DollyGirl12 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 And we wonder why so many relationships fail these days. In my opinion this is a complete disrespect of the relationship you are in with someone if you keep a profile active and are checking it. Are people that bored these days that they cannot find something more constructive to do other than to be online, chatting, emailing, etc. with the opposite sex when they are involved with someone?
Bionic Me Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I found my bffs live-in boyfriend on AM. He seemed to have been logging in everyday and had recent pictures. POS!
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Sorry, but if I were dating someone and he still had his profile active (and especially if he was regularly updating it and adding new pictures), I would not consider the relationship to be exclusive (and would inform him of this). Anyone who does this is just waiting for someone better to come along.
carhill Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 So I guess no one here will admit that they are in LTR and still having an active profile? All of my LTR's and one M resulted from online meetings and I removed my profile (meaning I deleted it) once I was dating exclusively. 'I can't imagine spending time with anyone else. How do you feel about that?' If the feeling was mutual, then: 'I see no need to have a personals profile. How do you feel about that?' Then, proceed as warranted. People who have had the above conversation and who keep profiles active and updated, especially on pay sites (mine were a mix of free and pay), especially without any indication that they are attached/exclusive and without disclosure/transparency, are, IMO, up to something, and it's not healthy. If I ran across such a person, exclusivity would morph into erasure.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 kept mine open but i changed my relationship status once i began dating exclusively. it's inactive, i kept other accounts hidden and would delete it totally when i get married. my fiance and i decided we would write our testimonial later when we get married so we're keeping it for that purpose.
veggirl Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Yes it means not actively looking for a new partner. However it does not mean "forsaking all others as long as you both shall live". When people are dating exclusively they should never make plans more than one month in the future...and don't even bank on those. Try to remember while caught up in the honeymoon haze that dating is just dating. It's casual even when it's serious. Either party can and more than likely will just walk away at some point. I am aware of all of this. But, you don't have to jump from looking around at all options to "forsaking all others as long as you both shall live". There is a middle ground, that IMO, is "dating exclusively". It means that for now, we are seeing where WE go, without the interference of others. HOW is someone going to get to the "forsaking all others as long as you both shall live" if they don't committ to ONLY dating/pursuing one person? I don't get your logic here. Sorry, but if I were dating someone and he still had his profile active (and especially if he was regularly updating it and adding new pictures), I would not consider the relationship to be exclusive (and would inform him of this). Anyone who does this is just waiting for someone better to come along. I agree 100%.
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