nana841121 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Have you imagine what will you do or react when you bump into your ex? Give him/her a punch on the face? (Just kidding , but the desire is real) Or ignore him/her , pretend not seeing him/her Or greet like an acquaintance ？
Fufu Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 punch him part is rather funny but I will not do it. No point hurting my hand. Even if I spot him, I will not stop and say hi to him.
DancingNancies Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I've been living in total fear of seeing my ex. I have no idea where she lives now (but know she is in the area) and it feels with me dread the thouht of seeing her annoying little face! I'm having therapy at the min so am hoping this fear will pass. If I did see her again (which is quite likely because the gay scene is relatively small) I honesly dont know what I'd do..I'd hope to be dignified and stoic and maybe say Hi and carry on regardless. I fear in reality I would break down and sob like a child!
Author nana841121 Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 I've been living in total fear of seeing my ex. I have no idea where she lives now (but know she is in the area) and it feels with me dread the thouht of seeing her annoying little face! I'm having therapy at the min so am hoping this fear will pass. If I did see her again (which is quite likely because the gay scene is relatively small) I honesly dont know what I'd do..I'd hope to be dignified and stoic and maybe say Hi and carry on regardless. I fear in reality I would break down and sob like a child! How long have you been split up ? Different timing determines different mood I want to present the best of me in front of him , if the encounter happens
Author nana841121 Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 I heard one of my friends who broke up with her BF three months ago. They lives in the same neigborhood. so even she just go out and run errands like buying a piece of newspaper , she would wear make-up and doll up herself , just in case . it's about dignity. Although i said , it is not a good sign which means she still cares about her ex. my friend didn't admit that she had feeling linger on her ex. she said it is a complicated feeling, she wants to live a better life than him.that's all
Good Arms Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I'm in the unfortunate position of having to work in the same building as my ex. I've only had to walk right past her twice, and I've just given a smile and a hello - nothing more. It killed me both times (especially as the second time she was going to lunch with some guy - possibly her new b/f ) but I'm glad that I showed her the best I could that I wasn't bitter/resentful, even if it's just a facade and in truth I'm struggling to 'forgive' her/accept her reasons for dumping me and for the hurt it's caused.
yolatanga Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 We broke up after 8 yrs. 6 mos ago. Pretty much NC. He would e-mail me but I finally cut that off. It was making feel like crap. He wouldn't see me, nothing. Not even a phone call. I finally said I was going to NC at all as I am worthy of more than these crumbs he was dishing me. Well anyway, I was out with friends last night at my usual hang out. He came in stood right next to me and just stood there. I could tell he was looking me up and down, but I keep talking to my girlfriend. I never looked at him. Finally I walked away to head to the ladies room and get my grip together. When I came back up I made sure I was laughing and having a good time. When I finally looked without him knowing he looks like hell. Bloated, hair unkept..etc. Not good. Thankfully I looked a heck of a lot better..LOL Now I wonder does he miss me?...etc. If he did. He'd make an effort. I saw him again today at the shopping strip where we both live near. He looked. I went on my merry way. Sigh
melenkurion Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I have no idea. I think I would walk right on by. That is what would cause me the least amount of pain. Stopping to chat: what's the point? It just rakes over stuff that does me no good. I hope it doesn't happen, but I think there is a chance that it might.
smudge21 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Current ex... no idea - hide probably! Previous ex that I felt just as strongly for - well I already know the answer to that one. We met up, had coffee, chatted. She offered me her number but I said no thanks, nice to catch up and left. She'd turned her back on me and by the time we met up (a year later) every single feeling for her had gone. All that was left was some memories about how hurt I'd been. It was wierd but cool in a way to be that way with her. Not to care at all.
ASG Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 My ex and I broke up on very good terms, so if we bumped in to each other, we would go over, say hi, have a chat and then carry on with whatever it was we were doing.
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