Hopeless Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 My boyfriend now ex is going to a psychologist. He says needs an answer as to why he's acting down. Today I confessed that I contacted my ex boyfriend cause my ex boyfriend and I ended on bad terms. I just wanted good closure. I told him cause I didnt wanna keep any secrets and be honest. That really bothered him and he insisted on the break. I knew he wanted the break anyways even if I didnt tell him about my ex. He said he dumped me the 1st time because he thought I didnt love him the same way. Now its just confusing. He said lets not talk for exactly 3 months. I was ok with it Im not gonna die or anything. But what does it mean?
homebrew Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 My boyfriend now ex is going to a psychologist. He says needs an answer as to why he's acting down. Today I confessed that I contacted my ex boyfriend cause my ex boyfriend and I ended on bad terms. I just wanted good closure. I told him cause I didnt wanna keep any secrets and be honest. That really bothered him and he insisted on the break. I knew he wanted the break anyways even if I didnt tell him about my ex. He said he dumped me the 1st time because he thought I didnt love him the same way. Now its just confusing. He said lets not talk for exactly 3 months. I was ok with it Im not gonna die or anything. But what does it mean? Just hang in there... and stick to your guns... You hurt him and by taking a breaking he is trying to hurt you back. You did the right thing by being honest. When you do hear from him again. Let him know that his is the ONE you want. Tell him why you reached out to EX and you are glad that you were able to share it with him. Also, let him know if there will be anymore contact with the EX. He will get over it soon enough... Just "play" along with him for now. Just stick to you guns about you being honest with him and care enough about him and seeing this work that you thought he needed / deserved to know.... If he gives you any grief... Tell him, you are not the type of person and are unable to keep things from him. Which is a win / win for him.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 (edited) Just hang in there... and stick to your guns... You hurt him and by taking a breaking he is trying to hurt you back. You did the right thing by being honest. When you do hear from him again. Let him know that his is the ONE you want. Tell him why you reached out to EX and you are glad that you were able to share it with him. Also, let him know if there will be anymore contact with the EX. He will get over it soon enough... Just "play" along with him for now. Just stick to you guns about you being honest with him and care enough about him and seeing this work that you thought he needed / deserved to know.... If he gives you any grief... Tell him, you are not the type of person and are unable to keep things from him. Which is a win / win for him. I am playing along. I dont know what it is but I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. I actually shouted "I dont want to love anyone anymore but you" . See thing is, he's very possesive and Im more of a free bird. He had a horrible relationship before me where the girl got pregnant from her ex and put him down that he had to go to a psychologist. After that dating for him has been ****ty but he said Im the only girl that he dated that hes has truly loved. Knowing that I am the way I am (more independant), he got scared and dumped me a first time with because he thought I didnt love him like he did. We were 2 weeks apart and in 2 weeks he begged for me to ttake him back and asked me out and now this is the second break up. He told me please just finish up school and Ill see u 3 months. I was like fine. He dared me to not talk to him. I feel like a yo-yo Edited April 9, 2011 by Hopeless Girl
homebrew Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 All of his issues are not your problem... Don't accept them. Make sure you hand his problems back to him. Whenever he tries to control you and manipulate you... An example of this is him taking a break because you spoke to an Ex. Acknowledge why it is he feels that way but let him know that you are not his EX and you are not going to pay for crimes that you didn't commit. Me personally... I wouldn't date someone that isn't healthy... and he isn't. It's great that he is seeing someone to get there though.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 All of his issues are not your problem... Don't accept them. Make sure you hand his problems back to him. Whenever he tries to control you and manipulate you... An example of this is him taking a break because you spoke to an Ex. Acknowledge why it is he feels that way but let him know that you are not his EX and you are not going to pay for crimes that you didn't commit. Me personally... I wouldn't date someone that isn't healthy... and he isn't. It's great that he is seeing someone to get there though. Is this another way of him telling me that he doesnt want a relationship with me cause he doesnt see himself with me in the future? I asked for him to tell me that he didnt love me anymore and he did and I said "ur lying" and he said "I am". Anyways why did he pick those 3 months? Im seeing him anyways next thursday in a concert so thats gonna be weird (we are not going together). I just feel like hes gonna get over me and Im not cause DING DING im the oone that got rejected but even so I still love him thats why I DIDNT WANT THE BREAK. But Im doing this for his happiness.
homebrew Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Is this another way of him telling me that he doesnt want a relationship with me cause he doesnt see himself with me in the future? I asked for him to tell me that he didnt love me anymore and he did and I said "ur lying" and he said "I am". Anyways why did he pick those 3 months? Im seeing him anyways next thursday in a concert so thats gonna be weird (we are not going together). I just feel like hes gonna get over me and Im not cause DING DING im the oone that got rejected but even so I still love him thats why I DIDNT WANT THE BREAK. But Im doing this for his happiness. You are in the drivers seat... If you can get your confidence back and get in the mindset of "For me" (Click on it in my signature)... You will put yourself in the best possible position to get him back. We don't want a puppy dog... We want a strong, confident person... Just like the person you were when he met you! Want to get back to that strong, confident person? I will tell you exactly how to do that... It's so easy! You need to change what you are thinking / feeling about you and your situation. Look up Personal Affirmations about Love, Relationships, Success, Motivation, fear, Happiness and Joy up on the web... Make a list of them... 50 or so. Say them out loud with feeling and emotion every morning and at night before you go to bed. Do this for 30 days! Whenever you start to have negative thoughts or feelings... Say several of them throughout your day. After about a week of doing that you will be AMAZED at how you feel... and after a month... You will feel like a different person! We are what we think we are... All you have to do is CHANGE THE MESSAGE!!!!
Author Hopeless Girl Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 (edited) I read your GIGS sypmtoms. Exactly like my ex. He tells me move on, date bla bla and we'll talk in 3 months. I just want to text him right now and tell him ITS OVER for good. He told his best friend the first time he dumped me that he thought I could find some one more compatible (she told me). BTW, i cant see how to sen u a pm.. my email is [email protected] Edited April 9, 2011 by Hopeless Girl
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