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BeginAgain Established Member

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It seems to be something women do when they can't get enough guys to jerk around at home. Seriously, what is the point? What is wrong with these people? I feel my head is going to asplode.

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Have some shrimp tacos. Maybe it'll help you feel better.

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Attention, ego boost?

 

I guess it's why I've joined one myself and I'm a guy.

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Have some shrimp tacos. Maybe it'll help you feel better.

I just had pizza. I'm full.

orangelady Established Member

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It seems to be something women do when they can't get enough guys to jerk around at home. Seriously, what is the point? What is wrong with these people? I feel my head is going to asplode.

 

I don't quite get you. Are you saying women on dating sites don't want to date or engage in sexual activity?

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Some, especially women, seem to like to go on dating sites for other things not remotely close to dating, i.e. friendship. I am asking LS why?

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It's BS.

They do it to alleviate their guilt for being shallow & yes to get guys chasing after them.

 

If they are attracted to you the whole "friends" thing goes right out the window & their jumping your bones.

 

No woman "looking for friends" is going to friendzone a Brad Pitt look alike they find on a dating site if he's interested in her.

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Some, especially women, seem to like to go on dating sites for other things not remotely close to dating, i.e. friendship. I am asking LS why?

 

Hmm I wonder why? Why do you think women are looking for friendships on dating sites?

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It's BS.

They do it to alleviate their guilt for being shallow & yes to get guys chasing after them.

 

If they are attracted to you the whole "friends" thing goes right out the window & their jumping your bones.

 

No woman "looking for friends" is going to friendzone a Brad Pitt look alike they find on a dating site if he's interested in her.

 

That is true for most women. But for me, I would be intimidated to even send an email to a really attractive guy that is out of my league. I don't think I want or even get a chance to date a guy look alike Brad Pitt probably because I am not looking for that high of a standards in a guy in the looks department. Wise women would know that handsome men don't make good bfs and you're only looking for trouble.

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I don't understand that either. It's almost like some people rather email/IM random strangers than leave the house and get some fresh air.

 

Or perhaps some people have something to hide. Like they are different from their profile or they have a lover sleeping in the next room. Or a not-so-quite ex partner still in their lives. I've encountered all of those situations.

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It seems to be something women do when they can't get enough guys to jerk around at home. Seriously, what is the point? What is wrong with these people? I feel my head is going to asplode.

 

 

Wow, I was just thinking the same thing.....I have seem some rather VERY attractive women on POF and the like, and it boggles MY mind as to why they even NEED a dating site to meet men??

 

Either

 

1. There's something psychologically wrong with them.

2. SO picky, they got sick of the men they keep bumping into in real life on a day to day basis.

3. They actually DO get plenty of dates with men they meet in REAL life, but they just put up a profile for recreational purposes.....with on intention of even meeting men online (yes, even the attractive men)....they see the 100 emails they got, log off, and go off on a date with a guy they met at a bookstore.

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Last night I started a very similar thread about Online Dating. Except it was about why men were online, some daily, but never really actually going out.

 

I mentioned one guy whom I knew looked like his photo, knew had the right income listed, knew was single and he was still online daily, including prime dating nights, weekends. He said he'd been doing this for a couple years. Why? Why not be out on dates? If you pull up the search for what he says he's looking for in his profile there's like 400 women who have been online in the last 3 days. I don't believe he couldn't get a date. I would have dated him (but he said he wasn't comfortable dating people from work).

 

I wonder if it's an addiction type thing. I felt a touch of it myself. I've deactivated for a couple months but still check once or twice a week. It's like there's a cadre of people who just want to browse but won't take the next step. What's the point?

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They actually, and arragoantely put in their profiles, "I'm drowning ina SEA of emails, come save me!!"

 

First of all that sentence makes NO sense. It's just a cocky remark stating, "Look at me, I'm so HOT, that I have all these men EMAILING ME! But I won't respond to them though, nor even go out on a 30 min. coffee break to get to know them."

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I really think that 50% of the people online dating do it because they like online flirting. Many of the rest ,indvding beautiful and handsome people, lack the confidence to approach.

 

@ Backburner

 

Something very similar happens to me. The women look at my page day after day but do not respond to messages. Online during takes a degree of assertiveness that many women don't have. Plus a guy like your friend may seem to be "out of their league "to many women. So they don't consider him either deciding they could do better or that they'd never keep him.

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They actually, and arragoantely put in their profiles, "I'm drowning ina SEA of emails, come save me!!"

 

First of all that sentence makes NO sense. It's just a cocky remark stating, "Look at me, I'm so HOT, that I have all these men EMAILING ME! But I won't respond to them though, nor even go out on a 30 min. coffee break to get to know them."

 

You know what's funny though? I find that those men who are amazingly attractive usually have that "replies very selectively" on their profile (on OKC)

 

One day I decided to check out my competitors (female profiles) and damn most of them are hot and attractive...and have their cutesy profile...I really do wonder why they need to resort to dating sites.

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I really do wonder why they need to resort to dating sites.

 

I don't mean to pick on you, because I've seen this said many times, but I don't think that using online dating sites is any sort of last resort. It's just another way to (try to) meet people you might like. Some of these people don't need to resort to it, but they're choosing to give it a try just like some people choose to go to a singles bar or night club.

 

I sometimes see similar things written in profiles, like "I can't believe it's come to online dating..." and similar. I tend not to contact those people because it makes me think they're only expecting to find the last apple in the barrel.

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I don't mean to pick on you, because I've seen this said many times, but I don't think that using online dating sites is any sort of last resort. It's just another way to (try to) meet people you might like. Some of these people don't need to resort to it, but they're choosing to give it a try just like some people choose to go to a singles bar or night club.

 

I sometimes see similar things written in profiles, like "I can't believe it's come to online dating..." and similar. I tend not to contact those people because it makes me think they're only expecting to find the last apple in the barrel.

 

It's okay, I'm not offended. But honestly, I wish others would see it like you do but most don't. I daren't tell ANYone that I'm on a dating site because it's so lame. Most people see it THIS way:

 

You're on a dating site because...

 

1) You can't even attract anyone in real life, you have to go ONLINE where you advertise yourself.

 

2) because you're not attractive enough to get anyone in real life to like you.

 

3) Your social life is dead and you're not sociable enough that you are not meeting enough people.

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I don't mean to pick on you, because I've seen this said many times, but I don't think that using online dating sites is any sort of last resort. It's just another way to (try to) meet people you might like. Some of these people don't need to resort to it, but they're choosing to give it a try just like some people choose to go to a singles bar or night club.

 

 

True...and possible with some of the people. However, there have been people I've seen their faces on a constant basis on the site. They've been drawn into the addiction of online dating.

 

Some have even ADMITTED to liking online dating MORE so than regular social interaction at a party or something through a group.

 

I knew of this woman, she actually stopped attending a church singles group, found out about Yahoo personals, and said she actually preferred ONLINE dating over real life encounters because, well....if you're stuck by the punch bowl and guys that are approaching you, well, aren't your cup of tea, you're stuck there listening to them.

 

Online, they LOVE the fact they can ignore or hit the delete button of any email that comes their way. You can't really do that in real life...you're kind of stuck there chatting with them, being polite....and gosh forbid actually getting to KNOW the person...heck, could turn out you might wind up LIKING the guy...get my drift? LOL

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It's okay, I'm not offended. But honestly, I wish others would see it like you do but most don't. I daren't tell ANYone that I'm on a dating site because it's so lame. Most people see it THIS way:

 

You're on a dating site because...

 

1) You can't even attract anyone in real life, you have to go ONLINE where you advertise yourself.

 

2) because you're not attractive enough to get anyone in real life to like you.

 

3) Your social life is dead and you're not sociable enough that you are not meeting enough people.

1) Yes

 

2) Yes

 

3) Yes

 

I got the trifecta. What did I win?

oaks Established Member

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I got the trifecta. What did I win?

 

You're a guy... so the prize is an empty inbox. ;)

orangelady Established Member

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1) Yes

 

2) Yes

 

3) Yes

 

I got the trifecta. What did I win?

 

A BLT sammich. So where's your link profile for OKC? Don't forget to add your recent pic.

orangelady Established Member

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You're a guy... so the prize is an empty inbox. ;)

 

I'm a girl and I always have empty inboxes. It has come to a point that I actually fear sending anymore emails. Seriously.

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....Some have even ADMITTED to liking online dating MORE so than regular social interaction at a party or something through a group.

 

...Online, they LOVE the fact they can ignore or hit the delete button of any email that comes their way. You can't really do that in real life...you're kind of stuck there chatting with them, being polite....and gosh forbid actually getting to KNOW the person...heck, could turn out you might wind up LIKING the guy...get my drift? LOL

 

But it's not actually online dating unless you actually walk away from the computer and show up for a face to face date, right?

 

Let's admit that it's not a woman thing, both men and women do it. But why?

 

One possibility:

 

Some people are just odd in real life and can cover it up online. They have a strangeness about them that inexplicably turns people off in real life, and they've learned NOT to meet people; things work better anonymously. So IRL they can't make anything work, but OLD they can have a virtual dating life. A virtual dating life is better than nothing--which is what they know they are going to get if they meet.

 

There's a guy at work I'll call Norbert. He's odd, strange, off--I can't explain what's wrong with him, but I don't want to talk to him, make eye contact, or get in an elevator with him. He's worked there 20 years and has the highest of security clearances and there's NEVER been even a HINT of anything inappropriate about him, no rumor, slander, complaint, or anything. But... I'm not the only one who stays away from him; almost everyone does. I feel sorry for him, but I still don't want to get in an elevator with him. I don't undersand it.

 

Norbert has a profile online. His picture is flattering, but not deceptive. His profile is intelligence and good, mildly interesting, and accurate too. I can't imagine, in fact I KNOW, Norbert would not be picky. He'd be fine with a 5'3" 180 lb mid forties woman with children and a pink collar career. There are a lot of those women out there. But--she'd have one real date with him and she'd be in the uncomfortable position of having to say 'no thank you' 'you're a nice guy but...' . I doubt Norbert would be a stalker, but I doubt anyone no matter how desperate will want Norbert.

 

My guess is Norbert, and people like him are better off keeping it online and not meeting.

 

So one reason is people know they will ruin it by meeting, and restrict themselves to OLD is that they know the present better online for whatever reason than in person.

 

(in contrast I know I present better in person--and I think that's the case with most people).

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I'm a girl and I always have empty inboxes. It has come to a point that I actually fear sending anymore emails. Seriously.

 

hmm. Not sure what to suggest other than to target your emails better and/or get a better photo (and I don't know what you write or what look like, but it's usually possible to improve both up to a point).

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A BLT sammich. So where's your link profile for OKC? Don't forget to add your recent pic.

I was just fooling around with it a little bit to see what it was like. Remember I don't have a camera yet. Of course I would add a recent pic or better yet an 11 year old pic.

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