danko Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 (edited) Hi, My girlfriend is thinking about getting back to me, but before she does that, she wants to have a revenge sex with a guy she has been talking to for a a month now, because I cheated on her while back. I was wondering, should I let her do that? Or should I do anything to stop her from doing so? Please advise. Edited April 7, 2011 by danko
loverboy1984 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 No you shouldnt allow that. Yea it seems hypocritical and a double standard but if the two of you want to truly start fresh and work on a new stronger more honest relationship then it has to start now. There is no room for revenge. I was in the same situation and I realized that cheating is not the way to go and promised myself I wont do it. I even forgave my ex gf for kissing a guy just because she had taken me back before. But I would not get back with her if she told me hold up while I do one guy. No way. The fundamentals of a relationship are trust, honesty,respect, communication, and love. If you want to have this person back you must offer this and get it in return or else there is no point. Tell her You know you messed up and promise to be different. Show her how much you care and tell her revenge sex will not only hurt you but it will be meaningless to her. Sex for a guy can be about a feeling, but for a women there has to be a connection and chemistry. She will not be able to fully enjoy it with him or you if one of the other is on her mind. Tell her shes welcome to go do that but it wont make her feel better and that you will lose respect for her. If you both care to work it out you will both come to the table like mature people and make it work. How can you touch her and see her face and not imagine how she felt when the other guy was screwing her. You will always be comparing yourself and feel insecure and ask her how you are compared to him. It will be a miserable relationship. Stand your ground. Say you want to work it out and you are serious and committed. And will make her happy in every way but she needs to be in it for real. If shes not then theres no point. let her go.
smudge21 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 So she left you for cheating on her, and before she comes back she wants to have sex with someone because it's what you did??? I do wonder how some people actually attract others... Okay, you screwed up, she left, it was over. Now she wants to come back but first wants to annoy the hell out of you. Is she gonna' take pictures and rub it in your face too? Seriously dude, what the hell!!! If your cheating was a mistake and a one off and she's willing to come back then fair enough, good luck to you both. But then she's cheating openly and by choice and wanting you to know all about it. Surely you can see what is wrong with this picture! She either forgives you and comes back, or doesn't. By having revenge sex it's definitely a case of she's never gonna' let you forget this and she's not really forgiven you. I personally think you should both be looking elsewhere.
Author danko Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Has anyone got into a relationship with a rebound guy or revenge sex partners?
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