xxjessii98xx Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 i am in love with this guy that i ment about a month ago ,he can be very sweet at times ,but he wont let me have guy friends. he gets very mad or jealous when i am talking to a guy friend.but he calls me every morning and everynight to talk,we get in fights alot because he always thinks i like another guy but he is always there for me and talks to me 24/7 he cares about me alot and tells me he loves me almost every five minutes &&that imm beautiful ,about a week ago we got in another fight so i decide to out, i met this other guy that is really sweet and cute he is very laid back and lets me have guy friends,he pulled me towards him and we sat there talking&cuddling and kissing for about 3 hours, i started hanging out with him more,and soon to fall in love with him about 3 days ago i found out he had been dating this girl for 3 months...i dont know what to do.</3
Mrlonelyone Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 First guy #1 who won't let you have friends is a abusive jerk. Give a man like that time and he will make you dependent on him then he will abuse you mentally, physically and in other ways. I have seen men do this to women too many times. Run from him. Guy #2 if he was "dating" this other person for three months that does not mean it was serious. You and him have different opinions on these things. You went on one date and "feel in love". Sorry to tell you this that's not love. Real love only comes from really getting to know someone intimately. You need to step back and realize you meet a sweet guy and made out. Now if you want to have a relationship with him you need to just take it slow, get to know him, keep your own options open. There's really nothing more too it.
Freshprince Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Guy #1: Dump him. He seems to be very controlling and possessive. Those are warning signs of men who typically commit domestic violence against their wives in marriages. They try to control every aspect of their wives' lives (their relationships, their finances, etc), and it looks like he's starting to head down that path. Plus, he just seems obsessive, which is psychologically dangerous for him and you. Guy #2: Make him decide. I would be skeptical of him because if he's been with a girl for three months (and the relationship was supposed to be exclusive) then that guy is a cheater. So the question that will remain is, if he was willing to cheat on her with you, what will stop him from wanting to cheat on you with someone else? If the relationship was supposed to be casual or non-exclusive, then I would just make him decide. He can't date two girls at once at the level of intimacy that you're claiming (unless you don't mind being in a polygamous relationship). Overall, I would look for someone better than both of them. There are definitely guys out there who are single, laid-back, and will tell you that they love you, that you're beautiful, etc.
notuneak Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I would next them both. And guard your heart a little more. Falling in love with 2 guys so quickly is a big red flag. And if you "loved" #1, why were you kissing #2?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Neither of them. Number 1, because he's jealous and controlling. Number 2, because he's cheating on his gf with you on the side.
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