Maveric Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 ok well im new to the sight..anyway me and my girl have been together on and off for about a year i realy love her and though that she might be the one for me but she just recently found out that she cheated on me whith a guy i know kinda a friend but she cheated one me. She called me up last night and said that she needed to talk to me and she said that she had slept with this guy and that she didnt think that it was a good idea that we should be together, i was pissed and hurt that she did this to me and we talked for bout an hour and she said that she did this cas she was "lonely" wich is BS because i saw her two days before this happened we go to two different schools and i can see her only on the weekends but thats still a hell of a lot. what gets me the most was that we were actually talking about getting married as soon as school got out and she said that she loved me. well when she didnt want to talk to me any more that nigh she said that i love you and i dont want to hurt u but come on realy if she did realy love me she wouldnt have cheated on me. this sent me into a realy bad spiral and almost shot myself didnt cas some friends responded to the calls i had in to them and they talked out of it. But she wanted to marrie me why would she do that to me?? is it wrong of me to want to try to get her back, but i wouldnt realy be able to trust or look at her the same way she had sex with two guys one the first time we were dating(found that out the same night) and that other guy my friend how do i get over the pain and what do i do about her and my friend should i drive over there and kick some a** or should i let it go please someone tell me what i should do because i honestly dont know i still love her and she says that she still loves me but i dont know where the truth starts and the b******* bengins
Memphis Raines Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 get out now while the getting is good. if you stay with someone that cheated on you, you will regret it one way or another.
Sazerac Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 ...i was pissed and hurt that she did this to me and we talked for bout an hour and she said that she did this cas she was "lonely" wich is BS because i saw her two days before this happened we go to two different schools and i can see her only on the weekends but thats still a hell of a lot.... what gets me the most was that we were actually talking about getting married as soon as school got out... These are the two things that really stood out to me in your post. If you are still in school, you're probably still a bit young to be concerned about getting married and settling down--as is she. She probably wants to have fun and not be tied down. However, it says a lot about her character that she cheated on you before actually talking about how she was feeling or at least breaking up with you first. You probably dodged a bullet with this one. Trust me, there will be many more "fish in the sea" before it's all over. And please, enjoy your youth and freedom while you have it. It's not impossible to make a go out of a very young marriage--but it's very difficult.
seibert253 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Here's what you should do: Get down on your knees, and thank God he's revealed this about her NOW, not after you've been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. Plenty of other great gals out there. Your ex is not one of them.
skates89 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Hmmm yeah that is a tough one especially at a young age to be introduced to the vices and issues of being human. Being cheated on is a very very hard thing to deal with. It hurts tremendously, I know I have been on both sides of the coin. Karma I suppose. You will get past this but it wont be easy especially if you where in love as they say. My heart is nothing more than a ton of scars lol but I keep on going. Youll be ok also no dont go over a fight your friend or anything like that you will only hurt yourself even more. I would stay away from her and him and move on. If you can keep a friendship to some extent fine but otherwise id say just stay away and make new friends and best of all Think about your Dreams and go get them. You could learn a lot here early. Dont let anyone ever be that important that they are everything. I dont believe in that. Its a balance like ya know. Very hard water to navigate but I have learned some very hard lessons and what I have learned most is that I must always love myself no matter who I am with and I must keep a part of me that is seperate Im still learning myself and Im 48 but you will be ok. You can learn alot about who you are if you have faith like i do you will trust in the process of life. Through my betrayels and abandonments I learned to love myself more, to appreciate life, to treat others with respect, to see the fragility of life and people, to be a lot nicer to people, to treat others with respect even when they may not have deserved it. I learned so much and what i really learned most was how to love who i am. It took a long long long time tolearnthese things. I have hurt people in my life. I was a violent man growing up and I hurt a ton of people and it all came back to hueant me when I lost the one woman Iloved the most through cheating. Karma is a bitch but I learned so much from it. They say cheaters cheat again, I know for a fact I will never do that again and I did it out of anger under high stress ( my Dad dying etc ) but no excuses still neverhless I know thqat is not who I am anymore and never will be again I will simply just leave the next one Im with if Im not happy. I had to cheat to get out of my last one the woman would not take no for an answer. Sounds crazy but as far as Im concerned it is true. Wow my first post Ijope it helps ya
Chi townD Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 First off, no girl is worth ending your life over. Especially one that is proven to be a serial cheater. I would suggest losing this girls number. She says that she loves you? She's cheated on you at least three times that you know of during your relationship. This girl doesn't know what love is. believe me, this girl isn't worth your time. You need to go NC with this girl. I have a feeling that this girl is gonna go crazy once she figures out you're not gonna play her games and vow never to contact her again. She's gonna blow up your phone and computer; ignore it. Stay strong. You ARE, one day, gonna find a girl that DOES know what love, dedication and loyality is and she's going to be the ONE. This girl isn't it. Time to heal and move on.
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