Thedude22 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 So I happened to see a good looking girl on facebook that has a lot of the same interests as me and really is my type. She's single and we have two mutual friends, one of which I actually hang out with now and then. Problem is I've never met this girl before and I know if I just randomly message the chick it may seem stalkery. She did add me as a friend so that's a start but the next move in this little game is key. I can randomly message her, randomly IM her or maybe try to post something on my status update that will reel her into a conversation with me. Facebook isn't great for this type of thing but the chances of me meeting this girl otherwise are highly unlikely. I just don't want to be one of those guys...you know facebook creepers. Advice?
Hules Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Facebook creeper approach very rarely works, unless the girl is bloody desperate. Otherwise you will probably creep her out. How close are you to her mutual friends, maybe ask them to introduce you?
Dlyrica Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I'd be creeped out if I didn't know the guy at all I agree with OP, ask your friend for an introduction.
Enchanted Girl Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Look through her photos and see if she has any pictures of a hobby or something she likes. Send her a message commenting on it if she does and try to keep the conversation going afterwards. Like if she has a picture of an awesome looking car, tell her how much you admire that type of car or a picture of a dog, tell her how you had a dog like that and a question to go along with it and say you just saw the pic randomly. I don't know why any girl would consider that creepy, but I've always been a very approachable person.
Author Thedude22 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) Yeah, I likely won't push forward. I actually did talk to the guy who's friends with her about her, I think they are more friends of friends though. I mean I'm a pretty good looking dude and we have a lot of the same interests buuuut I really don't want the whole Facebook creep stigma so probably will abort, added her when I was drunk anyway. Kinda a shame though. I do know some people that met this way, but doesn't seem completely kosher to me. Edited April 8, 2011 by Thedude22
Cee Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 If your common interest is music, you can share a soundcloud download to her wall. Sharing music downloads is something most people like. Then perhaps strike up a conversation about music.
Final Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You said in the first post she added you as a friend, but in the second you said you drunkenly added her. There is a big difference to adding someone and "confirming" them FYI! If she initiated the FB friending, I would proceed but with some caution. If you initiated the FB friending, then you should play it cool and stick with trying to bait her with your status updates.
Author Thedude22 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 You said in the first post she added you as a friend, but in the second you said you drunkenly added her. There is a big difference to adding someone and "confirming" them FYI! Uh yeah I know there is a difference, I don't know the exact terminology for adding someone/confirming them. If she sent me a request I'd have know problem launching the armada.
irc333 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Go ahead and go for it, the "Mutual Friend" thing is a great excuse to contact them...lead in with that. :-) So I happened to see a good looking girl on facebook that has a lot of the same interests as me and really is my type. She's single and we have two mutual friends, one of which I actually hang out with now and then. Problem is I've never met this girl before and I know if I just randomly message the chick it may seem stalkery. She did add me as a friend so that's a start but the next move in this little game is key. I can randomly message her, randomly IM her or maybe try to post something on my status update that will reel her into a conversation with me. Facebook isn't great for this type of thing but the chances of me meeting this girl otherwise are highly unlikely. I just don't want to be one of those guys...you know facebook creepers. Advice?
GottaGetAway Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I also say go for it. One of my relationships came about this way - we had several mutual friends, he added me on Facebook, we started chatting via wall posts and one day decided to hang out. Spent the whole day together and dated for a year and a half.
veggirl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 She accepted a friend request from someone she does not even know. This means she either thinks you are cute / whatever and has some sort of basic interest based on what she saw from your profile, OR it means she is one of those people who will add any/every one to up her friend count. If she has, ya know, 300+ FB friends, I wouldn't bother contacting her as she only added you to have another friend.
irc333 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yeah, there was this one woman that I actually met in real life at a party of a friends. I chatted with her some...later on, I noticed she was on my friend's friend list and I sent her a message (I did NOT Friend Request her) Just a basic "hey, it was nice meeting you at Julie's party" She responded, "Yes, it was nice meeting you too, i had a great time" And she proceeded to add me herself Turns out she had over 1000 people on her friends list.....how disingenuine, eh? lol She accepted a friend request from someone she does not even know. This means she either thinks you are cute / whatever and has some sort of basic interest based on what she saw from your profile, OR it means she is one of those people who will add any/every one to up her friend count. If she has, ya know, 300+ FB friends, I wouldn't bother contacting her as she only added you to have another friend.
veggirl Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yeah, there was this one woman that I actually met in real life at a party of a friends. I chatted with her some...later on, I noticed she was on my friend's friend list and I sent her a message (I did NOT Friend Request her) Just a basic "hey, it was nice meeting you at Julie's party" She responded, "Yes, it was nice meeting you too, i had a great time" And she proceeded to add me herself Turns out she had over 1000 people on her friends list.....how disingenuine, eh? lol Eh, I find it odd for anyone to have that many "friends".... anyhow, the difference in your scenario and his is that you had actually had a conversation/contact with the person--his is a blind add.
Author Thedude22 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 She accepted a friend request from someone she does not even know. This means she either thinks you are cute / whatever and has some sort of basic interest based on what she saw from your profile, OR it means she is one of those people who will add any/every one to up her friend count. If she has, ya know, 300+ FB friends, I wouldn't bother contacting her as she only added you to have another friend. Yup she has over 400 friends. Despite the fact the girl has a a lot of political/media/music tastes as me I doubt I will pursue anything without some sort of indicator from her or an entry point through my friend. I usually hate doing things like this but it's rare I find someone in my area with similar tastes as me. Ooooh well plenty of fish in the sea...unfortunately they are very preppy and conservative fish...like Seabass.
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