Cammy Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Hi guys, well.. i did break up with my gf back in end of august, got back with her for 2 weeks then dumped her and then regretted it.. then its just been me feeling like ive been dumped, did as much as i could to get back with her but no light.. in november i did NC till the end of march, she text me every now again not showing any feelings, but tried to contact me on facebook, didnt reply. But this last 2 weeks ive spoke to her on MSN most nights and i never message her.. she messages me everytime, as soon as i sign in.. i keep myself very distant, and dont try and let her know exactly who im hanging out with or what im doing in detail. Tonight she was really trying to find out more about me and make me jelouse, by saying how she met a guy she had been texting or msn chatting to that lived like 40 miles away from her house.. and finally met him and they were going to be going out on a "proper date" like you see in films and ****.. like restaurant and whatever and saying she was so excited about it. I just replied "that good Hope it goes well" took her 15 mins to reply to that, which the reply was "so hows your love life going?" tbh.. my love life is going out, dancing with chicks, casual sex, or ****ing a few of my female friends now and again (not really a good idea.. lol) just told her something allong this line that that it was "awesome and that scince ive goten thin my confidence is so much better :)" Scince i broke up with her, im such a happy guy these last few months.. the pain it put me through make me a man i could NEVER be.. ive lost over 29kg of weight, im looking healthy and im so over-confident now its unreal - if it wasnt for love, i would have never became the man i am today. She didnt really reply to that.. it was like i played her at her own game, making her think that my life of moving on is much better but after 10-15 mins she randomly spit out "so are you with anyone right now?" 5 mins later (as i hadnt replyed, as i dont want it to seem im interested) shes like.. "so r u??" and a few mins later im like "no not anymore, enjoying the single life right now :)" I had told her i broke up with a girl i met, and didnt tell her the reason why just saying i didnt want to tell her because it made me look bad, she persisted and i wouldnt tell her, eventually after telling her no about 30 times she gave up and didnt ask or send me a message for the rest of the night (i never send her any first anyways..) after asking about if i was in a relationship, she asked about why i broke up with her, and i just told her; "Look - what happens in my life is no concern of yours, if i wish to keep it personal then thats how it will be" She took a massive stroppy at me.. "Sorray! ill just leave your to your life then, bye" thinking im gona chase her like the fool i used to be and do.. instead, just said "Ok then, bye as im going out in town anyways (clubbing) whent out but its completly ****, so im back home. Is there something im missing? you think shes just trying to find out about my life? or you think she misses me to go in a mood with me like that? as she ask's the same questions everyday, and mentions phrases that used to get used when we were in a relationship using them in a joking way.. I dont think id want to go back to her.. shes a stunning girl and dont know why she whent out with me for a year but i still feel for her, she was my proper first love, and even if i aint with her, i wish her the best thanks guys, as im really clueless for finding out the cause behind it all lol
Hopeless Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 omg leave her alone if ur not sure at all... im totally in her position.. this is the second time my ex boyfriend dumped me and today is day 1 of the second break or break up whatever u wanna call it. im waiting for him to realize his "mistake" but u guys have been apart for so long and if ur not sure. LEAVE HER ALONE
Author Cammy Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 omg leave her alone if ur not sure at all... im totally in her position.. this is the second time my ex boyfriend dumped me and today is day 1 of the second break or break up whatever u wanna call it. im waiting for him to realize his "mistake" but u guys have been apart for so long and if ur not sure. LEAVE HER ALONE What you havent picked up though, is its not ME that speaks to her, she speaks to me, she ALWAYS makes contact with me, i NEVER make contact to her first. So, why should i leave her alone when im the one who isnt doing anything to her in the first place?, ive allready tried to do nc for 5 months?? but obviously she didnt get the picture when she asked me last week why i never responded to her texts. Edit; btw.. if she wanted me back, i tried for 3 months, she had her chance, and never took it aparently "didnt think the time was right", and to say that im not sure? well.. ive clearly stated that i wont be back with her, but this is on my mind constantly now.
Author Cammy Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 honestly and no BS.. why did you dump her? Tbh with you, she dumped me first time round, i had allot going on in my head, i started gamblind allot, i was off work with stress, i drove drunk and got taken to court and lost my license, lost my job all a few days before my birthday, and after that, she soon followed the week after my birthday, my life was a shambles, i tried hard to get her back and we got back together for 2 weeks or so But she seemed like she didnt want to spend time with me anymore, she'd rather go out with her friends on the fridays which for a year were OUR night, we always whent out on a friday, and i had enough my head was still messed up from her dumping me, i was really over protective and paranoid if she was seeing another guy behind my back when she was out with her friends (and tbh.. i dunno if she did as she did disapear to a "girls" house whome i had never met but she supposedly knew, i thought it was her ex bf who had moved about that area. after that i ended up going into a hospital to do with mental illness due to me being depressed, stressed and going out drunk and knocking people sensless, so got counciling to control myself thats the truth. I have no idea what goes on inside a womans head, but.. i have full understandment when a girl ask's me "why does a guy do this.." :/ im just stuck now.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 when your in a relationship you do stuff for you and the other person and think of the consequences it might bring to the r/s. maybe being this outta control made her think less of you because you had her in her life and having her in your life was all the reason to make things right and not make any stupid decisions. It seems you werent happy with urself and thus she thought she wasnt making you happy. You need to get yourself together. U still going to therapy?
Author Cammy Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 when your in a relationship you do stuff for you and the other person and think of the consequences it might bring to the r/s. maybe being this outta control made her think less of you because you had her in her life and having her in your life was all the reason to make things right and not make any stupid decisions. It seems you werent happy with urself and thus she thought she wasnt making you happy. You need to get yourself together. U still going to therapy? Your right, thats how i felt, i thought at the end of the day, no matter what i did, id still have her.. forever oh my how nieve i was lol untill i realised that it didnt work like that my mother did notice that she was getting more distant from me when i started doing that **** i told my mum she was wrong etc etc, i didnt see it (we never do..) Not anymore, i bailed out of it when i felt so good about myself, and tbh.. never looked back, ive got my life sorted out now Ive asked a female friend of what she thought about it and her reply was: [sIZE=2]i personally think... That she is trying all of this to see if you still have feelings for her, like if you reacted like you used too, she'd think there was something there that might make it work? but if you just leave it she will then realise that you dont have the feelings anymore+you just want her to move onx followed by; [sIZE=2]maybe shes just tryna **** with your heed babe i know someone else whos mad about you;o but thats a diff story completey [/sIZE] this friend wants me more than a friend, but.. it never gona happen lol [/sIZE]
Hopeless Girl Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Your right, thats how i felt, i thought at the end of the day, no matter what i did, id still have her.. forever oh my how nieve i was lol untill i realised that it didnt work like that my mother did notice that she was getting more distant from me when i started doing that **** i told my mum she was wrong etc etc, i didnt see it (we never do..) Not anymore, i bailed out of it when i felt so good about myself, and tbh.. never looked back, ive got my life sorted out now Ive asked a female friend of what she thought about it and her reply was: [sIZE=2]i personally think... That she is trying all of this to see if you still have feelings for her, like if you reacted like you used too, she'd think there was something there that might make it work? but if you just leave it she will then realise that you dont have the feelings anymore+you just want her to move onx followed by; [sIZE=2]maybe shes just tryna **** with your heed babe i know someone else whos mad about you;o but thats a diff story completey [/sIZE] this friend wants me more than a friend, but.. it never gona happen lol [/sIZE] i hate female friends... thats one of the main reasons me and my ex argued... he had a lot of female friends and one best best female friend who hed do anything for her and she told him how much she loved him and she would text him "do u miss me?" B***** anyways just keep ur head held high and keep doing NC for now
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