shapp Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago, I am very hurt. I think he left me for someone else. I treated him very very well, he didnt work I helped him with all his bills I bought him clothes and shoes. I was always there for him. I have not heard from his since he left. He was saying he wanted to leanve, and was saying he did not want to. One day he came home started some mess with and left. That was it. Anyway, it is very hard I have not tried to contact him at all. I am so bitter and angry I just want o ge over him. apart still yarn for him and apart of me is relieved. He treated me like sh*t and disrespected me. stayed out all times of the night and some nights didnt come home. He do have a drinking problem and I think he do cocaine sometimes not sure. Anyway I know I do not need him but apart of me still want to hear from him. I just dont understand how he can just walk out and not look back. I really want to get over this, but my heart is heavy. He do not deserve me, and for me to feel so sad because of this man is crazy. Its tough. I feel I dont have closure the way he walked out.
TheForgotten Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Theres a million men wishing there women treated them like this. Get over him, I know I would appreciate you very much. All I can say is that if he does this he just doesn't love you. That is something you cannot help, you cannot force love upon someone else.
zakfar Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Few things you need to understand. . Maybe you were not treating him so well as you believe you were doing. . Maybe he never felt good for you. He was just using you for his bills. Now he got someone else. . Maybe this is not your love for you troubling you. It's your anger, that you treated him so well. . Maybe you are angered at him because he is the one who dumped you, and not you to dump him. . Maybe he always had other girls too. You were just one of them. . Maybe you want him back with you because you love him. . Maybe you want him to call you back and apologize, so that you can tell him 'Get lost'. Plenty of 'Maybe's here, and many more possible. Get rid of your anger, if that's the cause. You know yourself that he was not worth enough for you. Look at the points you mentioned yourself, and think as if this is someone else case. It will help you to make your decision in a lot better way. . He does not work. . He drinks, and comes late at home. . He takes drugs (probably). . He disrespects his companion. . He does not care about the house. He messes up things when he is in bad mood. . Most importantly, he left his companion without any particular reason. Don't worry, you will find someone good for you. I hope it helps. Zakfar.
Fufu Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 He chose to leave you, YOU can choose to move on and be HAPPY without him in your life. =========================================================== I am so bitter and angry I just want o ge over him. You can get over him. =========================================================== He treated me like sh*t and disrespected me. stayed out all times of the night and some nights didnt come home. He do have a drinking problem and I think he do cocaine sometimes not sure. You wouldn't want your partner for life to be someone like this. ========================================================= Anyway I know I do not need him but apart of me still want to hear from him. I just dont understand how he can just walk out and not look back. I really want to get over this, but my heart is heavy. He do not deserve me, and for me to feel so sad because of this man is crazy. Its tough. I feel I dont have closure the way he walked out. Trust me, you would be more glad you didn't hear from him. Why do you want to hear from him to tell you why he break up with you? Examples: - I am tired of you - We are not compatible - I find someone better than you - I no longer love you (Perhaps, I never even love you) The moment he CHOSE to walk out on you, you can CHOOSE to move on and be happy for yourself. Start focusing on yourself and not about him anymore. You will never gain true closure from him and why he broke up with you, you do gain the true closure from yourself when you start to move on and love yourself more. He CHOSE to hurt you, let him be. You don't have to hurt yourself anymore. Move on, start STRICT NC and begin your personal healing journey.
Author shapp Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Hi this is shapp, I did the nc for 6 days and it did work, my boyfriend called me not once, but several times today, saying he do not think he want that meaning he does not want to be without me. It sounded good but I was really not expecting to hear from him, especially the way he left. You would think I would be thrill, but apart of me is not. I am not sure I want him to live with me again, I am very confused. I really thought it was over. NC is good, but we really have to be sure about what we really want. Thanks for your posts.
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