callsign Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Well, this evening was another heartbreaker. Somebody, please. Tell me if they have ever gone through this before. Here is the story. My girlfriend, who is dealing with a clinical depression and who has been "hard to find" lately, shows up at my door, looks in my eyes and says nothing. For a good long time. Then, it is "I have nothing to give you, but I am dying inside. Make love to me and then I will go home. I just want to feel alive." Having been going throught this with her the past 2 months, I suggest we had better just sit quietly together and talk. No one close, ie. in love, with a depressed person can watch this and not be affected. Well, we end up in the sack and of course it doesn't go well. I'm upset, she is struggling and as much as we want to connect and as much as I love her, it all ends up badly. It ends up with "I knew I shouldn't have come over here. "No I say, wait, sit with me, we don't have to talk. I'm not a therapist, I don't know what to say, but I can hold you. I am here for you. Let me help, if only to listen." In response I get, "you drive me crazy with questions I can't answer, and you keep asking." "Well, then I will say nothing, but I love you very much. I just want to help." Then, comes "I can't promise you how I will feel whe I come out of this. If you want to be a friend, OK, but now I have nothing to give." OK I say. Let me then be a resource you can use. Love is so blind. I know how pathetic that sounds, but at one time she really did act as though she really loved me. I finally trusted someone after a terribly hurtful divorce, well the marriage was terrible too, and this is what I get. The gods must be laughing at me now.
thatdog Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Yeah damaged goods. So easy to love a girl like that but so unhealthy. I've been there man and I feel for you. There's not much you can do other then try to be there for her. in my case it didn't work out and she dumped me. Not before staying long enough to turn me into an emotional wreck as well though . If you really care about her that much then do what she asks and do what you can for her, but always keep in mind that things are probably going to end badly sometime soon so make sure you know your own breaking point and get out if you have to before she destroys you.
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