3.5 years, almost engaged..now break, but we CAN see other people for a week or so?

[felltoohard4her]

hey everyone, first post on her. I ran across this website, tonight trying to find answers. I did in ways, good and bad.

 

heres the story.

 

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and 8 months. This past weekend, she wanted to go to a party with her friend, well she kinda try to hide it to me, in my eyes, in hers, she figured i knew she was. She originally told me she was going to UC to hang out with her friend jordyn(girl) and jordyns friend greg. Right then I knew it was a party, so she was right to figure i knew it was a party, but she wasnt upfront and honest with me. Long story short, i got mad, what caring boyfriend would right?...well Sunday roles around, after i get off we talk. she says we need a break, but we can see other people, therefore were friends and single...so i say isnt that a breakup?...she said her definition of a break is that, my definition is a break is when 2 people stay together but take time apart, and dont see other people?...i dont know. She said give her about a week or so to think. I was left at that, until tonight(4 days later) Her friend told her that she should call me and fully explain and clear up everything as to why were in this. so she said it has been kind of a mixture of recently and the past 3.5 years. Anyways we talk and i try like crazy to persuade her to come back to me. not budging. lol. Im very hurt and confused by this whole thing, I dont know what to do, everyone says to give her, her time and we should be good. It has been a surprise and dissapointment to mine and hers families and friends, because we seemed so perfect and everyone knew we were getting married. she says she still loves me, but its best to not say it right now, due to it being too hard for both of us. She said there isnt a guy, and that she has been making guy friends. I love this girl with all my heart and i dont want to lose her over something so simple and stupid. something i should have changed a while ago i guess?...keep in mind, she is a very needy girl, and thinks i dont have time for her aswell.....i just need to know what i need to do, to hopefully keep the woman i was so close to asking to marry me within the next couple months http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/icons/icon9.gif.....please help me!!!!

[Fufu]

If she says she wants a break, give it to her.

 

Don't contact her at all.

 

Just leave her alone first.

[VJohnson32]

You really cant do much when they drop that bomb on you. How old is she? Young women tend to have change of heart pretty much constantly throughout their evolvement.

[felltoohard4her]

she is 20..i am 21...fell in love when she was 17, i was 18

[timchambo]

100% its another guy. Just my gut. You don't change your mind like that all of a sudden. If she is "meeting" new guys, then one of those has caught her interest. Let her go for now. It will be hard, but the best thing is a clean break with no contact. It will be incredibly hard, but the best change of her not sleeping with another guy. By the time she thinks about dropping her panties, she would have you on her mind. No guaranties, but this story is WAY to familiar to me.

[nana841121]

she is 20..i am 21...fell in love when she was 17, i was 18

 

Young love is characterized with unstability.

she doesn't know what she lost until you give her some break moments.

if she comeso back, win-win

if she doesn't , fine by you. cause you just lost someone who doesn't love you anymore.