cant cope now ex is seeing someone else...nc doesnt seem to work

[sunnydayze]

so ive been doing really well with nc until last week when i found out my ex slept with someone else days after he split up with me. he has been with her this weekend too, she is a friend of his housemate so comes up most weekends.

ive been doing so well with nc but since we all share the same friends i know when he is with her. one of his friends came round the other night and was saying how my ex had disappeared with this girl to go have sex obviously, he said it cus he forgot i was in the room.

i feel like ive completly been set back, its horrible waking up alone when hes waking up with her and not even missing me at all :/ i wish i at least knew he missed me and i meant at least something to him

[nana841121]

Sunnydayze, The thing that your ex slept with someone else within such a short time since your breakup indicates one thing for certain: he doesn't not worth your attention and affection.

NC is not for winning him back, instead it's for yourself

Be a selfish person, Put yourself priority.

[nsphere]

It does get better. Know that when you are alone and sad, the grieving process is perfectly normal. One day you will wake up and not feel like crying anymore. He hasn't learned anything and has jumped from one relationship to another.

 

You can use the time to focus on yourself so that you can have a stronger relationship next time. Focus on yourself and keep yourself busy. Maybe take up a new hobby that doesn't involve your current group of friends such as a martial arts or dance class.

[Fufu]

Take this as a good news for yourself to completely move on.

 

You can do it

 

Be glad he's not missing you instead, because would you want to be with a person who can just go and sleep with another girl after a relationship just ended.

 

You know better than that ^_^

[sunnydayze]

i know its just really hard. i feel like shes just completly better than me and now shes got what i want so badly :/

hes a really nice guy and has alot to give to a girl, i just screwed it over which has made getting over things so much harder cus i just can't be THAT angry at him

[nana841121]

He is not a keeper

[sunnydayze]

its hard to get that through my head though :/ people keep saying to me, stop thinking about it, but how?! i have been going out, everyday, making sure i keep busy and hes still constantly on my mind

[nana841121]

its hard to get that through my head though :/ people keep saying to me, stop thinking about it, but how?! i have been going out, everyday, making sure i keep busy and hes still constantly on my mind

 

I understand perfectly.

Been there, and over it.

Be patient.

you can do better than you thought

have a little faith in yourself

pick up a new hobby , or apply for some certificate exam

[Scruffydog]

I'm damn sure I saw my ex with someone else yesterday. A man, may have been nothing in it, there's a chance it wasn't even her, but I've felt utterly s**t since.

 

Nearly a year now but the pain doesn't seem to ease...

 

Scruffydog