Butterfly5525 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Do you have your ex blocked on Facebook right now? Why or why not? Just curious...
WiselyNaive Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 no , partly because neither of us use facebook as much as we used too... also because it isnt like he is contacting me so if i just block him weeks after we broke up it wud be weird... although i recently found out he "blocked" me on twitter idk if he did it as soon as we brok eup or recently if i were to block him it would either be to not see him so i can heal or because im upset he HASNT contacted...
Good Arms Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yes, most definitely. Why? Because she dumped me. I don't belong in her life anymore. She may find her guilt assuaged by keeping me as a token 'friend', but I don't owe her anything now. Maybe a long while down the road we can be friends, but not now. Don't worry about what they think, it's all about you. I realised within weeks that staying friends on Facebook wasn't going to work. Every comment she made got me obsessing, and every update hurt. It killed me to see her talking about someone else within mere weeks. I have 'cracked' a few times and unblocked to check her relationship status (now she's in one ), but I honestly don't think I'd have done that if I wasn't working with my ex and exposed to constant clues about her life which play on my mind all day. Go NC if you're lucky enough to be able to, and that includes blocking on Facebook! Ignorance is bliss. I can see that in a truly mutual break-up remaining friends might be OK... and really you should only be friends on Facebook if you can be friends in real life first.
radrluv72 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Mine isn't blocked. He defriended me on FB when I told him not to contact me anymore and I implemented NC. I've only blocked 2 people on FB ever, and neither were people that I was ever romantically involved with...they were both just creepers.
Country_Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I don't really use the site to be honest, and even though the ex & I are on good terms, I did block him. My reason for that was simple, if he's going to reach out to me, then he's gonna have to go out of his way a little. I don't want him to send me FB messages in a half assed attempt to contact me, so that means he's gonna have to pick up the phone and call or send a text message (which always leads to a phone call on his end). Also, by the rare chance I did update the site, I didn't want him to be able to type in my name, see a new photo of me & have his curiosity satisfied.
LoveBug1989 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yes, he's blocked. I hate to sound like a creeper but after he dumped me I still looked for him on Facebook, even though he had deleted his account. Just recently I found him again; he created a new account and doesn't change his privacy settings so I was able to see all the girls he was rapidly friending and all the many photos of himself he was putting up. I had to force myself to block him because every time I was on Facebook I'd look him up to see what he was doing and it was hurting more and more deeply.
Username37 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Do you have your ex blocked on Facebook right now? Why or why not? Just curious... Yes. Because deleting her will do no good. I can still see her pictures and her wall post to other people. I don't want to see that. I also blocked her new bf, her slut friends and her family. Best move I made by far.
Layzie89 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Deactivated my facebook completely. I found that even if I block my ex its so simple to just unblock her to check her profile. Would rather avoid the temptation all around.
Good Arms Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I found that even if I block my ex its so simple to just unblock her to check her profile. That's very true - I have given into temptation and unblocked my ex as I wrote earlier, just to check her relationship status after being driven mad by seeing/hearing clues at work. I'm sure her photos were private before after I defriended her, but now they can be viewed by non-friends (though her wall can't thankfully)... I hate the thought that I can access those in a moment of madness. Even deactivation doesn't solve the temptation problem, as it's so easy to reactivate then unblock. Should really delete my FB account altogether, as I don't exactly do much on there anyway other than get depressed about how great other people's lives seem.
Beeotch Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Do you have your ex blocked on Facebook right now? Why or why not? Just curious... I deleted mine. We broke up in 09. He was on my friend's list for a while and I just avoided going on his page and in fact avoided FB altogether because I was scared of seeing anything about him and his life. After a while, when he got to his second rebound and was posting on FB every 5 seconds...I grew finally tired of it because 1) We didn't speak and weren't friends in real life and 2) He was way too EXTRA and made me dread signing in so I decided to delete him at that point. I figured it made no sense to block him when I had no plans of ever speaking to him or checking up on his life, deletion was more final. If we ever became friends again and were on speaking terms it would have to be in real life and then perhaps he would be added back but if not, it made no sense to have this person whom I don't speak to and won't speak to on my list. But in general...I am not a fan of putting your relationship on FB and have no intention of ever adding my next bf to my FB. It is far tooo much The guy I'm currently seeing doesn't use FB and I like it that way
Beeotch Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Yes, most definitely. Why? Because she dumped me. I don't belong in her life anymore. She may find her guilt assuaged by keeping me as a token 'friend', but I don't owe her anything now. Maybe a long while down the road we can be friends, but not now. Don't worry about what they think, it's all about you. I realised within weeks that staying friends on Facebook wasn't going to work. Every comment she made got me obsessing, and every update hurt. It killed me to see her talking about someone else within mere weeks. I have 'cracked' a few times and unblocked to check her relationship status (now she's in one ), but I honestly don't think I'd have done that if I wasn't working with my ex and exposed to constant clues about her life which play on my mind all day. Go NC if you're lucky enough to be able to, and that includes blocking on Facebook! Ignorance is bliss. I can see that in a truly mutual break-up remaining friends might be OK... and really you should only be friends on Facebook if you can be friends in real life first. Ditto. Those were my sentiments as to why I deleted and not blocked my ex at the time. Block implies temporary, as what would be the point of blocking someone for all eternity? So I imagine you block them for a while so you have the option to unblock...whereas, deletion is just that, deleting, and you would have to go through re-requesting this person, which you wouldn't do, most likely, unless you were actually friends. So problem solved: you're deleted and as long as we aren't friends in real life then you'll remain deleted.
orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Yes. Because deleting her will do no good. I can still see her pictures and her wall post to other people. I don't want to see that. I also blocked her new bf, her slut friends and her family. Best move I made by far. haha that's funny. Good on you.
0hpenelope Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Do you have your ex blocked on Facebook right now? Why or why not? Just curious... Nope. He wants the break up, he can go through the motions of deleting me from his life including Facebook. I've done my part in making sure I won't look at his Facebook profile and peeking at his profile once was good enough in steeling my resolve to not look at it again. Feeling that pain and discomfort after that one peek is not something I want to feel again. I'm in a different phase of my healing though, so I can handle having him on there. Besides, I rarely go on my account anyway: he can look at the cobwebs, spiders, and dust bunnies of my account.
nothappyjan Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 As we have so many mutual friends i just deactivated my account for now. I can't bear to even go on to his page to delete him in case i see something that will upset me. Plus he's always on fb so even if i deleted him he would comment on mutual friends status/walls etc and i would be able to see him so i'm just avoiding the whole site. It's great being off fb i find i get a lot more done and never waste time on the net...except for loveshack of course;)
Good Arms Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Block implies temporary, as what would be the point of blocking someone for all eternity? So I imagine you block them for a while so you have the option to unblock...whereas, deletion is just that, deleting, and you would have to go through re-requesting this person, which you wouldn't do, most likely, unless you were actually friends. Blocking also deletes them from your friends list, so really it's a more permanent solution. So at least (even though I've given into temptation to unblock) I know I can't actually become friends with her without her having to request friendship again, which means I'll never see her wall. Just defriending alone leaves you open to seeing their posts on other people's FB pages, if you have mutual friends. As we have so many mutual friends i just deactivated my account for now. I can't bear to even go on to his page to delete him in case i see something that will upset me. Plus he's always on fb so even if i deleted him he would comment on mutual friends status/walls etc and i would be able to see him so i'm just avoiding the whole site. If you do go back on FB, I'd strongly advise you block rather than defriend, due to the mutual friends. You won't even need to go to his page, just go to Privacy Settings --> Block List and type the name. His profile picture will show up though I guess. At first I thought you had to actually go to their page, but this isn't the case
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