tnixon37 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Well here goes...I meet my current wife married almost 3 years ago...We fell in love in the first few weeks...I Was working rotating 12hr shifts at the time so a lot of time was spent on the phone with her...After about a month and a half we got married ...She 46 I 45 at the time...I know it was to soon,But We did it. After about 4 months of marriage I was working nights...I rolled out of the bed after 2hrs sleep one morning and I looked at a porn sight...After realizing what I had did... which took about 1 min. at the most I logged off. So at lunch time the wife rolls in and looks at the computer and goes out of her mind!!! Saying you don't know what demons you have released. As it goes I was up late one night and was looking at HBo going thru the channels and stopped on soft porn.Guess who was looking around the corner...Yes! My Wife so now I got a porn problem. I have no reason to lie here.So now In her eyes I'm thats all I look at. Problem 2 My Son was with me when We meet...He and I booth moved in with Her as agreed upon before getting married...First week of the marriage they get in to it over the Dogs fighting...Son moves out. Off to a good start here. Then there's a problem with my Daughter. Who I was only getting to see two weekends a month.Wife says were not getting enough time together so I cut back to one weekend a month with my Daughter...then none because they can't get along either. So here I a'm almost 3 years later and Wife say's she want's a divorce ...two reasons the porn and my daughter. So after spending 16K On the house and school for Her. I'm out of a home. Because of the sensitive nature of my job she has made statements that She would call my work and get me fired. My work would fire at the drop of a hat.I don't want to try and start a new career at this age. So I went into a bout with depression about 3 weeks ago of the Divorce spent a week in the mental hospital..I lost 15 pounds and was sleeping 2-4 hrs a night for about a month. so I just lost it. The friday I got out of the hospital she came and picked me up...I was not five mins. in the car and she says I've talked to a lawyer,police officer and shrink all tell me to be scared of you and were going to the bank now to get you off the account. I'v never raised a hand to her or made a threat in any way towards her all the time we have been together. I just can't get it. We booth have great jobs...I got a better job about a year ago...same company. On straight days monday-thur 10 hr. So the time together is not a problem. I don't do drugs,drink...I help with the house work and do the yard wash my on clothing.What else could I do?
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I hate to say it but something's off with your story or your wife is nuts. I also hate to say it but most wives don't file for divorce with porn as an outset if there have been two very limited incidents. BTW logging off after a minute "you looked at porn but didn't realize what you had done???" I truly see an act of minimizing going on here. You may have made great sacrifices etc. but you must have made some mistakes in your marriage or else you are a saint. So what have you done that contributes to the situation? We all have done something. Why are you so overworked and not sleeping?
dreamingoftigers Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Sorry I reread the thread. It seems that everytime a conflict comes up that you cave, even when it came to your kids. If this woman wanted you not to see your kids that should have been the biggest red flag in the universe. The situation seems to have a ton of issues involved in it, including some heavy control problems. I would talk to an independent counselor right away and see if you can get to marital counseling if possible.
Author tnixon37 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Sorry I reread the thread. It seems that everytime a conflict comes up that you cave, even when it came to your kids. If this woman wanted you not to see your kids that should have been the biggest red flag in the universe. The situation seems to have a ton of issues involved in it, including some heavy control problems. I would talk to an independent counselor right away and see if you can get to marital counseling if possible. We went for counseling twice with the same result she want's a divorce! I'm now moved into a one room Apt.I about to go crazy here...I miss her so much.She still tells me I love you and care about you.
Author tnixon37 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 (edited) So you still want the marriage? Yes,and She know's that.I would do anything in the world for her. Edited April 10, 2011 by tnixon37 response
dreamingoftigers Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Well I found Divorce Busters to be quite helpful. As well look up 180 last resort. It may seem counter-intuitive but it seems to work. What is the situation with your kids?
Author tnixon37 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Well I found Divorce Busters to be quite helpful. As well look up 180 last resort. It may seem counter-intuitive but it seems to work. What is the situation with your kids? My Son is active duty Army in Germany and daughter and I are talking again...
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