youngskywalker Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I get your point but if you worked hard on your body and mind then you should be looking for quality men who you are compatible with. Which means another man who is responsible and most likely financially successful in life. It does show some discipline and responsibility if a woman takes care of herself and appearance just like it does a man. I was only trying to zero in on men and women who are superficial and ONLY are interested in looks and appearance. But, lets just be honest, to some degree the two go hand in hand... most of the time. And how ironic is it that I see drop dead gorgeous women with completely thug piece of s**t losers all the time? Explain that to me.
Art_Critic Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 And how ironic is it that I see drop dead gorgeous women with completely thug piece of s**t losers all the time? Explain that to me. Lots of money in their bank accounts all the while driving Toyota's
westernxer Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 And how ironic is it that I see drop dead gorgeous women with completely thug piece of s**t losers all the time? Explain that to me. Love is blind, or perhaps a tad naive.
sniffys Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 its not a guarantee that just because you have money equates to winning a girl instantly. but it can help. i think its just a matter of primal instinct, i dont know. like a woman wants to secure her brood..so a man who is more financially secure (i.e. a dentist, a programmer) looks more like a good provider than a man who just works when he feels like it or just works so he can pay monthly for his car. just like in the caveman days i suppose, or the lion king. the lionesses(?) mate with the alpha lion (king) who is the leader of a place where there is a lot of ..prey and fresh water nearby. hehe seriously i do think about those things. while although i am satisfied and content my bf is hardworking and ambitious, goal oriented, sometimes i look at guys who have nice cars or have savings already, but it doesnt mean i'd ditch my bf for them.
lino Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 The saddest part is that this way of thinking isn't uncommon at all amoungst women today.
westernxer Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 The saddest part is that this way of thinking isn't uncommon at all amoungst women today. As Mike Tyson said, everybody's got a game plan till they get punched in the mouth.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I want someone to love me for who I am, not how much money I make. Try telling guys who tell me to paint my face and do something about my hair to be loved. And they haven't even seen how I look.
youngskywalker Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 (edited) Try telling guys who tell me to paint my face and do something about my hair to be loved. And they haven't even seen how I look. I had many years of a dry zone with women. What I found is I was simply after the wrong kind of women for me. After I looked past the superficial beautiful kind of women I found another kind of beauty. The kind that my family and friends have been telling me to look for all along. What I'm trying to say is maybe you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you have bad taste in men. You know, tall dark and handsome VS. short cute and funny kind of thing. There is someone for everyone. Edited April 10, 2011 by youngskywalker
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 To be, materialistic women are the worst. To us, men who are shallow are the worst. Like "Oh she has to be beautiful, attractive and stunning. Oh did I mention sexy too?"
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I had many years of a dry zone with women. What I found is I was simply after the wrong kind of women for me. After I looked past the superficial beautiful kind of women I found another kind of beauty. The kind that my family and friends have been telling me to look for all along. What I'm trying to say is maybe you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you have bad taste in men. You know, tall dark and handsome VS. short cute and funny kind of thing. There is someone for everyone. Hun, I went after a short, dark and chubby dude because he had a nice personality. I was lighter than him and yet he told me to slim down. (this was 10 years ago). AND he went after another girl too....who was fair.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 (edited) Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man. Because some men have this ridiculous trait called dignity. Others have made the calculations and discovered that sex is too expensive. Maybe some men don't want to have stressful lives, with the 'necessity' of working hard to please women, many men don't have healthy lives. My great-grandfather lost his wife when he was 30. He died at the age of 96, never had a girlfriend/wife after the one who died, and he spent much less time and much less money on brothels . Some guys prefer to play video games because video games provide an emotional high nearly as powerful as sex can provide. Video games don't get pregnant, don't have stds, and don't have problems. Some other guys are burned and decided that if it takes effort(as you say, 'work hard'), its not worth it. And it isn't. Thanks to my ancestors hard labor I can enjoy all of that, but if I didn't have the money(which I pretend to not have), the looks etc, I wouldn't really bother with women, because while the sex is fun, I can live more than well without sex and without having women bothering me. If sex is free: yeah, its fun to interact with women. If a guy has to work hard to get the cash or the social status, then no. Its not worth it. I'm not going to talk about going to the gym because it not only increases a man's looks, but it does tremendous good to a man's health. That's pretty much all of the work a man should be doing to attract women, since its beneficial to his health. Working hard to attract women is silly. It completely ruins a man's health, adds complications, obligations, and demands,and leads to an untimely death. Edited April 10, 2011 by Mr.Cairo
ccfan Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 (edited) Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man. Not in all cases, true story here: I have a super rich friend (private jet, 2 helicopters, 110 foot yacht, mansions and so on..) he´s also far for humble and what most people would consider a total jerk... anyways, he was courting this normal upper class girl that i know , and he used to do over te top stuff like fliying his helicopter over her house and ask her if she wanted to go for a ride, and basically he did all those kinds of reeeally show-my-money things... well , surprise. the girl thought he was a jerk and never dated him... a second girl (of a lower class i might add) rejected him as well, i gess no matter how much money those girls could not stand dating a total jerk... i´m sure he´ll find tons and tons of easy girls, no doubt in the future eventually he found himself a gold digger, and that didn´t last long... so while a lot of girls like money and status, others (hopefully most of them) like a decent hard working normal , balanced guy that doesn´t act like a fool. Edited April 10, 2011 by ccfan
Mr.Cairo Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Not in all cases, true story here: I have a super rich friend (private jet, 2 helicopters, 110 foot yacht, mansions and so on..) he´s also far for humble and what most people would consider a total jerk... anyways, he was courting this normal upper class girl that i know , and he used to do over te top stuff like fliying his helicopter over her house and ask her if she wanted to go for a ride, and basically he did all those kinds of reeeally show-my-money things... well , surprise. the girl thought he was a jerk and never dated him... a second girl (a lower class i might add) did the same... eventually he found himself a gold digger, and that didn´t last long... so while a lot of girl like money and status, others (hopefully most of them) like a decent balanced guy that doesn´t act like a fool. Yeah, the ridiculous situations these rich guys bring themselves into, just to have a woman who probably isn't as good looking as the women who are trowing themselves at them. That's why they are so much interested in these women. When a person is used to having everything, the one who refuses you something is suddenly interesting. I remember reading that the mother of the baby of the Football player, Cristiano Ronaldo, was a waitress and that despite the gigantic difference between being the world's best football player, and being a waitress, he still had a lot of work to have her sleep with him. I would have given up a lot sooner. Life is too be short to be wasted like that.
DreamerGirl27 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man. Ummm...no amount of money in the world would or could make me want Donald Trump or any fatso on the face of this planet. I'd rather be homeless and living on the streets with no food in my mouth... Scratch that...I'd rather work to support myself until I found a decent looking man.
ccfan Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 (edited) [quote=orangelady;3337615 Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? One more thing, -and this is a hard pill to swallow for gold diggers- if these tipe of woman that pursue a very succesful man happen secure one, the odds are totally against her and in favor of the guy ... as the guy will probably get even richer as time passes by and will get hit on by younger, pretier girls... while our gold digger lady will only get older and uglier... making very likely her being replaced. Superficiality is NOT THE WAY TO GO. Thank God there are a lot of decent, caring, nice woman out there... Edited April 10, 2011 by ccfan
HamiltonJames Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 (edited) That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? Yea, well, I'm a professional with a decent bank account, and I just lost out to a broke college student. Now there is a math issue (I'm 52 and she's 32) but still, she wants to relive her young adulthood. Edited April 10, 2011 by HamiltonJames
oaks Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? I don't think I would really want a girl if I thought her main motivation for wanting me was the size of my wallet (or a desire to spend my money). I don't list my income on online dating sites. I don't have a problem with a potential partner hoping that I'll be financially self-supporting, though.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Who gives a **** what women want? I'm more concerned about what I want.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I don't equate working hard with looking good, unless you work hard to look good. Then again, it's not my issue. It's okay..................................I'm done. I feel like nobody understands what I'm trying to say in all of my posts. I think it's cross culture or anything. I don't think anyone even knows what I'm talking about even in the looks department.
heartogold Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I have a great job, my own place, a car, and take care of 3 kids. By no means am I anywhere near rich haha. I get beautiful women all the time. Sometimes these women don't have careers or their life in order. It's a shame too cause I already have 3 kids to take care of and I'm not looking for a fourth. I don't care how good looking you are, go be a career house wife somewhere else. Women do want a succesful man but if your looking for love you will never get it frome a women like that cause she will love your money not you.
musemaj11 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 lMen, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man. Lol are u gonna tell us that the sky is blue next? This is a common knowledge that everyone in every corner of the world knows.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 What she was getting across to everyone not paying attention is: Why would a man make a whole bunch of money to be "loved" by a woman when it is obvious that she would just love his money? Conversely why should a woman have to completely transform her appearance because wouldn't that mean that the man loves her false looks and not her?
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 It's okay..................................I'm done. I feel like nobody understands what I'm trying to say in all of my posts. I think it's cross culture or anything. I don't think anyone even knows what I'm talking about even in the looks department. I'll give you an example. I know a guy who manages his own IT company. He is so damn good at what he does that he appears a lot on TV, newspapers, etc. He is 35 but looking to retire at 42. He only sleeps 5 hours a day. He isn't even good looking. But wherever he goes, his friends try to set him up with attractive women. And these women are not leeches, they are just as successful and good looking too.
Nexus One Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man. You're assuming a guy wants a woman regardless of her motives for being with him. Think about it, would you want to attract a mate that's with you for the contents of your wallet and bank account? Personally I don't want that, because I'd want her to be with me for me and vice versa. And I don't want to cave on that principle, because I want something meaningful. However, there are guys out there that don't mind the type of relationship you're talking about. But telling them what you mentioned in this thread would be like preaching to the choir, they already agree.
sniffys Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 well yep orangelady i gotta agree with u, there are men who complain about women who demand that the guy have a job or at least pay for some dates (or most dates) but they also require a lot from us women too..that is to look good and have a nice body. weird isnt it? back then when i was more on top of my game i'd go to the gym like weekdays 3 hrs a day..wasnt really a simple thing you can squeeze in between jobs and stuff. in my opinion..the pretty and sexy ladies (and trust me, theres a lot of them) are just a lil bit high maintenance and cost more than your average ladies
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