Trevster Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Has anyone Been through a break up abd they really felt lost and hopeless I mean u wet through the begging part and all that but u learned to be a better person and made that significant other come back to you! Like anyone had anyone realize what they had! Like just so there might be hope for people that really feel something about there ex have a positive because it's not what we want to hear is that there done but there are positive people and negative people! But has anyone got back in that relationship with someone you loved at one point through time and it makes y'all stronger!!! Any people out there under this!!!
Steven T Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You can become stronger in the relationship by overcoming your problems but you have to understand further down the road you could fall back into the same problems again. Most of the time it is best to move on.
longterm Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I agree with Steven on this one. However, I think this is an awesome question! I want to see any answers to a good outcome too. A good majority here want our X's back. Hope someone out there has a story behind what they did and how they did it. So many of us give our opinions on matters with the NC, LC, or full goodbyes. Nice to see if someone used this all and did it well. However, from what I have read, those people rarely come back to tell their story. So let's have it!
Author Trevster Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Steven is right but like my life is being transformed into the lords temple! I know the main thing wrong was we both claimed Christianity but were living in sin and I know now the only way a relationship will work is through the lord and if it's not someday like now for me it will fall apart! I have been making myself better through Christ first and I would also pray that I could get a new beginning with this girl I know was god sent well she deleted me off her Facebook and all our pictures but it was negative but yet felt like I was getting what I want to get rid of those bad memories and make new ones in his name! God cab take anyone out of your life but he can bring anyone back and put things on ppls heart! This is helping me as a person but he is making progress for me!!! Proverbs 16:3 if you commit everything you do to the lord your plans will succeed!!! Keeps me positive! Nothing is hopeless in Jesus name but I would like to hear a happy story to warm my heart! Again Jesus won't just give a girl back you have to work on yourself bc he knows what we NEED not want! Anything is possible through Christ!!!
longterm Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Head not your own understanding but leave it all unto Him. Yes, I pray too and whatever is His will, WILL. I'm extremely impatient though and usually this takes a while. I still want to see an outcome from someone that has gotten back together again. Communication! I really dislike the communication breakdown. The real issue here is that true feelings are never given on the break. It's almost as if the person dumping knows what you already feel and doesn't want to hear it. Because the feelings are usually lost on that end anyway. Give us a good story.
Author Trevster Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 It's patience that takes with the lord that's why it takes awhile but again it's a challenge to you because if your really want something a believe you want it you an achieve it through the lord it does take patience some people give up and feel there is no hope but the people willing to trust n the lord will be rewarded! But I'm with you long term I want something good!
Still Searching Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I'll tell you a story. After 1 month NC, and me accepting that she was gone for good, she came back, stating she'd messed up, realized we had alot to work through, that it'd take time and would be very hard, but that she was committed to it 100%. I, of course, ate this up and was overjoyed, because like you, I just wanted her back. This was 2.5 months ago. Today I am on Day 7 of NC after her leaving again 2 weeks ago. I am still trying to figure out where things went wrong, but I give partial credit to the death of her dog and Grandma, which placed extra stress on her, as well as the fact that she turned 21 a month ago (This likely opened up a whole new world for her). I'm 24, and past the party stage, btw. I could feel her pulling away after just one month, no longer making efforts to see me, making high level decisions on her own, and basically planning a future that I didn't see myself a part of. In my opinion, there was a reason she left the first time, and apparently that reason still exists. To me, she got too comfortable too quickly and relaxed, not making the conscious efforts to fix what were initial problems, thus leading to more arguments and a return to what we had before. With that comes a renewed loss of hope and the affirmation that it'll never work. (Again, to me, of course it won't work if you don't put in the effort!) Maybe I'm biased, but if she left once, it'll only be easier the second time, and it'll only be harder on you. I feel resentment for her coming back, almost as if she "teased" me with a bit more time with her, instead of just staying gone when she left the first time. Like others have said, go NC, for you and no one else. If she does come back, give it some serious thought before you go thinking that all is well again. Understand her reasoning for coming back. Do I believe in reconciliation? Yes, but it takes two people on the same page with the same goals. We seemed to have those same goals, but I now feel she came back out of loneliness, and now the bar scene has given her new attention and opportunity, and so I'm not needed any longer. Just my .02, for what it's worth.
aypforever Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 When ny parents had been dating a while, my dad said he needed to date other people. He hadn't dated much, so I guess he wanted to do so before settling down. Well, that lasted a few months before he realized he had something better. They have now been married for almost 30 years. Like others said, both people need to be on the same page. Both need to communicate what they want. This really goes for any relationship though. I have also had friends that have gotten together with their exes only to realize it wasn't going to work out. I hate the saying, but if its meant to be, it will happen. Most of the time its not meant to be.
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