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First of all, heres some insight into my break up for those that don't know:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t272833/

 

Anyways, since my ex left me a month and a half ago she has sent me many mixed messages on how she is feeling. Here is a list of the things I've heard:

 

"I don't know how to go about this, but I miss you, I miss us, and I miss all the fun we had in our relationship. I can't apologize enough for my behavior as of late. I've never been more confused in my life. I hope you know I love you so much :( Maybe time is what I need, but my heart is killing me" - That was merely four days ago.

 

"I'm changed and happy now. You wouldn't even want me anymore." - Yesterday after telling me that part of the reason for breaking up with me was for feelings she had with another guy who has a girlfriend and is a recovering drug addict.

 

"Honestly, I'm over it"

 

Me: I hope we get back together one day <3

Her: I do too

^ Day after the break up

 

"I'm frustrated at myself because I don't feel anything but I want too"

 

"Just let it go, if it's meant to be then it'll work itself out."

 

"I want to be with you more than anything, but I'm too scared of a relationship right now"

 

"I have no words for you."

 

 

Her constant change of heart has left me baffled and made it even harder for me to stick with NC, although after the argument we got in yesterday about her feelings for the other guy I deleted her number so I had no choice.

 

What does this all mean? Her message from 4 days ago about how she wanted to be with me more than anything but was too scared of a relationship and all the other stuff she said really got me thinking shes regretting her decision. I've classified the break up as G.I.G.S. without a doubt. I just don't get how to handle this, and I'm tempted to contact her cause we left off on a bad note yesterday and thats not how I want to start NC. After getting my hopes up from that text four days ago though, she once again crushed me with her criticizing of me. This situation has been just one massive heart**** and I'm losing it.

 

Appreciate any advice :(

Posted

yep same thing happened to me.. except mine is going to therapy and he said lets not talk for 3 months.. whatever.... u cant do anything really. just NC.. trust me.... just NC

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Should I contact her to apologize for losing my cool yesterday?

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No need to apologize, just start NC and begin your healing journey.

 

She maybe confused and being indecisive, however you do not need to be confused and indecisive for your well-being.

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