nana841121 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Guys! I am not sure it's my own problem or it's really low. My ex-BF left me and found a brand-new girlfriend who is 18-year-old we were in NC for more than two months, then he contacted me, we met for one time. i have no intention to make up with him , and i am not sure his intention. whatever it is. it doesn't matter. my question is : i think his hooking up with his 18-year-old student is a low thing which signify his not-so-good taste i need some answer. do you guys think this is low/ it's not the age issue. it's just a freshman is really too innocent and immature for me. Help me sort out this question , please
BeginAgain Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 If it was sex for grades then there would be a problem. Otherwise they are two consenting adults and therefore there is nothing wrong. 18 year old girls are never innocent unless they were cloistered in a nunnery since age 6 and have never seen a man or been sexual with a girl.
Author nana841121 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 If it was sex for grades then there would be a problem. Otherwise they are two consenting adults and therefore there is nothing wrong. 18 year old girls are never innocent unless they were cloistered in a nunnery since age 6 and have never seen a man or been sexual with a girl. Thanks for replying so fast. What do you think of this man ? I have to present some of my background. i am chinese. In china, before college, we spent most of our time on study and prepartion of college entrance exam. i don't know what he sees in this girl. a local freshman girl is really innocent.
Fufu Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 It's his own business already, therefore you don't have to take it into heart who he's dating. Keep up to your NC and move on You can do it.
BeginAgain Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Thanks for replying so fast. What do you think of this man ? I have to present some of my background. i am chinese. In china, before college, we spent most of our time on study and prepartion of college entrance exam. i don't know what he sees in this girl. a local freshman girl is really innocent. She's a woman and physically attractive at least to him. That's really all it takes for any man to be interested in any woman. Is this happening in China? Are they both Chinese?
Author nana841121 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Yes, we are all chinese. Then it might be my problem , i am a judgemental person I think he humiliated me. Cause Freshman is equal to a highschooler for you If it's only physical attraction, i think the man is low
Author nana841121 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 It's his own business already, therefore you don't have to take it into heart who he's dating. Keep up to your NC and move on You can do it. Thank you FUFU,you are a professional now. I read many of your advices
Fufu Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Thanks Nana, I'm not a professional. I learned lots from this wonderful forum. You are a strong lady and I do believe you will walk out of this unpleasant moment soon. "If it's only physical attraction, i think the man is low" You can take this as a motivational quote for yourself
Author nana841121 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 She's a woman and physically attractive at least to him. That's really all it takes for any man to be interested in any woman. Is this happening in China? Are they both Chinese? Yes, this law also works in china. Before, i thought he is a man with deep thoughts. You know , he always boasts about his knowledge and claims himself as a genius. But according to my acquintaince with him. i think he is rather a diffident person. It's normal for man fall for younger woman, i just never expect it would happen to him. I overestimate him Or it's just man's nature? He once told me that he loved a girl in a deep and furtive way. But it was pure spiritual, he didn't have physcial reaction to this woman he loved Any male advice for that?
Flgirl44 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 For me it is about the age difference...he's a creep.
Author nana841121 Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 It has been a while since i post this thread, today , i saw my own post at the first page, i want to add some update about this issue. EX called me during these days, i answered, chatted for a while like just friends, it's my problem, i have a tendency to avoid awkward moment. Even i was festered inside, i kept cool in front of him. i asked him , is it because of the physical attraction stuff that he chooses his student. he said he didn't know exactly, he emphasized that it's the girl who chased him in the first place, and she is not as pretty as i am. i felt repulsive when i heard that.and meanwhile i felt sorry for him he might be in a rebound relationship. my gut feeling is right , he doesn't deserve me.
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