bobsegat000 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 (edited) My ex girlfriend were 11 months together and we're seniors in high school. We chose colleges and talked about long distance relationships. Then in March everything went downhill for me. 1. I was rejected from the college I wanted to go to. 2. She didn't want to stay in Missouri for college, she wants to go to New York where she got in. 3. Family was always fighting so lots of tension. So for the whole month I was weak...I leaned on my girlfriend way too much and I would get mad whenever I wanted to talk to her and she wasn't available. One time at night we were on the phone and we were talking and she said she had to go eat fruit with her parents and I said "it's either me or your parents, choose" that was my BIG mistake. So I hung up on her because my head was boiling with anger. The next day she broke up with me. I got her to come over to my house so we could talk. I begged her to stay and that I was sorry. Her reasons for breaking up were: 1. She hates it when I get mad because she always gets hurt. 2. She already made the decision to break up with me so if she turned her back on this choice she would lose respect for herself. 3. I played way too much video games instead of hanging out with her. 4. she feels i don't respect her decision on going to New York instead of staying with me in Missouri. I apologized for all these things, but she kept on saying she wouldn't change her mind about it. Two days later I called her at midnight because I couldn't give up. I told her how I felt about her and the things I would sacrifice to just try the long distance relationship out once we head to college. I told her that I was extremely sorry and that I respected her so much and that she was someone I wasn't willing to lose so easily. After 4 hours of talking on the phone she said "give me a few days to think about it" I waited for 3 days and she got back to me. We were in my car and she said "im sorry, but I dont want to be hurt anymore, but I still love you so much, but I dont want to be hurt and also going against my decision will make me feel less respectful of myself" I told her that hurt will be everywhere in the world and that if she was with me that I would change (because already my anger has subsided so much) and be there for her always. She wouldn't let up. So later that day I went over to her house and dropped all her gifts that she gave to me at her front door step. I regretted it. I called her that night and closed the relationship properly. I also told her that if she ever is willing to come back and forgive me that i'll be there for her always. It's been 5 days now. At school we walked to our cars once and talked a bit, and one time i just sat with her and talked to her about just homework and stuff. I try to not communicate with her as much as I can, but sometimes i'm just not able to. The few times we did communicate it was friendly, but awkward. Tonight I called her to see if she wanted to maybe get lunch tomorrow. She said she had work and was actually going to go shopping with her friend, but next time she said we could. I said that's alright and then there was this awkward silence and she said "well i'm doing homework so i'll talk to you later". Is there anyway I can win her back? I was thinking maybe asking her to prom which is coming up in 3 weeks. I really am sorry for everything wrong i've done to her and I want her back and I know that if we are back together I'll change because I love her so much. Please tell me what I should do. I've already kind of moved on by taking up old hobbies that i gave up when I was with her like reading novels and working out. stuff like that. But I know I want her back, no other girl really interests me. To me she's different than any other girl I've gone out with. She gave her virginity to me and so did I to her. So she means so much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Edited April 9, 2011 by bobsegat000
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