Crimesoftheheart Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 We all have to live with double standards. Don't complain about one unless your willing to complain about them all. Which means you would actually have to reach into your purse on a date and not be bitter about it later. I've paid for my half of the bill on many occasions. that's fair. human sexuality does not compare to footing your half of a meal. female sexuality is real and this guy seems to have an unhealthy attitude towards it. Sex is built into all of us. if two people have a healthy attitude towards sex and can respect themselves and each other, and can enjoy it for what it is, I don't see a problem with that. Personally, i prefer intimacy over ONS. But that doesn't mean i need to get emotional over it all the time. I'm capable of enjoying it for what it is with someone I am attracted to.
Flgirl44 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I personally enjoy building the tension around sleeping with a person for a little longer than just a date. It more fun than giving it all up right away. I like the whole 'I really like you. This is hard to hold back' type build up and all the googley eyes,flirting, kissing, goosebumps that go along with it!
runner Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I personally enjoy building the tension around sleeping with a person for a little longer than just a date. It more fun than giving it all up right away. I like the whole 'I really like you. This is hard to hold back' type build up and all the googley eyes,flirting, kissing, goosebumps that go along with it! me too
seibert253 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 With every woman who I've slept with on the first date, not that many actually, they never got a 2nd date. Way I look at it, if they were willing to give it to me that easily, they certainly are willing to give it to someone else as such. Not trustworthy IMO.
Darren Taylor Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Not really a smart move. Health wise obviously, but also you don't know the person.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 in this case, it takes one to know one doesn't it? What can I say, the ladies love me. :/
mr.dream merchant Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 With every woman who I've slept with on the first date, not that many actually, they never got a 2nd date. Way I look at it, if they were willing to give it to me that easily, they certainly are willing to give it to someone else as such. Not trustworthy IMO. This as well. People always try to bring up "well you're sleeping with her as well"....lol, yeah I know that much. But it's not MY loyalty, integrity, and clean health bill that I'd be skeptical about...I already know I'd make a fine loyal and clean long term relationship partner. But the woman tossing me the goods within a couple hours of knowing me...let's just say there's going to be alot of skepticism. Not because she likes having sex, but because I don't know any classy and self respecting women who would put out so easily, and a classy and self respecting woman is what I aim to commit to...not the loose bar fly. So the answer to all the "double-standard!" cries is, well, I'm simply..a male.
veggirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 IME, having sex that early makes the relationship all about sex. Each date after that kinda becomes just something to do before you bang again.
WellLetsSee Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 But the woman tossing me the goods within a couple hours of knowing me...let's just say there's going to be alot of skepticism. Not because she likes having sex, but because I don't know any classy and self respecting women who would put out so easily, and a classy and self respecting woman is what I aim to commit to...not the loose bar fly. I so much agree. Any of those people I slept with on our first dates, I could have never considered them relationship material. Sleeping with me on their first date - did those guys not have any self-respect? See any guy who has a certain level of self-esteem and self-worth would value more who they share sexual intimacy with. A guy who goes with just any girl simply is too easy in my point of view. How can I explain that better? See every guy has a very special sexual personality. So they should really care for who they choose to share with. But in a way I think I just do not like sluts. As a girl who has slept with many guys on their first dates and looking at how all of those never became anything more than sexual for me, I must say: Guys you bring it on yourselfs to be called a slut. Have some self-respect and chose really who you are intimate with - no girl wants a slut as a bf. Once you learn to understand this you will manage to really gain the respect of us women. Love ya all!
denise_xo Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 (edited) With every woman who I've slept with on the first date, not that many actually, they never got a 2nd date. Way I look at it, if they were willing to give it to me that easily, they certainly are willing to give it to someone else as such. Not trustworthy IMO. But you are trustworthy when you sleep with them on the first date? I find the hypocrisy of your post pretty outstanding. Edited April 11, 2011 by denise_xo
BeginAgain Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I guess I wanted to get a consensus about sex on the first date...what do you guys think? yay or nay? If you are feeling it then go with it. It doesn't change the ultimate trajectory the relationship would have taken anyway. If it happens it would have happened anyways. Instincts/libido take over and there is nothing that would have stopped them. How many stories have you heard of those never intending to but ended up between the sheets anyways? Too many. No amount of willing yourself out of it will work. Humanity is an instinctive and emotional creature before anything else such as intelligent or spiritual.
Trojan John Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Meh. I did it. Been married to her for five years, together for nine now.
jesslelan Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 No, I think there is a not good to have sex on first date.....
oaks Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I guess I wanted to get a consensus about sex on the first date...what do you guys think? yay or nay? I think everyone in the bar would turn and stare.
WellLetsSee Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I think everyone in the bar would turn and stare. :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:
acrossthemiles1 Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 But you are trustworthy when you sleep with them on the first date? I find the hypocrisy of your post pretty outstanding. Yeah, I find this pretty difficult to understand. You say your personal character is not on trial here because YOU know that you're a moral and trustworthy person. What exactly makes YOU the ultimate arbiter of morality and trustworthiness? So the answer to all the "double-standard!" cries is, well, I'm simply..a male. And this is a valid argument...how?
betterdeal Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 When I have an itch to scratch, give me a sexually liberated girl any day. But today, preferably.
bac Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I guess I wanted to get a consensus about sex on the first date...what do you guys think? yay or nay? it depends on what you are looking for, on your gender, age, intentions, situation.
JohnnyCage Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 Anyone who has sex with me on the first date I automatically put under "not-relationship-material." They always become more or less a booty-call to me. And what would you call yourself when you are also having sex with that person on the first date? Or maybe the other person labels you as a "not-relationship-material" too
PerpetualMotion Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 It's usually not a good idea but there can be exceptions. If you are just meeting this person and don't know their character at all, sex is a bad idea. You could find out they are a monster. But on the other end of the spectrum if say, you've lived around or worked around your date for quite some time and both have held each other in high regard, sex on the first date wouldn't be unreasonable. The date would just be a formality for what you two already know you want. Been there (couple of times). I completely agree.
zengirl Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I would not know someone well enough to sleep with them. I won't sleep with anyone till a relationship has been firmly established, as I'm not interested in all the stomach flips and guesswork I imagine would come from that, "Do they really like me or just like sleeping with me?" situation. Not to mention safety, pregnancy issues, etc, in terms of all of that happening with a man you barely know. Also, I just really cannot imagine being that sexually attracted to a man I barely know. Chemistry? Sure. But to me sex is emotional and intellectual as well as physical. If we've known each other for years, already established that we're in a relationship, and we just happen to be going out for the first time, early sex would be okay; otherwise, all of that stuff has to happen (getting to know each other, establishing what we want from the connection between us, etc) first. Not going to delve too far into the typical discussion going on about "easy women" on first dates, but: Most mature, relationship-oriented guys I know wouldn't "write a girl off" for sex on the first date, if everything flowed towards that naturally. . . but then, being relationship-oriented, they also aren't exactly the type to be pressing for it. I do find that there are the immature guys who press and try to get sex, and they totally are the ones who are like, "She slept with me that fast? What a skank!" Meanwhile, they were doing everything in their power to get in her pants----so they're even easier. Silly, silly . It's those guys who expect women to be the brakes and have no self-control themselves. No, thanks. And, in the words of Forrest Gump, that's all I have to say about that.
Untouchable_Fire Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I so much agree. Any of those people I slept with on our first dates, I could have never considered them relationship material. Sleeping with me on their first date - did those guys not have any self-respect? See any guy who has a certain level of self-esteem and self-worth would value more who they share sexual intimacy with. A guy who goes with just any girl simply is too easy in my point of view. How can I explain that better? See every guy has a very special sexual personality. So they should really care for who they choose to share with. But in a way I think I just do not like sluts. As a girl who has slept with many guys on their first dates and looking at how all of those never became anything more than sexual for me, I must say: Guys you bring it on yourselfs to be called a slut. Have some self-respect and chose really who you are intimate with - no girl wants a slut as a bf. Once you learn to understand this you will manage to really gain the respect of us women. Love ya all! If you were not sarcastic I would agree with you here. However the fact is that a good majority of women don't think this way. Sexual dynamics are VERY different for women than they are for men. The fattest ugliest woman ever can walk into a bar and take a guy home on any given night. I've seen that happen. However, she will struggle to get a relationship. It simply isn't that way for most men... and it shouldn't be. And what would you call yourself when you are also having sex with that person on the first date? Or maybe the other person labels you as a "not-relationship-material" too Again... you assume in this statement that men and women are the same... which we are not. Equality and being the same are different. Because of those differences the consequences from sex can be wildly different between men and women... it is something we know by instinct. I think a good chunk of women fail to understand the meaning of being sexually liberated. It doesn't mean freedom from responsibility...
SmileFace Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 If a guy insisted on sex on the first date, I would give in... but then never talk to him again. Thanks for the notch on my belt, see you never! LIKE(button) Like seriously, if he is that easy - On to the next!
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