xbexy87x Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Ok HELP! I havn't started NC with him as of yet but I am going to. BUT have any of you guys been out on the night out and afraid of running into your ex or have you actually ran into your ex? Im going out on Sat night with my friends and my ex is also going out too. Now we can't avoid each other, it's not a big town we live in. Just the 'strip' if any of you guys don't know what it is then bascially it is a long street of bars and a club. Now what do I do in this situation. How do I act around him? Do I approach him? Ignore him? Just smile and act cool and walk on by? Or do I act as a friend, smile, let him come to me and just talk with him but cut it short? If he sees me with another guy talking etc. do I act confident and beautiful? That my ex isnt bothering me the slightest there he is there? Or do I stop the flirting with other guys infront of him? Etc. Just don't want him to feel like im winding him up or trying to make him jealous ya know. Now I havnt seen him getting with another girl yet. I dont want to and never want to experience it. Any advice if I do see him talking to another girl, kissing them or leaving with them? Advice will be muchly appreciated! P.s I have seen him up town once before a good few weeks ago. He approached me giving me this cute little evil face we used to do to each other when we were togther. Anyway I was keeping my cool and not having a full blown conversation with him, he thought I was ignoring him so he stormed off out of the bar and ignored me for the rest of the night whenever I saw him. :-/
Fufu Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Ok HELP! I havn't started NC with him as of yet but I am going to. Do start NC as soon as possible, the more you delay, you will not be doing yourself a favor. =========================================================== BUT have any of you guys been out on the night out and afraid of running into your ex or have you actually ran into your ex? Im going out on Sat night with my friends and my ex is also going out too. Now we can't avoid each other, it's not a big town we live in. Just the 'strip' if any of you guys don't know what it is then bascially it is a long street of bars and a club. In the past, I was worry I will bump into my ex, however, right now, even if I saw him, I won't feel heart ache anymore. If you do see him, you don't have to say anything to him if you are still feeling uncomfortable. Just have fun with your friends and don't care about whether you will see him or not. ========================================================= Now what do I do in this situation. How do I act around him? Do I approach him? Ignore him? Just smile and act cool and walk on by? Or do I act as a friend, smile, let him come to me and just talk with him but cut it short? Just be yourself. BUT definitely no talking. Because right now you are still emotional and you won't be able to process logically from your mind. If he comes and say hi to you, you can just say a short hi and make your way out to another area, don't even talk to him about the followings. - How are you doing - What have you been up to - Do you miss me? - Nothing about relationships ========================================================= If he sees me with another guy talking etc. do I act confident and beautiful? That my ex isnt bothering me the slightest there he is there? Or do I stop the flirting with other guys infront of him? Etc. Just don't want him to feel like im winding him up or trying to make him jealous ya know. Just be yourself, now you are single, enjoy your single hood. The more you try to act, the more uncomfortable you feel. He chose to leave the relationship remember? Therefore you don't have to act anymore, just be yourself. ========================================================= Now I havnt seen him getting with another girl yet. I dont want to and never want to experience it. Any advice if I do see him talking to another girl, kissing them or leaving with them? Well, if you saw him doing the kissing to another girl, be happy and proud of yourself that your not with him anymore If he talks to another girl, let him be because the fact is you guys are no longer couple. You are single now, enjoy the single hood moments, have fun with your friends, don't over think too much. You are going for a night out, it's supposed to be fun and happy and enjoying and not about how you need to act and behavior if you saw him. ========================================================= P.s I have seen him up town once before a good few weeks ago. He approached me giving me this cute little evil face we used to do to each other when we were togther. Anyway I was keeping my cool and not having a full blown conversation with him, he thought I was ignoring him so he stormed off out of the bar and ignored me for the rest of the night whenever I saw him. :-/ Just let him be.
Popondetta Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) I bumped into my ex during the period where he was taking time to consider what he wanted (commitment issues and not sure what he wanted). We were in NC. I was totally shocked but as I walked past him in the bar I poked him on the shoulder (all of his friends had seen me so it would be ridiculous to not say hi). He looked shocked to see me too. I just told him that me and my friends would go to another bar because there were no seats available in this bar (that's a lie, I just wanted to get out of there because of him beeing there). He asked me if I wanted to have a cigarette outside first and I accepted. I tried to act normally, but it was hard, especially since I was waiting for him to decide on things and he just told me he had nothing new to say with regards to that. I was devastadet afterwards even if we were both friendly towards eachother. It was just strange to not be able to hang out with him and just leave him there like we'd never been together. Well, back to the advice for you!; I definitely wouldn't ignore him because that would just make you look upset and like you cannot handle the situation. Just be prepared that you might see him, say hi to him, smile and walk calmly past him (if that's the scenario). That makes you look like you're in control. With regards to other guys and flirting; if there's a guy that is interesting then you should definitely talk to that guy but don't do too much obvious flirting and touching etc, that others can see cause that might seem like you just want a reaction from your ex. Best of luck to you!!! Edit: And make sure you look gorgeous!!!! Edited April 8, 2011 by Popondetta extra information
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