jean-luc sisko Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 When I was in high school, people used to say that such and such had a bad personality, so they wouldn't date them. As things stand now in my life, does a good or bad personality exist? Isn't it relative? A person may be boring, but they could be good-natured and kind-hearted, or compassionate. Another person may be loud and gregarious, but very cold-hearted and spiteful. Another person still may be neurotic and artistic, whilst another could be stoical, quiet and really like outdoor activities and keeping fit. Who, of these four hypothetical people, has the "good" or "bad" personality? it would depend on the parties involved, right?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 If people who had bad personalities never got laid, players and Pick Up Artists would be out of business.
Knittress Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Like any other aspect of attractiveness, there's a range and a lot of it's subjective. But like there are definitely fugly folks running around, there are definitely noxious personalities as well...
P&R Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 If people who had bad personalities never got laid, players and Pick Up Artists would be out of business. This is a generalization, Muse. The people I know who I'd consider players/pick up artist actually have great personalitys.
TuffCookieX Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I think it's compatibility. Personalities are different, it's about which ones mesh and which ones clash.
Author jean-luc sisko Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 If people who had bad personalities never got laid, players and Pick Up Artists would be out of business. But what defines good or bad in personality terms? IMO, it's not being lively over being dull. Dull people get dates also. Even those who are not decent people get dates.
westernxer Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 But what defines good or bad in personality terms? IMO, it's not being lively over being dull. Dull people get dates also. Even those who are not decent people get dates. If it works in your favor, then it's a good personality. Objectivity is moot.
OliveOyl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Except for notable extremes, I agree... people can't be said to have "good" or "bad" personalities. It's very subjective. On a similar note, the term that really gets to me is the word "quality." As in, Only low quality men/women emailed me when I used that site. Eeesh. Makes people sound like cuts of meat. I'd like a high-quality, double-prime well marbled rib-eyed 45 yo male please? I personally prefer the word "compatibility." Only people who were not compatible with me emailed when I used that site.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 This is a generalization, Muse. The people I know who I'd consider players/pick up artist actually have great personalitys. Oh yes, using women for sex and then dropping them and breaking their hearts is so great. Let's all go punch someone in the face, or hit little kids, or something. Let's all be rude, nasty, and obnoxious!
DollyGirl12 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I guess a persons personality is what first attracts you, or doesn't attract you to them. I think morals and character are more important, however. Someone can have a seemingly great personality but have terrible character.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 On one hand there are all kinds of personality types and depending on maturity and temperament any and all of those types can make relationships (romantic or friendly) work. On the other hand there are the so called personality disorders(as defined by the world health organization and other health autorities) . Objectively speaking those are really "bad" personalities. So bad that such a person needs therapy in order to become remotely corrigible.
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