orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man.
USCGAviator Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I have a great job, my own place, a car, and take care of 3 kids. By no means am I anywhere near rich haha. I get beautiful women all the time. Sometimes these women don't have careers or their life in order. It's a shame too cause I already have 3 kids to take care of and I'm not looking for a fourth. I don't care how good looking you are, go be a career house wife somewhere else.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I have a great job, my own place, a car, and take care of 3 kids. By no means am I anywhere near rich haha. I get beautiful women all the time. Sometimes these women don't have careers or their life in order. It's a shame too cause I already have 3 kids to take care of and I'm not looking for a fourth. I don't care how good looking you are, go be a career house wife somewhere else. That's cause you already have 3 kids. I'm not talking about women who don't have jobs. And I don't know why you are attracting women with no jobs.
westernxer Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Men, let's say you know what girls would want you if you make this amount of money, wouldn't you work hard towards it? Coz seriously...no girl will turn down a rich and successful guy.... That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? So if that's the case, why don't men just work REALLY hard? I don't mean to say that you need to be as rich as Donald Trump, but at least a professional, have your own place, a car...you know, the kind of stuff that women admire in a man. All that stuff is overrated. Peace of mind, first and foremost, baby.
Titania22 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 That's the truth. No matter how fat or ugly you are, if you are successful and have a big bank account, do you think you CAN"T have any girl you want? They couldn't have me!
blackmagik Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Why would I want a girl who wants me for my money and "stuff". I am fairly successful, educated, and have a good career path yet I would rather stick with the girl who I am with now who wants me before I get to the super successful stage of my life (hopefully). She wants me for me, not my stuff or my nice lifestyle. Those qualities form lasting relationships and someone who can withstand the ups and downs in relationship. A girl who takes you for your stuff will not really mean the "for poorer" part of the vows.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 All that stuff is overrated. Peace of mind, first and foremost, baby. Now you know how I feel when men tell me to wear make up, change the way I look and stuff. Men don't like it when they're told to buck up and work hard to be successful to get women but they don't think how women feel when you tell them they're ugly and that attractiveness is what it's about to get a man. I rest my case, thank you.
Fondue Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Orangelady, you make an absurd amount of new threads. Just sayin'. Anyway, I'm well educated and have what most consider to be a good job. I don't typically tell people what I do unless I actually have an opinion of them and know them for a decent amount. I typically just tell people I work in Healthcare and that's it. That could mean a million things-- and it does. I don't want people to view me as a bank account. If a woman cares about the amount of money I make or do not make, then this is the kind of woman I steer away from. To be, materialistic women are the worst.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I want someone to love me for who I am, not how much money I make.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 If it were just a matter of working hard I would have been balls deep most of my adult life. But working hard isn't the issue. It's working smart and trying to connect with people who will want to work with you. I myself come from an under-privileged background and no one opened any doors for me. I had to get a job right out of high school and the job I fell into was so demanding I couldn't hack working, going to college and commuting on trains for 3 hours as day the way I was. So school had to go. That was fu_ked up. That stupid job should have went and I should have finished school but I had 7 younger siblings and my parents had nothing for me. That job over-worked me for years. I'll stop here. You should be able to see what real life is like for many people. It's not all just work hard and get ahead--you need some breaks, you need to find what your talents are, you can't have recurrent with problems etc etc etc. Sure, succeed if you can. That's will do her.
fishtaco Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Working hard has nothing to do with big money. It's about luck and who you know. CEO's get paid even when they screw up the company. I don't know what other job where they'd pay you millions of dollars when you failed and they want to get rid of you. Most people that are rich and successful come from rich families. Because first they can get an education without going into debt, second the family connections help them out. The corporate world is NOT merit based. Working hard will get you a pat on the back and more work to do. Your coworkers will love and respect you. But the executive team will lay you off to play some number game to keep their own bonus without a second thought. Making big money is tougher than getting women.
USCGAviator Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 That's cause you already have 3 kids. I'm not talking about women who don't have jobs. And I don't know why you are attracting women with no jobs. They have jobs but not quite what I would consider a career. They're either career coffee shop workers or aspiring housewives. Thing is I'm just not a fool anymore
youngskywalker Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 LOL Well, I have a big bank account. What kind of car do you drive? Whatever it is I could buy one better than yours tomorrow if I wanted to. But instead I drive a Toyota. Why? Because I don't give a flying f*** what people think about me. Especially some queenie. I see your post as being superficial and weak. Although, I do agree with you that a lot of women would date you and f*** you if you drove a Ferrari. It's just not the kind of women I'm even remotely interested in.
Art_Critic Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I see your post as being superficial and weak. Now that is rich
westernxer Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Now you know how I feel when men tell me to wear make up, change the way I look and stuff. Men don't like it when they're told to buck up and work hard to be successful to get women but they don't think how women feel when you tell them they're ugly and that attractiveness is what it's about to get a man. I rest my case, thank you. I don't equate working hard with looking good, unless you work hard to look good. Then again, it's not my issue.
green_tea Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 LOL Well, I have a big bank account. What kind of car do you drive? Whatever it is I could buy one better than yours tomorrow if I wanted to. But instead I drive a Toyota. Why? Because I don't give a flying f*** what people think about me. Especially some queenie. I see your post as being superficial and weak. Although, I do agree with you that a lot of women would date you and f*** you if you drove a Ferrari. It's just not the kind of women I'm even remotely interested in. Did you read orangelady's post here? I believe she was making a point about people telling her why she doesn't do all she can to get a man. I think she made her point well Now you know how I feel when men tell me to wear make up, change the way I look and stuff. Men don't like it when they're told to buck up and work hard to be successful to get women but they don't think how women feel when you tell them they're ugly and that attractiveness is what it's about to get a man. I rest my case, thank you.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Orangelady, you make an absurd amount of new threads. Just sayin'. Anyway, I'm well educated and have what most consider to be a good job. I don't typically tell people what I do unless I actually have an opinion of them and know them for a decent amount. I typically just tell people I work in Healthcare and that's it. That could mean a million things-- and it does. I don't want people to view me as a bank account. If a woman cares about the amount of money I make or do not make, then this is the kind of woman I steer away from. To be, materialistic women are the worst. Good. That's how I feel about men who keep telling me to change my appearance. I mean, sure I can dress up and wear make up, style my hair and etc but at the end of the day, we all want a guy to accept us for how we look without makeup (how we would wake up in the mornings)...it's the same for men who don't want girls to like them for what job they have or what money they make. It's completely double standards.
westernxer Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Good. That's how I feel about men who keep telling me to change my appearance. I mean, sure I can dress up and wear make up, style my hair and etc but at the end of the day, we all want a guy to accept us for how we look without makeup (how we would wake up in the mornings)...it's the same for men who don't want girls to like them for what job they have or what money they make. It's completely double standards. No one ever said the world was fair.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Did you read orangelady's post here? I believe she was making a point about people telling her why she doesn't do all she can to get a man. I think she made her point well I'd rather die alone. Why should I if men don't want to work hard and fix their lives?
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 No one ever said the world was fair. Bing!!!! *big hugs*
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I haven't been working "really hard" because I've been working on getting my degree these past few years (graduate in May). I work part time for expenses (gas, car insurance etc.) but I am not yet in a position to be able to afford my own place. I have often wondered if I should postpone efforts to start dating until after I get more financially set, but then again I don't necessarily think that's what's holding me back. But, I also see where you're going with this thread Orangelady, and to a large extent I think you might have a point.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I haven't been working "really hard" because I've been working on getting my degree these past few years (graduate in May). I work part time for expenses (gas, car insurance etc.) but I am not yet in a position to be able to afford my own place. I have often wondered if I should postpone efforts to start dating until after I get more financially set, but then again I don't necessarily think that's what's holding me back. But, I also see where you're going with this thread Orangelady, and to a large extent I think you might have a point. ALAS! *me bows down, kisses your feet and worships you*
youngskywalker Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Did you read orangelady's post here? I believe she was making a point about people telling her why she doesn't do all she can to get a man. I think she made her point well Maybe I missed some of the sarcasm in the above posts but... I think I know what she's saying. She'd like to see men working harder to be successful because women work soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard to be beautiful they should be rewarded somehow? If I missed it then my bad.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Maybe I missed some of the sarcasm in the above posts but... I think I know what she's saying. She'd like to see men working harder to be successful because women work soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard to be beautiful they should be rewarded somehow? If I missed it then my bad. Sort of but my point is, this is how WE feel if you men are feeling sh*t about why women would only date attractive and successful men. And don't even get me started on what I did to transform my body. It took me 8 years. EIGHT years!!!!!
youngskywalker Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Sort of but my point is, this is how WE feel if you men are feeling sh*t about why women would only date attractive and successful men. And don't even get me started on what I did to transform my body. It took me 8 years. EIGHT years!!!!! I get your point but if you worked hard on your body and mind then you should be looking for quality men who you are compatible with. Which means another man who is responsible and most likely financially successful in life. It does show some discipline and responsibility if a woman takes care of herself and appearance just like it does a man. I was only trying to zero in on men and women who are superficial and ONLY are interested in looks and appearance. But, lets just be honest, to some degree the two go hand in hand... most of the time.
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