daphne Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Her experience is the typical for many females. The problem isn't there is no interest but no guy is ever good enough. This plays out the same way irl for such girls. Only a guy or a girl like you will understand what you are going through. These prissy princesses won't understand the true horrors of dating until their pool of men dries up in their 40's or 50's even then it still won't be that bad. They'll cry about it but it is more about the pool they lost which they had back in their prime, i.e. 20's to a lesser extent their 30's. Such girls? A little bitter are you?
BeginAgain Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Such girls? A little bitter are you? Always baby. Down to the last drop but it doesn't change the facts of the matter. You are just upset we are on the internet in a forum where we are on more equal footing. irl of course we aren't and that's where you hold the upper hand.
daphne Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Always baby. Down to the last drop but it doesn't change the facts of the matter. You are just upset we are on the internet in a forum where we are on more equal footing. irl of course we aren't and that's where you hold the upper hand. Ouch. At least you're honest. I could lie and say I disagree with you, but there's truth in what you say. But I'm more down to earth than caring who's holding the upper hand based on superficial data.
BeginAgain Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Ouch. At least you're honest. I could lie and say I disagree with you, but there's truth in what you say. But I'm more down to earth than caring who's holding the upper hand based on superficial data. If one is to be mired in the earth then they need to take serious note of the surroundings, one of them being the human social hierarchy. It is an important contributing factor in what desires are met, which will never be, and everything that comes to pass in the context of human society.
PJKino Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Welcome to a man's world if your a Man under 5'9 in the online dating world you might as well be a leper Online is where most women have an advantage,its usually average women looking to get guys out of their league
Author orangelady Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Welcome to a man's world if your a Man under 5'9 in the online dating world you might as well be a leper Online is where most women have an advantage,its usually average women looking to get guys out of their league Oh pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I could say the same about women. If you're above 100lbs and don't have that 'cute' or 'hot' look, our profiles are ready to go into the bins. And if we don't have tats.
Cee Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Orangelady - Maybe you could talk to your friends and get ideas from them. We are strangers so we can't read your profile. Have them take a gander at it and give you tips.
Author orangelady Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Orangelady - Maybe you could talk to your friends and get ideas from them. We are strangers so we can't read your profile. Have them take a gander at it and give you tips. Err...friends? I can't let them know I'm on a dating profile. They'll think I'm weird or a despo. But maybe I'll ask an online friend..........Good idea though, Cee. Thanks.
sumdude Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Err...friends? I can't let them know I'm on a dating profile. They'll think I'm weird or a despo. But maybe I'll ask an online friend..........Good idea though, Cee. Thanks. If they're really your friends they would be more than happy to help you and not judge you. Seems like you're kinda unhappy about the fact you're even trying online dating and I'll bet that comes through in your profile and communication. There's nothing weird or desperate about online dating in the 21st century. Other than the experience itself feels a bit off.. to me at least. FWIW I may get a response from one out of 20 or more e-mails so don't take it too personally when one person doesn't replay. The couple of times I didn't respond to an email sent to me it was usually an obvious compatibility thing, she was too far away or I wasn't attracted at some level. Point being that I'm just one guy out of thousands in my area and some other guy might think she's the cats meow..
Author orangelady Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 The couple of times I didn't respond to an email sent to me it was usually an obvious compatibility thing, she was too far away or I wasn't attracted at some level. Yeah, same thing..........
Thedude22 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Oh pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I could say the same about women. If you're above 100lbs and don't have that 'cute' or 'hot' look, our profiles are ready to go into the bins. And if we don't have tats. Not true. At all. You had one guy not email you back don't get all dramatic. You can be 200lbs and have snaggle teeth and guys will still message you on there, give it some time, no matter how ugly you are (or aren't) guys will flock to you on the net. Unless you're over 30, then things balance out a bit more.
Author orangelady Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Not true. At all. You had one guy not email you back don't get all dramatic. Uh, no. I emailed about 30-40 and only about one or two got back to me but when I wrote back, they stopped. You can be 200lbs and have snaggle teeth and guys will still message you on there, give it some time, no matter how ugly you are (or aren't) guys will flock to you on the net. Unless you're over 30, then things balance out a bit more. You don't have anything to prove that this is true.
Thedude22 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Uh, no. I emailed about 30-40 and only about one or two got back to me but when I wrote back, they stopped. You don't have anything to prove that this is true. There is obviously something wrong with your profile or your message approach then. The only way this could be true is if you are really old and/or are some kind of burn victim. It should be extremely easy for you. 2 messages out of 30-40 is ridiculously bad. I think even if you didn't have a picture you'd at least get 1 out of 10.
MarlyStar Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Paste and copy your profile here Orange, like I did. It gives us an idea of what's going on.
Sivok Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 If I don't find you attractive, I don't care how witty or interesting your message/profile is, you aren't getting a response back. This must be an issue with your pictures - bland and uninteresting. Fix that, hell maybe get some professional taken (alot of photographers now have sessions specifically for online dating appeal), and you'll be very surprised at the result. You can sit here and whine about how life is unfair and you aren't an Adriana Lima attracting every man you desire, or you can take advantage of that imbalance and tip the odds in your favor. Read up on Cleopatra, she was extremely unattractive but her theatrics and unpredictability made her the desire of the most powerful/attractive men in the world. The modern Cleopatra? Lady Gaga. Hell, look at that goth japanese chick BA linked earlier. She doesn't have looks without makeup, but her theatrics is what got her noticed (im not saying go to those extremes, but you get the point). If you don't have the looks, then you need to make up for it in spades elsewhere. This is fact.
Hules Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yeah, Orange I was going to suggest PMing me your profile, but uh your account here doesn't allow PM's yet. Obviously something is amiss with your approach. What "types" of guys are you messaging? If you don't mind me asking.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Paste and copy your profile here Orange, like I did. It gives us an idea of what's going on. and what response did you get? I'm scared of pasting my profile here as I know LS-ers would find everything wrong with it. Look how they're so sarcastic with me on here. (not you)
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Yeah, Orange I was going to suggest PMing me your profile, but uh your account here doesn't allow PM's yet. Obviously something is amiss with your approach. What "types" of guys are you messaging? If you don't mind me asking. Sigh. Well, if I pasted a link of my profile from OKC, would you be able to view it anyways? Not unless you're a member I think. I mostly message guys who have funny, light hearted but interesting profiles.
MarlyStar Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 and what response did you get? I'm scared of pasting my profile here as I know LS-ers would find everything wrong with it. Look how they're so sarcastic with me on here. (not you) They were very nice and helpful with me when I did it. WayneBrady won't be much help, but everyone else usually is.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Maybe you should create a new and separate fake profile with a stunning photo to see if they will respond. Funny thing about that. Years ago, a female friend of mine - Swedish model - decided to join a gaming forum because her brother was one of the rising stars in the E-gaming community. She didn't even upload a full body picture, it was just a random picture of her with those winter hats on. Couple of minutes after uploading the picture, she literally received hundreds of private messages praising her looks, and asking her to be E-buddies. It was rather funny when she showed me all of those messages. I honestly don't understand what's with these guys to growl at someone's feet, especially when its impossible for them to even go out on a date with that person. OP, just put a regular picture of you doing something, or with friends. If a guy finds you attractive, he's gonna respond to you. But don't think that you are going to be first pick - unless you are stunning.
BeginAgain Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 and what response did you get? I'm scared of pasting my profile here as I know LS-ers would find everything wrong with it. Look how they're so sarcastic with me on here. (not you) orangelady I find you very likable. I'll even spare you of any comments I think will hurt you because I understand how hard it is for us. Though the average and above girls need to pay in blood. They have already had it too easy and gotten too much undeserved praise in life.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 orangelady I find you very likable. I'll even spare you of any comments I think will hurt you because I understand how hard it is for us. Though the average and above girls need to pay in blood. They have already had it too easy and gotten too much undeserved praise in life. I'm still scared. Seriously. I haven't even pasted my profile on here, all I did was talk about how I feel about men vs women and the whole dating thing and I got shot down like hell. I'd PM you my profile but then we're both not established members yet. I hear you only become one upon 30 days of registration. P.S: Isn't it really late in America now?
BeginAgain Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 It is 4:07 am but I am a night person. Glad to see you finally have an avatar. Welcome to the club.
WellLetsSee Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I totally understand that it hurts a lot when you think that someone does not answer because you are a creep. The only advise I can give you is ... move on. You will collect many more rejections like this, and hopefully you will get to the point to realise that everyone has their tastes and that people's selection mechanisms are utterly superficial. Nothing you can do to change that but really no reason that something is wrong with you either. Would you wanna be with a person who is not attracted to you? No. So great, pamper yourself & just move on. Believe me I had the same experiences, felt the same devastation. It is sweet when you will start realizing that you are taking things less and less personally. Because it just has nothing to do with you. That is all.
Author orangelady Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I totally understand that it hurts a lot when you think that someone does not answer because you are a creep. The only advise I can give you is ... move on. You will collect many more rejections like this, and hopefully you will get to the point to realise that everyone has their tastes and that people's selection mechanisms are utterly superficial. Nothing you can do to change that but really no reason that something is wrong with you either. Would you wanna be with a person who is not attracted to you? No. So great, pamper yourself & just move on. Believe me I had the same experiences, felt the same devastation. It is sweet when you will start realizing that you are taking things less and less personally. Because it just has nothing to do with you. That is all. Thanks.........I hear you. I don't want to attract the wrong person. Many times I am so tempted to write a profile that will attract guys and put a photo of myself in seductive photos but..............I don't want to deal with the wrong kinda guys either....
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