MissMurder Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 My ex boyfriend and I were together for a year until he broke up with me. 5 months later, I hear from him again saying he wanted to be back with me. I slowly and cautiously let him back into my life, and things were actually going great the next couple months. Then I had to go and make a mistake. Mind you, I did not cheat or anything, I just did something stupid I told him I didn't want him to do, and ended up doing it myself. I don't want to go into details but basically, I was being a hypocrite and I know it was MY fault. He broke up with me yesterday out of anger/jealousy (I think), saying that he didn't want to be with me anymore. This time he didn't say anything about being friends like the first time /: We exchanged a few anger/explanation sentences and that was it. I know I shouldn't be wanting him back, but I know this time was MY fault. Then again, we had been starting to argue a lot over stupid things. I'm not sure if he was just using my mistake as a reason to break up or not. Should I be the one to chase him since it was my fault, giving him a few days to cool off for a bit? Or should I wait for him to cool off and talk to me? /:
primer Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Just continue living your life and see if he comes back to you. Don't chase him. Don't go out with anyone until you are sure he won't be coming back.
fetish Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yeah i'm with Joe Average. It's actually a little frustrating you want advice and you can't tell us what went down. What are you so worried about? It's not like Ms. Murder is a common household name where we can hunt you down. Matter fact, i wouldn't go searching for anyone with the name Murder nothing!
rhonian Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Yeah! If we are going to offer advice we need to know the DETAILS. But, from what I know already....my motto in a relationship is if you broke it you fix it. My (ex) girlfriend and I had an argument over walking her stupid dog (actually, he's a great dog) 30 minutes after she wanted me to. She started calling me names and told me to go home. I got up, packed my crap and left without saying a word.... I had no intentions on leaving that day. I did because she so easily plays the "go home" card..... I will not contact her because she was 100% wrong. She needs to contact me or the relationship is over. So, you admittingly said you were wrong, if you love/want/need him. FIX IT! IMO,.......
Graceful Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 You did something you won't admit to the LS board anonymously. It was a "mistake" (your word) and caused the breakup of your relationship. You admit it was your fault. And you're asking if you should wait for your BF to "cool off" when you're the one who caused him to be upset? You want advice when you refuse to explain what happened? Sanity check please: does anyone else think this is ridiculous or am I the only one? Thank you ... I'm not the only one. This is ridiculous. Therefore, I'm out. Before I go, I do have some advice: The relationship does not stand an iceberg's chance in hell to survive, so it really does not matter what you do. But at least start with this: GROW UP.
zakfar Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 You did a mistake, he got angered and left. You need to fix it up with an apology. But yes, wait for a while. Right now, he would be really mad at you, and won't listen to you. Give him some time and then go to him.
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