iwanttolive Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I'm frustrated over his codependency as he has no friends and thus feels bored all the time. He demands too much of my attention and time. How about you??
Ross MwcFan Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Sounds as though it could put a bit of a strain on the relationship. Have you spoken to him about it? I don't have a partner at the moment.
Author iwanttolive Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Yes, I have. He said he would work on it. He equates the need for having time alone to myself with not loving him enough.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Yes, I have. He said he would work on it. He equates the need for having time alone to myself with not loving him enough. I would've thought any adult would understand that people always need some alone time sometimes. I could be totally wrong here, so just take it with a pinch of salt, but maybe he does realise that everyone needs some alone time sometimes, and he's just saying the not loving him thing, to try and manipulate you into allowing him to carry on doing what he's doing?
Kelemort Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 My boyfriend has his own hobbies. I don't really have many of my own extracurriculars at the moment - I'm a freelance writer. I uh...donate blood sometimes. But I do go out with my own friends, or I visit family, play with my pets, etc. A lot of my time lately is spent cleaning the apartment x.x I can't imagine claiming that he "doesn't love me" because he has extracurriculars a few nights a week. That's only when it's been almost a week or more and I haven't been laid. But I digress - My boyfriend is sometimes emotionally unavailable. But really the sex has been the biggest issue in our relationship. I got tired of having to beg for it, and that's still a silent war in our relationship. Probably our biggest issue. As for your boyfriend, not much you can do other than try new hobbies with him and encourage him to go out and forge his own. Maybe have a small get-together and invite your friends to invite a friend of theirs to bring so you can all mingle with some newbies.
quankanne Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 when my husband goes into his stubborn-jackass mode. Oh, and the whole Chicken Little thing, as triggered by talk radio – very, very annoying because he tries to suck me into it. I don't do paranoia!
mark982 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 all my wife talks about, is her job. no friends,hobbies--unless u count games on the comnputer as a hobby, and the usual stupid tv shows.
GottaGetAway Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 He wants to see me all the time...which is nice, in theory, but he can be pushy about it. He tends to demand to know when he can see me next when either of us is heading home. I'm in school, I'm job hunting, and I have a lot of other responsibilities. And FRIENDS that I want to see. Not a deal breaker but frustrating and uncomfortable.
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