denise_xo Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You are cute in a nerdy-hip sort of way. You're also way too young for me. Ditto. I think you look good and there's nothing about your physical features that would make me not want to date you.
Dlyrica Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I think you're cute! and you're British! Come to the US and I'm sure your accent will have atleast a couple girls intrigued
Titania22 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I know that personality is important in attraction but looks are clearly important as you wouldn't date someone who looked repulsive. So given that I'm 22 and never had a gf (or even come close) would you even consider dating me or am I so repulsive that personality doesn't even come in to it? http://imagebin.org/146811 I think your cute. I "awwwed" when I saw your photo. In other words, you are the opposite of repulsive.
LexiB Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I think you're pretty cute! Definitely agree with the others about the hipster thing. You actually remind me of that kid that plays "Stan" on the US version of Skins. Just lose the glasses and do something different with your hair - change the part and grow it a little longer. ...it would also help if you didn't look quite so miserable, but one step at a time!
EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) I know that personality is important in attraction but looks are clearly important as you wouldn't date someone who looked repulsive. So given that I'm 22 and never had a gf (or even come close) would you even consider dating me or am I so repulsive that personality doesn't even come in to it? http://imagebin.org/146811 Personally, I like the glasses and hair. And your facial features are inherently attractive. You look exactly like the nice and non-traditional good-looking guy (at least to a late teen/early 20s aged woman) who gets looked over early in life, but has no problems attracting women later on. You do look young young young to me, and while that may not help you now...it will later. And the great thing about it is that because you have genuinely good features, you will become even more attractive as you age...where many other "traditionally hot" guys (again, to a late teen/early 20 year old girl) will lose their looks. With that being said. Personality and confidence are super important...so just try to realize that you are a good looking guy, and try to not let the lack of girls throwing themselves at you right now get you down or shake your confidence. It'll get better as you continue to mature. =) Edited April 8, 2011 by EyesWideOpen
orangelady Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I like the hair!!! So thick. Wanna play with it. (Sorry OP, don't mean to objectify you ) You know, I don't know where you live but you totally have a hipster thing going for you. Do you, by any chance, live in a city with a big hipster scene? You should hook up with the OP. LOL.
westernxer Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You're not a bad looking guy. Might want to change your shirt though and smile a bit more.
Sivok Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 This is what i tell all guys with long hair. Long hair is an aphrodisiac to a lot of women, but takes alot more effort to make it look good. Go to a decent salon and learn how to style it, because right now it's a mess
bac Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I know that personality is important in attraction but looks are clearly important as you wouldn't date someone who looked repulsive. So given that I'm 22 and never had a gf (or even come close) would you even consider dating me or am I so repulsive that personality doesn't even come in to it? http://imagebin.org/146811 You are hot to me. I can not date you because I am older than you. But, I would love to be your FWBs.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You should hook up with the OP. LOL. I know! But I'm too old for OP and already taken. I'm totally into his kind of look (and have always been into his kind of look). I even dated a guy who looked kind of like him. That guy totally broke my heart and is the reason why I got addicted to LS, back in 2006. A younger me is your target demographic OP. We are out there. And seeing how this thread is turning out, there are many of us out there.
orangelady Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) You're not a bad looking guy. Might want to change your shirt though and smile a bit more. Yeah, hair and specs is fine if you won't want it short. Maybe wear a nice sky blue shirt. Gosh I love picking clothes for men! Edited April 8, 2011 by orangelady
Kelemort Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Long hair on a man is sexy When I was younger, the thought of men with long hair grossed me out. My ex grew his hair out a little and I was sad when he cut it - it was attractive! Current boyfriend has been growing his hair out for nearly 10 or 11 years. He has a nice, thick head of strawberry blond hair. It's gorgeous. People compliment him on it often. Men in my family go bald young (late teens to early 20s) - boyfriend still has a thick head of hair with no signs of waning and he's pushing 30. I'm also blond and my hair's thin - so maybe it'll balance out and any kids we have might have normal-ish hair Oh, but to the point - you are an attractive person. I think you're erroneously making the assumption that because you're 22 and you don't have a girlfriend, it's because of how you look. It's tough not to do - when I got into college and I wasn't dating, I assumed it was because I was overweight. But the only guys I've ever dated have been thin - I guess it didn't bother them that much. Some of the biggest problems I've encountered in or outside of a relationship is low self-esteem. I've been on the receiving end of somebody's low self-esteem - he dealt with it by putting me down and making comments about my weight. Back then, I didn't recognize it for what it was. Now that I'm older, I see that he just wanted to keep me at or below his self-esteem level because he was scared that I was going to leave him. Did you come from an abusive or otherwise dysfunctional home life, OP? Not that self-esteem issues pertain only to people from those sorts of situations, but I grew up with a narcissistic mother and that has impacted my romantic relationships in a big way. I always (and still do to some extent) felt the need to turn to the opposite sex to validate my worth, attractiveness, etc. When I first started dating, I thought that my problems were all solved - he was going to make me feel secure, loved, needed and wanted like nobody else before! But it doesn't happen that way. True, you don't want to date someone who totally ignores you, doesn't love you, etc. But I have been in relationships where the other person poured their heart out. It was glaringly obvious to everyone but me that he was deeply in love. And I just pushed him away - I guess because deep down I wanted to be hated, disliked, perceived as unattractive. Accepting that he could feel that way about me meant that I had to trust him and risk getting mowed down in the future if anything went awry. Until you can learn to love yourself, until you can learn to at least accept that you are flawed just like anyone else, you will struggle every inch of the way when it comes to getting a girlfriend and then maintaining that relationship. It is a hard road to go along. There are still many days when I feel so terrible about myself that it's hard to find the motivation to go on with my life. But I had my own life before my boyfriend and I will continue to have it with him and even possibly after him. I am not something or special or attractive just because I'm dating. And just because you haven't dated yet doesn't mean you aren't attractive. Honestly? You are physically attractive. Based on looks alone, I would date you. But as it is, my self-esteem is down in the dumps enough - I'm not sure I could handle helping someone else out of their trench. Too often people aren't single because they're ugly, but because they don't get out enough, know how to socialize with the opposite sex, or don't go to places where someone in a similar demographic is likely to be located.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 If I were way younger, I'd be all over you. That said, my daughter (teenager) thinks you are good looking as well. The only thing working against you is your inability to believe that women would find you attractive.
LexiB Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 This is what i tell all guys with long hair. Long hair is an aphrodisiac to a lot of women, but takes alot more effort to make it look good. Go to a decent salon and learn how to style it, because right now it's a mess Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding! Agree 100 percent, especially with the bolded. Long hair makes me :love:
LexiB Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Here's a link to the picture of that actor I mentioned before.... http://btrax.blogspot.com/2011/02/skins-us-you-would-always-be-in-bed-if.html Both of you are too young for me but still absolutely adorable.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Looks like plenty of women find you attractive, mate.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You're not ugly at all! You have the chance to date a cute girl. Just look at the girls around you.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Yeah uhh... ya'll are into some geeky men. I have to admit my exH was nerdy but he didn't look it at least I guess the OP is just too "Euro" or "hipster" for me. Definitely too young I guess I like "normal" looking guys more I'm gonna get out of OPs fan club now before I get stoned *poof*
Kamille Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Yeah uhh... ya'll are into some geeky men. I have to admit my exH was nerdy but he didn't look it at least I guess the OP is just too "Euro" or "hipster" for me. Definitely too young I guess I like "normal" looking guys more I'm gonna get out of OPs fan club now before I get stoned *poof* Hipster-hater.
Author muscularliberal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 I think one of the reasons for my low self-esteem is that many people have called me ugly...
westernxer Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I think one of the reasons for my low self-esteem is that many people have called me ugly... Young people say things like that. Don't let it get to you. In a few years they'll probably be the ugly ones.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I think one of the reasons for my low self-esteem is that many people have called me ugly... Same thing has happened to me. Yet at the same time sometimes I've been called good looking. So, I've basically got no idea whether I'm good looking, ugly, or what.
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