Dreqqus Posted April 5, 2004 Posted April 5, 2004 Ok this is my problem/riddle: I have been dating this girl for almost 3 months and I freely admit that i am honestly in love with her. But I am trying to take things slow so as not to hurt myself or the girl. I have already planned when i want to tell her, her birthday may 17, at which point we will have been dating for 4 months my question is: DO you think this is too soon? (BTW I am 20 she is 19) Thanks for you help in advance, Dreqqus
Fedup&givingup Posted April 5, 2004 Posted April 5, 2004 I don't think it's too soon at all. In fact, it shows that you know that you feel that way.
DerangedAngel Posted April 5, 2004 Posted April 5, 2004 Nope, not too soon. I hope it goes well. -Deranged
Author Dreqqus Posted April 5, 2004 Author Posted April 5, 2004 Man that was fast thanks for the support. I am a college student and still live at home with the 'rents, and my mom thinks we're moving too fast cause we spend a lot of time together. My younger(17) brother thinks i am not moving fast enough. Everybody else seems to think that this is a good plan, with my best friend thinking i should kinda softly start breaking it too her between now and then(a quick i love you after she does something nice for me for example). What do you think??
MarKus Posted April 5, 2004 Posted April 5, 2004 No thats not too soon, and i think its great that you picked her birthday to tell her, Just tell her you love her. Good luck
flwrchld68 Posted April 5, 2004 Posted April 5, 2004 If you feel it tell her. It sounds as if you are right on track with things. 4 months is the perfect amount of time. your past the infatuation stage and know that it is real at that point. On the bright side she probably wants to say it too.
spencer Posted April 6, 2004 Posted April 6, 2004 Originally posted by Dreqqus and my mom thinks we're moving too fast cause we spend a lot of time together. you could date for 30 years and some moms would think that as too soon. it doesn't have to be a big deal, but i would try to make it a memorable one. I think her birthday is a perfect time to express your love. take her out to whatever you plan to do and tell her this is a very special day. then tell her its not only her bday, but its another day to remember. when she asks what else, and you could play it, and make her try to guess. then tell her its the day you told her "I Love You" sappy and romantic. perfect. girls like this stuff,
Author Dreqqus Posted April 6, 2004 Author Posted April 6, 2004 Thanks again for your help. It has really helped put most of my fears/anxiety to bed. But the plus side is I am now 99.98% sure that she feels the same way about me b/c we were at the mall yesterday and she said "you know you l---" she was going to say love me but broke it off cause she knows that we both want to take things slow.
sumchapchip Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 Alright dude! I'm gonna play devils advocate here. Why do you love her or what do you love about her?
Crys0369 Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 My boyfriend told me he loved me after a week and we stayed together for a good 2 years...It's never too soon as long as you mean it.
mintjulep Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 Originally posted by spencer you could date for 30 years and some moms would think that as too soon. Haha, I read somewhere that mothers think that all "love" is an infatuation until the wedding, and some mothers continue to think this way indefinitely. I would tell her on her birthday, if that's how you feel. You can't get hurt if you don't tell her, but you'll never know how she feels if you don't tell her, either.
mintjulep Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 Originally posted by sumchapchip Alright dude! I'm gonna play devils advocate here. Why do you love her or what do you love about her? I don't think that's really the definition of devil's advocate.
sumchapchip Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 It's my 8th grade English teacher from hell. . . . you're not one of them, are you?
mintjulep Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 I'm not an english teacher, but I'm a big fan of wanting others to master the language and use the spell checker.
MustBeGoingCrazy Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 It's only too soon if you think you are simply saying it as it is the expected thing to say. The words have no meaning if there isn't substance behind them, so they are always appropriate to say, so long as you mean them.
Author Dreqqus Posted April 13, 2004 Author Posted April 13, 2004 Well I love everything about her. She's beautiful, funny, intelligent. I had a crush on her for a wile before I asked her out and she feels the same way. I actually wen ahead and told her yesterday.
spencer Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 and ........................... ........................we want the details..................she said?
Author Dreqqus Posted April 14, 2004 Author Posted April 14, 2004 We were sitting on my bed necking. I told her that there was something i wanted to tell her(at this point i got that nervous tight feeling in my chest) I told her that i wanted to be with her for a long, long time. She said that she never wanted to leave me. Then I told her "I lulove you", and she immediately replied that she loved me too, after which we shared a long hug/kiss. We've been saying nearly every time we say goodbye since then. On a related issue, I am pretty sure that we are meant to be together. A woman I work with said that there is a oneness between us that she doesn't think shes ever seen before. That makes me feel greatly.
MarKus Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Congratulations!! You see it wasnt too soon was it....its all about timing....and it was the right time for you
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